Getting the smallest bedroom

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3-bed house has two large bedrooms and a smaller one, teen DS has the biggest, we have the other and soon-to-be teen DS has the small one. DS has a loft bed in the room with a desk underneath, and a chest of drawers with a tv + games console on top. The bedroom has a cupboard over stairs. DP has suggested that we switch rooms with DS as he is already as tall as we are and will need more space.
DP's argument is that we are only in the room getting ready or sleeping so the sensible thing to do is swap. I really don't want to move to a smaller room and DS will just have to cope.
Room size is 3m x 2.5m with the cupboard 1m x 1.2m.

Would you swap?

I wouldn't personally, but I can see your husband's thought process.

Not a chance, my brother was 6ft plus and managed till he left home in a smaller room than that with no built in cupboard. He never complained about it.

My husband who's 6ft6 had the box room of a small 1980s semi detached "new build estate" until he was 25! Your son will cope with a smaller room fine

No I wouldn’t.
why does teen DS have the biggest room?
when is teen ds going to move out or go to uni? He could swap with his younger brother at that point?

I would. My kids have the bigger bedrooms and I have the smallest. I'm only in it to sleep and they are in their rooms all the time. Helps the world go round smoothly in my house.

Have you asked him? He might not want to move.

I do think you might have some resentment from your youngest ds at some point as his brother has the biggest and he has the smallest, but you can probably find some compromise.

I’m not opposed in principle to having a smaller bedroom than my DC but I’d there sufficient storage space in the smaller bedroom for 2x adults plus a decent size bed?

it’s the wardrobe/storage that is an issue ime.

Your house sounds the same as ours. We really hang out in our room a lot, so in our family no parents would not be in the box room. 2 grown adults vs one child. I love our room for chilling out, a bit of peace away from the kids!

Time to consider older and younger son swapping ?

I live in a house where the bedrooms are different sizes and the kids swap every 2 years. All rooms are neutrally decorated and it means everyone gets the big room some of the time.

Two boys sharing a big bedroom?

He'll cope with the smaller room but if you're only really using the room to sleep like your husband says I think I'd be inclined to swap.

DS with small room in my house just has bed . tall narrow shelves and desk with games/PC set up in his room. Large bookcase on landing outside his room, and all his clothes - clothes rail and large chest of drawers- in my (bigger) room.

I agree with this. Then use box room as an office for games/study room.

My son who is over 6 ft has the small one, he loves it, but I have to climb over bed to get into room to change bed. My other son has the smaller double and we have the largest.

No. As small rooms go I dont think this is that small. I also dont think parents should squash into the small room. You might only be sleeping in there but there are two of you.

It's really not that small of a room. Perfectly big enough for a single child/teen. But not big enough for 2 adults who pay the bills.

So many jobs are WFH these days, that unless yours are impossible to do at home, it might be wise to leave yourself that option.

And do you really want a teenager to get the message that someone died and made them king?!

Why does teen DS have the biggest room?

I think I would just put some storage for DS2 in the hallway/DS1's room.

plus make the absolute most of DS2's room with maybe a higher bed with storage/hangout/desk space underneath.

I had a very very small bedroom (as an adult with shit loads of stuff) at a relatives house for a few years (base when I was travelling) and it was totally fine. Planned life/studied etc on the single bed. It's totally fine for a teen.

divide the biggest room into two zones, one bedroom zone and a separate gaming zone. you can probably do this by putting the loft bed in the middle of the room.

tell the boys - whoever has the bigger room has to allow the other sibling in to play games. They need to decide between them who has the shared room (more space but less privacy) and who has the small room (less space but more privacy). Help them think about what they want & manage the negotiation. Then set it up like that. you could promise to review in 2 years time if their needs have changed.

How much older is the older DS?
If he is due to go to uni/move out in a couple of years I'd keep things as planned with the understanding that younger DS gets moved to bigger bedroom as soon as eldest moves out.

Nope. I think kids are fine in a small room, it might not be the best but they will get thru it.

thanks all , i really do want to keep my room, to me it feels right that the adults should have a bigger room.
Not to drip feed but the 2 of us are rarely in bed together as i work nights and he works days with occasional nights away on business.

I would make the small room extra functional ( look on Pinterest). Perhaps a Murphy bed with integrated bench when it's folded.

Not a chance. My ds is nr 6ft. He manages in a room that is the width of a single bed with 5 inch at end. And length 2ft more.

I wouldn't swap. That size room is pretty standard for a second bedroom in small cottages near me so plenty of children must have a room that size.