Worst things people say/ask when you’ve had a child

[Wonderingmum77]

People say/ask such weird RANDOM things when you’ve had a baby. Some very very inconsiderate. I’ve just had one and I want to rant..

• after my c section my dad said “do you think you love your baby the same as he wasn’t born naturally”
• people ALWAYS want to know how much DC sleeps? And then seem disappointed when I say fine? Do u get a kick out of it if I say badly??
• sleep when the baby sleeps is the worst advice!
• Whenever DC makes a slight noise someone will go “HES HUNGRY”
• People comparing my DC to others. He was premie, so of course is v different to babies his age.
• people constantly telling me I need to be extra careful because DC was prem. he is now a thriving 11lb baby… if he wasn’t prem does that mean I could be less careful?
• the constant “is your baby warm enough” in 25 degree heat.
• When people say “oh he is so moany” when he makes a noise because he wants to be sat up looking around and they want to hold him like a little newborn,
• “in my day we done that and it was just fine….”
• the contradiction of “every baby is very different” and the guidelines of how to look after children are so regimented.

RANT OVER

This.

*Keybo
Most people are just making conversation. They don’t care how your baby slept, it’s like talking about the weather.*

Yep Agree.

Really don’t see what’s weird about this. Many two year olds go to nursery and you could easily have chosen to allow him to eat meat there.

Not sure this is true. As when asking about the weather people don’t generally start Telling you how to get better weather at your house. Or to make the weather last longer. Or how amazing/crap their weather is

I would say to defend all of us experienced mothers that I come across (deal with new low income parents through work) parents who seem to act as if having children is brand new, you need a whole load of very expensive equipment otherwise you are neglecting dc and generally they act as if they are somewhat special and need to be treated accordingly.

Actually our children were just fine before sleeping bags, perfect prep machines and digital thermometers. And they hadn't invented extended rear facing car seats so don't look astonished when I say I didn't use one.

"Will you try again to have a boy?"

Still give me the rage, years later. There's nothing wrong my my dd!

Lol, I always refer to it as babysitting when DH does it.

I think it's any time I would normally have the kids and he is taking them. So if it's the regular Monday slot he's just 'getting DD from nursery and giving her tea' but if it's a night he doesn't normally do, it's 'babysitting'.

Lots of people on here seem to get annoyed at this though, it's not just you.

The "in my day" stuff grates so much. When telling my MIL I was having trouble finding maternity clothing that fitted nicely she said "well in my day we just wore big loose dresses because that was the done thing and everyone was happy, now everyone just wants to show off their huge bumps". No woman, I'm not trying to be Rihanna over here, I just want to find a comfortable pair of trousers so I don't look like a slob when I go to work. I have no intention of walking around in a smock just because you don't give a shit how you look.

He needs a hat.

I'm well aware of this. If you want to superglue a hat to his head, be my guest. Otherwise, trust that I'm keeping him out of the sun and he's wearing favour 50.

Oh good god, hats! There was a heatwave when DS was about 3 months old, and I was really worried about him overheating, even just in a nappy. DM still thought he needed a hat

Winter hat, that is. Not a sunhat. One of those little white baby caps

He’s going to be a nightmare...

and if he is will you be getting up ... no I will be

Most people are just trying to be nice, we’ve probably all said something a bit cringe without realising.

As an adopter I was asked if I bought our daughter from India, erm no, and wrong nationality.

Or things like “ah did you pick that one because shes a girl” erm no, not bothered in the slightest whether a child is a boy or girl and we didn’t pick her, it isn’t a case of browsing the shelves in asda.

We do both get quite a bit “but which one is mummy” erm neither of us, thats kind of the point, or there are sometimes follow up questions like “but who changes her nappy, who will do her hair etc”.

We’ve had people attempting to be really nice by saying she looks like both of us, her and her papa may both be human, but hes white, blue eyed and blond haired, she is brown, brown eyes and jet black hair with completely different features. Its okay to be honest, they look nothing alike.

As long as they have all their fingers and toes when I said we didn't know if #3 was a boy or girl.

#2 was born without her left arm, and yes, the speaker was fully aware of this.

Same here - and one of the people who asked “are they identical?” was a nurse! They didn’t even look the slightest bit alike.

If DH was holding DD and I was holding DS, we’d get people saying “aaah, daddy’s girl and mummy’s boy!” Uh no, they didn’t choose which one of us held them when they were a few weeks old 🙄