What’s the worst racist incident you have experienced?

[Hope54321]

I’ve had quite a few:

Students in secondary school have pulled my hijab off.

After the 9/11 a group of boys threw paper balls at me and shouted “Taliban” at me.

The day after a terror attack in London, a man pulled his window down and called me a dumb whore. There was no one else around.

Walking back from school, a man told me, “Go back to your own country”.

On my way to college, I got on the bus and a woman said, “I don’t know why you would want to draw attention to yourself by wearing that”.

My son was targeted by asians who were bullying him, often calling him "white boy" and offering him to fight them

My Russian neighbour has been racially abusing our neighbour who is Afro Caribbean. She's been given a caution by the police for being racially abusive & will be charged if she does it again. This is a 35yr old woman who works in a professional capacity for an international bank.

Although I'm not white she's not been racist towards me yet but has been doing some underhand tactics instead. She's swept rubbish onto my drive & recently put a dead rat in my bin. She has stopped trespassing onto my drive way since I got a ring doorbell. Fortunately she's moving soon because she told told another neighbour that she didn't want to live next to coloured people.

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I bought a Groupon deal for eye lash extensions in Glasgow and it turned out the place was in predominantly Asian area which I wasn't familiar with at all. After the treatment I stood outside the shop and waited on a taxi when a group of men stood and gave me dirty looks. I was only in my early twenties and extremely confused as to what was going on. My taxi eventually pulled up and as I walked past them one of them spat at me and called me a white slag. It doesn't seem like a huge thing but it shook me up so badly

I'm sorry that happened to you. But this thread is not. About. You*

What?

I grew up in the 80’s so called paki a lot.

i think the worst racist incident for me was when it was pouring down with rain, my girls and I ran to a taxi rank to get a taxi. The white woman refused to take us, when I asked why she said she had a fare already. She didn’t she was first in the taxi rank her light was on.

so my girls and I went to the taxi behind, (which was much nicer and bigger) taxi driver said he was in a queue and lady in front had priority, I said she’d told us she already had a fare and wouldn’t take us. He immediately accepted us and ranted about racists given all white people a bad name. He was super upset on our behalf.

I was surprised at how upset he was. I think having grown up being called a paki/terrorists etc etc for all of my life I’m numb to it. I expect white people to be racist. I do feel more hurt when it’s a person of colour who dishes it out though, as I suppose I expect a bit of understanding and solidarity.

Yet this country has made an industry trying to copy our skin colour - the irony!

Worst I've witnessed - white university lecturer talking to a seminar group about how he thought it was reasonable for white people to get up and move away if a Muslim woman wearing hijab sat next to them on public transport, because she might be a terrorist. There were young hijabi women in the group. I (mature student, not too intimidated by authority) spoke up and disagreed, but nobody else said anything, and I just felt so bad for the other women having to listen to that.

Worst example of prejudice that happened to me personally (as a teenager, so a good few years ago) - a friend wasn't allowed to go on holiday with me because her parents thought I'd get drunk every night and bring men to my room, because that's what white girls do on holiday. I was very shy and rarely drank, never to excess - about as far from that stereotype as you can get!

@Oceanus

Reported me for what?

DH has his Irish passport thrown at him when we tried to open a bank account (in a v diverse part of the UK) 'How do I know it's real?' Maybe more stupidity than racism ?
Being denied jobs / spat at for being English (not in the UK)
Charged more because of being a 'Westerner' (obviously not nearly as bad as some of the horrific posts on here)

@username00 your post is not racism. It's racist. Look at @Luredbyapomegranate explanation

The only racism I’ve experienced has actually been from a black woman calling me half caste and yellow (I’m mixed race)

These are shocking and heart breaking. Lalosalamanca I'm so sorry. I don't even know what to say about that but I'm really sorry. Scum is too good a word for that piece of shit who did that to you.

It makes me want to leave this country because I don't want my kids to be treated as second class citizens ever or worse. But then I wonder where could we go? Where are people more tolerant?

My worst happened when I was on a visit to the UK as a 13 year old. We were were staying with relatives and on the first evening me, my dad and my uncle went for a walk. There was a group of youths that glared at us and it made me really nervous. And then just as we passed them they started yelling "pakis out, pakis out". And then they threw stones at us. I remember my uncle was livid. He loved the UK, was a massive fan of the queen, tried super hard to fit in, etc and kept trying to convince my parents to move to the UK (we lived in another European country). He was embarrassed and ashamed. This wasn't the Britain he wanted to show us. I was ashamed too. That's what I remember the most about that incident. I was ashamed of myself and my family. I had felt their hostility and hatred and I thought it must have been something about us. I tried to see myself as those kids saw us: small built, dark and with shabby clothes (though that was just my dad; he just isn't interested in clothes. My uncle on the other hand always dressed very well). They were in their late teens or early twenties and in another situation I might have wanted to be friends with them or had a crush on one of the guys. I should have been angry with them rather than ashamed of myself but now I think that is what rwcism does to you and it is one of the reasons why hate crimes are so much more insidious than similar crimes without a race (or other similar) factors.

