Anyone else done with work but to young to retire?!

[tinyangel]

Simply, by brain and body do not want to go to work anymore. They want to flit about the house, do the school runs and not concentrate on the things they should do.

I work a mix of remote and in the office, part-time, but have worked solidly for the last 32 years (older mum 😉) and feel that my brain has just stopped wanting to do work stuff. Zero interest. I've looked at alternative roles in my industry and also looked at a complete change of career but my corporate oomph has gone.

Could be the menopause, could be post covid but I am never normally affected mentally by issues.... anyone else?

Me. My part time job was pretty steady before covid. I worked my arse off from home during the pandemic whilst home-schooling, like so many others did. Now the work/home life boundary lines are blurred, boss disturbs me on days I don’t work and she thinks that’s ok, because they gave me a laptop to wfh. Had enough and could easily spend my time pottering at home, decorating the house and volunteering more at school and the community library. Think maybe I need to look for a new job and have a change.

Yes! So bored. Like so many I have worked a good 25 years now (mid forties) and I'm over it.
I am also trapped as I have a part time, well paid for office type job and very little stress. It suits life with my DD's and the company is generally fair and good to work for.
I've just got no interest and I'm on HRT so I know it's not menopausal fatigue.
I think overall people are fed up after Covid and all the negative things going on cost of living etc. People seem to have way less fucks to give in general.

Me.
48.
Teacher in AP.
Mortgage paid off.
Cannot be arsed any more.

I want to write, garden, do yoga, fitness, swimming, draw…

Covid was good for me in that it allowed us to work from home (shit in other ways of course) and now we work in a hybrid way - the thought of going back to a commute five days a week makes me feel quite tearful as I just don’t have the energy. Plus I no longer have to spend whole days or hours travelling to pointless meetings, I can dip in and out on Teams. Im 53 and pretty sure it’s the menopause with me - can’t take HRT, but do exercise, keep my weight down and got a dog recently which has been brilliant has I’ve got to know so many lovely people through it.

I just cba with work, but the mortgage needs to be paid and my pension needs built up after many years of working p/t when the DC were little.

I hate working and I've 15 years to go. Loathe the corporate bullshit, the arseholes, groundhog day etc. I want to sit and paint, potter around and do my own thing in peace and quiet. Unfortunately, I'll have to keep going as I can't afford not to. No property owned, no savings as life likes to dump shit on me. I can't reach my full potential as the world isn't neurodiverse friendly enough, so I'll just grit my teeth and continue.

Me! I'm late 30s, on paper have a great job, nice colleagues but I just can't be arsed! I really can't be arsed!!! Some days I don't do anything, I just listen to podcasts and drink coffee. What a way to spend our lives 😑

I could probably afford to pack it in, at least for a year while I figure out what next.

But something is stopping me. Guilt? Fear? Protestant work ethic?

yeh, 67 is 15 years to go.
I can't retire early as my pension wouldn't have enough cons. I worked abroad for over a decade. I need to have at least 25 years in my country and then transfer in nearly 10 from the UK.

I know what you mean. Whilst I don’t miss work I miss the interactions with it. I think if I went back to work it would be something similar.

I am SE and dont earn much. (Though currently taking some time out). Job is good but yes the grind is wearing! But I put everything I earned into pensions… I’m determined to retire asap.

I’ve taken a break and realise that if we live more frugally - we can retire earlier!

big problem is that the kids are so young still and so expensive at the moment…

I could have written this! So reassuring to find it’s not just me. Peri-menopause, post lockdown, frustrating situation at work following a re-structure. CBA, but need the money with kids and a mortgage. Only 17 years to go…

It's hard to keep going at times with personal interests - getting things to the stage where it's a viable income (I feel like there's a mountain to climb!), so I probably sound more positive than what I feel, and like everyone else, I'm not happy about the retirement age being pushed further and further away... we're all just going to be totally knackered by the time we get there aren't we. Let's hope for some lottery wins! I'm off to buy a cheap summer duvet, might buy a cheeky £1 scratch card on my way back - you never know!!

Wishing you, and everyone else on this thread, a swift working week, @tinyangel 🌼

Ahh yes, know what you mean. Maybe that's what holds people back though, perhaps it is that sense of guilt if we're not 9-5ing, slaving away. Other people go for it, why not you? What would you do if you worked for yourself?

I've felt like this for years so not a Covid thing. Most work (or too big a proportion of lots of jobs) is pointless. I'm quite well-paid and in a "good" and, theoretically, interesting job. But I'm faking it about 80% of the time. Acting like a working person.

I find these threads reassuring as I realise most of the older people I work with almost certainly feel the same way. It's a shame we can't be more open about it. "We know we'd all rather do something else so let's make this as good as it can be to get the job done and not piss each other off and get worked up about who has/hasn't completed another pointless spreadsheet/joined another pointless meeting".

@AlisonDonut

"We don't work in France, in fact we didn't want the hassle of setting up new businesses as it needs permission from the local prefecture of the need for that business in the area, before you can get your visa so we just retired."

Have you both got EU passports? Wondering how you're managing to retire to France otherwise.

No...see post on 4/7 at 15:52.

Yes, I got your quote from that post. Was wondering how you could retire to France without an EU passport.

A TLS-TS visa. Which when you get here you register and it turns into a residence permit. You renew each year for 5 and then you get a Carte de sejour. And it means you can then work if you want to.

VLS-TS...typo sorry.

www.welcometofrance.com/en/fiche/long-stay-visa-equivalent-to-a-residence-permit-vls-ts

Ah, right, thanks. Good to know. So the VLS-TS for 12 months and "apply for a residence permit at a prefecture two months prior to its expiry, in order to extend their period in France".

uk.ambafrance.org/France-sets-out-post-Brexit-residence-rights-for-UK-nationals

It becomes a residence permit as soon as you verify it but pretty much, yes.

Yes me. As a single parent I feel trapped as I need to support everyone so have no choice but the daily grind. Would be so much easier with two wages coming into the house and another pair hands for everything at home 😞

@AlisonDonut but assuming one moves now, you cannot apply for this visa unless you are a company director etc. What happens if you need to access healthcare or education?

Me too.
I've got a well paid job. Not quite the mythical MN 3 figure salary but not far off. It's not massively difficult, my boss thinks I'm doing a great job. But I'm not giving it anywhere near my best and I feel bad about it. Im 56 and plan to finish at 60 but find myself fantasising about being offered redundancy.
Im done with it, everyone wants to do exciting shiny things and I'm just worn out with it. I can't generate the enthusiasm. I blame covid, the last 2 years have been relentless and all about coping and managing things to make sure we can still operate safely. I can't quite readjust it get my mojo back. I worked so hard to get where I am, so weird that I don't seem to care that much any more

@cashmerecardigans at 53 I’m in the same ballpark & I could have written your post. I was always so interested & driven. Now I just want it to be over.