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DH had a dream and now he's worried it's true...

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RagzRebooted · 13/06/2022 18:38

DH dreamed the other night that his ex from many (20 ish) years ago had a daughter that was his and he's never been told. He said it could actually be true, as they split quite suddenly (both had drink and drugs issues) with no further contact and she moved back to another country.
It made for an interesting conversation and we talked theoretically about how we would handle it. Obviously it would depend on what theoretical daughter wanted!

I told him to look his ex up on social media to put his mind at rest (DH tends towards paranoia!). Well, he found her profile and there's a photo of her and a girl who could be anywhere from 15-25 years old. Profile quite secure so can't see much else. I said if you're still worried then message her and tell her about your dream, she'll either laugh or tell you it's true...

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12Thorns · 13/06/2022 18:40

Or he’s found out he has a daughter and is trying to break it to you gently….

Mangogogogo · 13/06/2022 18:47

Yea tbh maybe I’m being a negative Nelly but I think someone’s told him he’s got a kid and he’s being weird as fuck about telling you!

Vapeyvapevape · 13/06/2022 18:49

Yep he's paving the way to tell you he has a daughter.

BeneficiaryMadness · 13/06/2022 18:49

He definitely knows! He had a dream..😂😂😂

MadeForThis · 13/06/2022 18:50

He might have known all along. Could the dd have gotten in touch?

SummerHouse · 13/06/2022 18:52

Same thoughts as PPs. Why are we all so cynical?!

N0va · 13/06/2022 18:56

Was coming here to say that he either recently knows or he's known for a while and is trying to tell you without directly telling you!

bloodyunicorns · 13/06/2022 19:07

What a cynical bunch... but I agree.

ShadowoftheFall · 13/06/2022 19:11

Yep, this is his way of breaking the news

InFiveMins · 13/06/2022 19:12

I agree with the others - I would suspect he knows he has fathered a child and is testing the waters to see how you'll react.

Sunnytwobridges · 13/06/2022 19:16

Oh usually try to be positive but this doesn't sound good... seems like he's testing the waters...

RagzRebooted · 13/06/2022 19:17

Interesting theories. I forgot how cynical you all are. To be honest, I hadn't even considered that! It would be a really dumb way to bring it up...
Apparently she had a coil, so chances are slim. No one in his life that could know them so unless they'd got in touch, he couldn't have found out (if it were true!).
I suggested getting in contact with the ex and asking but he thinks that's a mental idea.

I'm a very pragmatic person so it wouldn't bother me at all, in terms of being jealous or angry (why would it be, it was before we met!).

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stepuporshutup · 13/06/2022 19:19

Yes sorry op I agree with pps he knows he has a daughter and is paving the way of him being physic

RagzRebooted · 13/06/2022 19:21

If it were true, I'd be happier that he dreamt it and then found out it was true than if he used that as a way of telling me! He's not a good liar or particularly creative so I would be really impressed if it was an elaborate ruse to break the news.
I shall put the MN judgement to him this evening and see what he says!

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RagzRebooted · 13/06/2022 19:22

stepuporshutup · 13/06/2022 19:19

Yes sorry op I agree with pps he knows he has a daughter and is paving the way of him being physic

Maybe next week he can dream the numbers we win the lottery with, that way we can pay secret daughter's 18 years of backdated child support!

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iklboo · 13/06/2022 19:24

Not often I'm in such accord with other posters but 'had a dream'? Aye, right he did.

SailingNotSurfing · 13/06/2022 19:25

I agree with the others, he's found out - probably got a claim for backdated child maintenance following a DNA test, and doesn't know how the hell he can tell you. So he had a dream...

coffeecupsandfairylights · 13/06/2022 19:29

He definitely knows he has a daughter. A 'dream' - my arse.

hshbjamo · 13/06/2022 19:31

Yeah i've got to agree with everyone else.

PinkPanther50 · 13/06/2022 19:31

I with the pp. He’s using the dream as a way of sussing out how you would react

Aquamarine1029 · 13/06/2022 19:35

Haha, right. This was no dream.

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 13/06/2022 19:35

I can't believe how itchy my chin has suddenly got. Dream my arse...

Arenanewbie · 13/06/2022 19:37

It depends what type he is.
I remember my dreams and some of them were meaningful in the past and came out true. I would want to check everything after a dream like this. I usually think about my dreams for quite a while and try to find the explanation.
My DH doesn’t remember his dreams usually and doesn’t pay attention on them so for him believing and wanting to check would be very suspicious.

thenewduchessoflapland · 13/06/2022 19:38

15-25?;they split up 20 years ago and she didn't have a kid then did she?

So more like 15-19/20

And it's very specific,a daughter?,looks her up and boom there's a girl of 15-19/20 that looks like her DD?

It's entirely possible the daughter or someone connected to her has reached out;the ex might not want anything to do with your DH.

theemmadilemma · 13/06/2022 19:40

Jesus Christ. 😂

Men, you must not have strange dreams, nor discuss them if you do!!!

My DP has mentioned various weird, but realistic/worrying dreams, he's allowed to discuss right?

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