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Secret savings and divorce

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Blueberry6 · 01/06/2022 11:44

Hi all,

seems like my marriage is heading towards a divorce. I have some money saved in an account he does not know about. I saved it before marriage and kept it there for rainy days. I just read I have to declare everything. Will he get half of my savings? I can try and get bank statements to show I had it before marriage and not during. So technically nothing to do with him?

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OhComeOnFFS · 23/06/2023 14:29

What I wouldn't do is put it into my daughter's account. It's your money and if it's in her account then (besides declaring it) you wouldn't have the freedom to spend it. That's just not fair.

mondaycando1 · 23/06/2023 14:46

A friend (honestly it wasn't me!) gave 20k to an old but in local / particularly regular contact just before she started her divorce a few years back. She was hands down the major breadwinner in the marriage and was already facing a massive settlement to her ex so I don't blame her!

As an aside OP, I have capital inherited before the marriage and it has always been in my name only, I've been told as part of my divorce while it won't be counted as a marital asset, it could wellbeing treated as a resource I have going forward so while he may not get his hands on it directly, it could affect my settlement.

FloydPepper · 23/06/2023 15:36

mondaycando1 · 23/06/2023 14:46

A friend (honestly it wasn't me!) gave 20k to an old but in local / particularly regular contact just before she started her divorce a few years back. She was hands down the major breadwinner in the marriage and was already facing a massive settlement to her ex so I don't blame her!

As an aside OP, I have capital inherited before the marriage and it has always been in my name only, I've been told as part of my divorce while it won't be counted as a marital asset, it could wellbeing treated as a resource I have going forward so while he may not get his hands on it directly, it could affect my settlement.

I know a friend who hid money from his ex while they were divorcing, but it’s ok as he was the higher earner so he deserved to keep it.

how does that sound?

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PaddingtonBearStareAgain · 01/06/2022 18:11

Exactly. Looking forward to posters saying the same on other threads when a man wants to do it in some way.

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Or the countless threads by women who have had this done to them by men here seeking support because that bastard man is coming out on top financially through dishonest means.

You take the rough with the smooth with marriage and divorce. It’s an insurance AND a risk.

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