Why did I feel like this? Feel stupid

[MintyGreenDream]

Work in a primary at lunchtime and very used to jokey children and have a tough skin generally.

Today a boy told me that I was "fit as owt and could he take me to the prom?"
On the way home I felt shaky,tearful almost as if I was in shock
Noone else seemed concerned about what was said but I suppose when you work with young children you don't expect it.
Do I need to get an absolute grip?
Not brave enough for AIBU.

Why would anyone be concerned about a small child making a joke? What were you crying and shaking for??

So young boy said that you're attractive and now you're crying and shaking?

There's a reason, somewhere. What was going through your mind while you were upset?

If you are this fragile normally how do you manage to leave the house? Are you one of these permanently offended play the victim types? Ridiculous reaction from you to be honest maybe you should work elsewhere. Or are you worried you could potentially be branded a sex offender for a child saying that to you.

If this is real then i've read it all now.
I'm honestly not sure what your actual concern is here? Am i being obtuse or hard of thinking? Because genuinely i don't understand why a young child saying what he did has left you shaking and crying?
Is there more to this than what you've said? Some back story or something which would lead you feeling so traumatised by what sounds like a totally innocuous if tongue in cheek bit of lip from a child.

Blimey- I would have been flattered!!!

@Inthesameboatatmo
Odfod.
I said in the op that I'm usually thick skinned

Because this is mumsnet and if you arent crying and shaking then something is wrong 😂😂😂😂

At least he didn't want to 'take you' in other ways!!...now that would have been a bit more worrying!🤣

Why were you crying and shaking? I don't really understand. It was just a kid mucking about.

Then you should pop that skin back on because you’re being ridiculous

I'm sure this boy didn't mean any harm, but is it possible his remark triggered a reaction in you caused by past abuse or trauma? Made worse by its being unexpected ie your guard was down?

Whatever.Thanks for taking the piss.

Can you say what it was that upset you so much?

I was working in a summer club setting and a 10 year old boy offered to give me a good fucking.
THAT was slightly concerning
you are being a bit ridiculous here OP, is there something else going on?

It definitely triggered something in me but I'll just leave it there as there's a piss taking aibu like pile on happening.

Maybe you could try explaining what it was that made you so upset?

Are you okay?
I think sometimes even the most thick skinned person gets upset sometimes and it’s okay to be upset.

Don’t be too hard on yourself and don’t take comments here to heart.

I read this that he said you were “fit as an owl”

Are you feeling a bit off because you feel you should have reported it to someone/logged on the school safeguarding software? I’m not trying to make you feel worse!

I would have done for any child acting flirtatiously- even though it’s most likely innocent/a cheeky joke- as you do it’s best to log all ‘adult’ behaviour.

I’d speak to his teacher, and just say ‘oh hi mr/miss… this happened yesterday, I’m sure it was a joke but I thought I’d let you know in case he has done anything similar and it’s part of a pattern. Do you want me to log
it?’

breathing life into it and following the correct channels might make you feel better

Why was you shaking and crying over a compliment let alone from a young child?
Sorry I don't understand.

Assuming this is a primary aged child your reaction does seem to be unusual - can you explain why you feel so shaken by it?

As it’s not as you do *

Me too.

I’m really confused. Wasn’t he saying you were attractive enough to take to the prom? Why would that be upsetting?