It was many years ago but I still remember exactly how I felt back then.

As an adult after moving here I've had a few others. Being called a terrorist, being denied service in a pub, a used car salesman refusing to let us test drive a car without giving him a guarantee that we will buy it as apparently "all Indians just want to test drive and never buy anything".

I remember a few years ago at a party overhearing a boy (maybe around 15) discussing with someone else a racist incident at school. I was really shocked and blurted out something like "wow I can't believe this happened. That's so unfair. I hope it won't happen again". He looked at me as if I'm an idiot and said "This happens every day to all of us Asian boys".

For me, the most common, most taxing, most ‘killing me softly’ experience of racism is exactly what’s happening now.

It is absolutely exhausting.

@sheepandcaravan thank you but the only post I can see by that name is deleted so I can't see what they said?

A Sikh friend making 'joke' badges saying don't freak I'm a Sikh after his uncle was attacked also just after 9/11.

How is this racist?!
We don't want to be taking some other groups racial / religious abuse - we've got our own to deal with.

@username00 I don't know why that was deleted.

It was the explanation between racism and racial prejudice, the later being what you experienced.

@sheepandcaravan that you for explaining to me as I didn't know there was a difference. I was just answering the post

Half-Chinese/English - loads, I can still remember the first and constant experiences from primary school over 50 years ago... through the rest of school life/in business, usually from twattish moronic men who believe they're hilarious... At social events from several Jewish people with racism/lazy assumptions/crass comments (DH is Jewish) from DH using cockney rhyming slang once... I left him alone in the restaurant (his family were/are racists, regularly using offensive terms - I'm low-contact. Have also encountered this with several of his friends, who seem to 'mute' it on the very rare occasions I'm around them - which means they never hold back when I'm not)
And the usual dumb excuses about "it's just a turn of phrase/we don't mean it/don't be so sensitive"
There was no 'worst' because they're all utterly hideous

I was brought up in an area of a large city than is now a majority Asian area. My parents were still living there in the house that they had lived since they got married. I was visiting them and popped to the cash point in a local shop at about 6pm one evening, when a middle aged Asian man shouted at me “get back to your own area white slag! “ I pointed out to him that this was my area, my Mum, Dad and myself were all born within a ten minute walk of where he was yelling at me !

I remember a patient describing a colleague as a Paki, I asked him if he was feeling ok as we had no nurses from Pakistan working on the ward at that time, 'yes you do, I suppose she might have been Indian, same difference' , No, no Indian nurses either, was he sure he was feeling quite well, might have to check his ob's to be sure, could he provide a urine sample ? He got quite agitated and described her as a 'brown bitch' , another patient helpfully intervened and mentioned the lovely nurse from the Philipinnes who had been working the night shift. That A level in geography came in useful as I explained in fine and boring detail where the nurse, who had dealt with the person in arrest rather than get him a drink, had come from, drew a little map and everything ! Did it in a way that was helpful and caring so he couldn't have complained even though he probably desperately wanted to.

My adult daughter and I were walking through a ‘no go area’ when visiting Manchester, without realising it. Predominantly a Muslim area. Daughter had something thrown at her from a passing car containing some Muslim men, and was called a ‘white slag’. We were told to get out of their neighbourhood. We did report it to the police, who advised us not to go through that area again as it was dangerous for white people to go there. I challenge anyone on here to say this was not a racist incident. We were targeted because we were white.

It's a grossly offensive turn-of-phrase, with absolute morons still insisting it's "ok" just because...
(Chinese/English here)

Moving house and people painting on our windows and doors we don’t need more Asians and to go back to our own country. I was five and had to watch my dad spend all day scraping the paint off the windows.

People shouting out of their car windows to fuck off back to my own country.

At university I did a literature degree and was constantly told how appalling my English was in my essays by a philosophy lecturer who would not mark me higher than 60. I asked my English literature lecturer who said my English was perfectly fine.

I remember being told on a night out that people might queue jump back where I’m from but they don’t do that in this country (I wasn’t queue jumping).

The worst is my MIL who cannot have a conversation with my mum and would even lean across me and say “ask your mum something she could ask her herself” because my mum spoke with an accent. Friends have met my mum and they say they can understand her perfectly fine. I have been with my DH 16 years and my MIL regularly has to ask me what my mum’s name is. But in my MIL’s words “I’m not a racist”.

@Luredbyapomegranate I am pleased your post was deleted. I apologised for my clumsy wording and how dare you tell me to leave a thread. Racism is it only against people of colour which is precisely why I discussed the groups that I did. By diminishing my opinion you have shown yourself to be somewhat of a Wally

I have not been targeted because I am white.
The worst example I have seen was a woman getting on a crowded train with her 3 young kids. She had booked a 4 seat block but there were some pissed up blokes in the seats. She asked them to move and the were so abusive (slurs and pushing her away). I stood up for her and called the transport police. Not one other person stepped in. The transport police and the train guards decided it was too crowded and dangerous to step in. I reported it to the train company..... 4 years later they are still to respond.