What improved your quality of life, so much, you wish you did it sooner?

[piddocktrumperiness]

For me it's a few things:
-Learning what past trauma is and how it plays out in relationships
-Learn to say no to things and people and not feel bad about it
-Realising no one really notices or cares what I do or look like; felt liberated to not always wear lots of makeup, dress in a new outfit or have my roots done, or eat out alone, or do anything alone.
-Not watching much current tv and picking up a book instead
-Listening to James O' Brien on LBC ( I know he's not everyone's cup of tea- but I learned alot)
-Waking up v early to have some me time. This was hard as I was a night owl for many years.
-Declutter and only buy when I need something. To be honest this started as I had to downsize to an empty flat after my divorce and am on not much money but it has helped with not worrying about possessions and all the cleaning involved.
-Divorce my ex husband- biggest impact haha

What improved yours?

I would love to know where you moved to!

Divorcing my ex husband. Getting a dog. Joining a nice gym, going vegetarian.

HRT and becoming a freelance consultant.

Completing Couch to 5k,never actually made it to 5k,(no sense of failure)!but completed 0 (struggling) ....to 30 mins and now actually get quite tetchy if i dont get out into the fresh air for a jog! Did not diet but lost a stone by default!

Also sometimes be a human 'being' not a human 'doing' by just relaxing and clearing my head. Plenty more habits but these two have made an enormous difference to my wellbeing.

Stopped watching/listening to the news. I know what is going on via headline info and if I want more I can get it. It is so liberating not listening to talking heads and the same shit different day.

Took early retirement early 50s via a once in a lifetime package. Could have done consultancy, but have just been a lazy contented woman since, can do as little or as much as I please.

Stopped alcohol when I retired. Best thing ever, not a problem with it but I knew I could get into the habit when not working any more. Clear head and lots of energy ever since.

Ditched a lot of so called "friends" who I realise now were sucking the life out of me. Concentrate on my family, siblings and nieces and nephews. So nice and they are never bitchy or judgmental. Feel very lucky we still connect and get on so well.

I count my blessings every day too. I have health issues, but there are so many others out there in a much worse position than me, so I am thankful for what I've got.

Moving to my favorite part of town. It took my commute down to 10 minutes, from 45 - 60 minutes, sometimes even longer, which improved my attitude to going to work.

Giving up watching the news. Stopping trying to make some family relationships work when clearly nothing was ever going to change .

Also made a decision to minimise drama in my life and stop trying to help people all the time when they didn’t value me.

Thank you @HangingOver! It's bloody brilliant isn't it? Congrats on your upcoming anniversary too. Are you treating yourself to anything? I have been thinking of a chunky gold necklace but am also toying with the idea of a tattoo!

Antidepressants
outsourcing things I don’t want to do
putting in boundaries at work
pilates 121 instruction every week

Turning off most notifications on my phone.

Restricting social media to my iPad only.

Only giving my advice to people who deserve it.

What do you drink now?

My iPhone
Restarting swimming
Admitting how stressed and unhappy I am because of work, and taking the first steps towards a potential career change

Antidepressants. Life changing for me in so many ways. I'm hoping to keep up my confidence, self esteem and just happiness now I have stopped them.

Not RTFT but walking a minimum of 8 k daily for me ( more on weekends). Not for weight loss- it barely helps- but just as a way of clearing my head.

Learning to swim. Life changing

Hiding the feminism threads on here 😂

A small dog.

Walking, up hill, down dale, along the coast. Just walking.

Giving up my job, then choosing to work when and where I want to. Three different roles, and loads of time off for walking and the small dog ☺️.

I would like to give up shift work as I'm so sick of being tired all the time and having no sleep pattern. That will be my biggest thing when I can do it.

Until then bean to cup coffee machine.

I would say

Antidepressants
Eating less processed foods and drinking more water
Writing in a journal
Thinking of one thing I am grateful for each day

Stopped watching the news.

Being diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago; medication and lots of research on coping strategies later, my life is transformed.

Being a single mother. So. Much. Nicer.

Multiple, excellent vibrators.

Testosterone and sex therapy.

Learning that the word no is very powerful

1. Finding a good therapist
2. Quitting teaching
3. Discovering Lovehoney.co.uk
4. Discovering boundaries