DH had a dream and now he's worried it's true...

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DH dreamed the other night that his ex from many (20 ish) years ago had a daughter that was his and he's never been told. He said it could actually be true, as they split quite suddenly (both had drink and drugs issues) with no further contact and she moved back to another country.
It made for an interesting conversation and we talked theoretically about how we would handle it. Obviously it would depend on what theoretical daughter wanted!

I told him to look his ex up on social media to put his mind at rest (DH tends towards paranoia!). Well, he found her profile and there's a photo of her and a girl who could be anywhere from 15-25 years old. Profile quite secure so can't see much else. I said if you're still worried then message her and tell her about your dream, she'll either laugh or tell you it's true...

I'd say he's been on her social media, and seen the picture, and thought to himself I wonder if...

But I do like your approach. As you say, it was before you met! Annoying if he is lying to you, but maybe he really did have the dream!

Seems weird to not just ask her now. Not sure what his plan would be, now he's curious. Surely he'll not just get over it! It'll annoy him until he knows for sure, or at least speaks to her

Haha, this isn't the first either, he's prone to wierd and convuluted dreams, some of which he finds quite disturbing (he's on several psychiatric medications). I mean, I wasn't suspicious when he dreamed he shagged my sister...

The age guess was me, out of context. I'd forgotten all about the dream and he showed me a photo on his phone and asked how old I thought the girl was. It's really hard to tell. But yes, you're right obviously as ex didn't have children at the time.

I don't think he's trying to tell you he has a daughter. I have OCD and sometimes get sticky thoughts that I can't shake just like this.

I had a dream that I went to jail for something I didn't do and spent the subsequent year scouring my past to try and find why I was going to go to jail. Crazy

I think he's found out and is trying to suss you out. It's too much of a coincidence surely that he's had the dream and then looks on social media and sees that she does have a daughter. Either that or he's psychic!

I dreamed I had a massive spider on my pillow once. I woke myself up, it scared me so much, and lo and behold, it was true!

Having a secret daughter would be much less scary.

"I'd say he's been on her social media, and seen the picture, and thought to himself I wonder if..."

Bing pot

He has messaged her now. Didn't ask about the daughter though (apparently that would be wierd), just a catch up message.

Her Facebook is pretty locked up so only a handful of photos visible. There seem to be photos of the girl from like 3 years ago looking much younger, so my age guess must be way off. DH thinks it's two separate girls, but I don't.

We shall see! If he turns out to be psychic that would be seriously impressive.

He knows, the dream is likely bollocks

C’mon now OP! 😂😂
You are not that stupid which is why you created a thread.

This is a very big coincidence that he dreamt he had a DD and it turned out he did.

Either he knew there was a possibility he had a child this entire time and it’s going to come out so he’s finding a way to tell you without coming out and saying it.

Or he was looking at his ex’s profile and saw her DD and now can’t stop thinking she looks like him or something but doesn’t want to tell you incase you get the wrong idea about why he looked on the profile.

Dream my arse. Don't be such a mug, OP. Either his ex has already been in contact or he knew and that was the whole reason for the sudden break-up, and now he's having a crisis about it.

Friends OH discovered he was a dad when the offspring knocked on the door aged 16 it does happen

Well I had a dream the other night that the bloke I dated in the late 90s had moved to our town and had dcs in my dcs school now and I was going to have to make small talk on the school run.... (not looking him up in case his social media was all about a big house move...)

Oh I know it happens. DH's Dad actually has a son from before he married MIL, that only he and MIL know about (she told me when she was drunk and asked me not to tell DH or his siblings!). I never could look at FIL the same after that. Son has never come looking though... (I told DH, as he's my husband but we haven't told his siblings).

My DSis never knew her Dad, my mum and I knew his first name but not his surname and I managed to track him down through google/Facebook using the name of a band I remember him being friends with!

I wouldn't be at all bothered if it turns out to be true, but it would be a wierd way of telling me!

People arent suggesting he's psychic ffs, they're suggesting that he either knows or has an inkling and is using the dream scenario to 'gently' introduce you to the idea. It's a pretty common tactic.
Oh and any bloke telling you he dreamed about shagging your sister is a twat anyway tbh

Maybe he's had a fear of getting her pregnant and his subconscious is playing tricks on him.
Who knows?

I'd let sleeping dogs lie.

A catch up message to an ex of 20 years, with no kids so no reason to have been I touch for 20 years? Now that is weird.

Oh and any bloke telling you he dreamed about shagging your sister is a twat anyway tbh

This in spades. Why the fuck would he tell you about that dream, other than to make you feel rubbish. What an arsehole.

My guess is he knew she went off pregnant and had a little nosey on her fb and now wants to see his daughter.

HE TOLD YOU HE DREAMT HE SHAGGED YOUR SISTER?! 🙄
Whatva fekking gobshite

He was freaked out, I wasn't bothered. But then I told him when I dreamed I slept with his (gay) brother.

DH has many, many faults but why would I be annoyed by his dreams?!

Why would that make me feel rubbish? I just laughed.
Is everyone on MN really insecure or am I just broken?

My 1st thought was hmm she’s been in touch or he’s seen on social media and putting 2&2 together then broached the subject with you …

BUT

I have had so many dreams that have put an idea in my head and then Iv looked into something and it’s been true.
I didn’t realise an issue with my son, had a dream… spoke to him about this a few days later and he broke down crying and what I said
happened in a round about way that same night that I dreamt it. Without the dream who knows if I would have found out cos it wasn’t even in my brain in the slightest.

So I wouldn’t say it’s was definitely an elaborate story, I mean stranger things have happened.

It's not insecurity that makes me think eeeeeooooow to this revelation about your sister.

I would think "why are you telling me, do you want to make me insecure??". It's just one of those things a wiser man would not have shared imo

You are starting to sound delusional OP.

Your insistence that you'd have no concerns if there is a daughter for a start . If he does have a daughter, it would affect your lives in so many ways. Which may well be fine, but to pretend to be so blasé about it is odd.