What improved your quality of life, so much, you wish you did it sooner?

[piddocktrumperiness]

For me it's a few things:
-Learning what past trauma is and how it plays out in relationships
-Learn to say no to things and people and not feel bad about it
-Realising no one really notices or cares what I do or look like; felt liberated to not always wear lots of makeup, dress in a new outfit or have my roots done, or eat out alone, or do anything alone.
-Not watching much current tv and picking up a book instead
-Listening to James O' Brien on LBC ( I know he's not everyone's cup of tea- but I learned alot)
-Waking up v early to have some me time. This was hard as I was a night owl for many years.
-Declutter and only buy when I need something. To be honest this started as I had to downsize to an empty flat after my divorce and am on not much money but it has helped with not worrying about possessions and all the cleaning involved.
-Divorce my ex husband- biggest impact haha

What improved yours?

EFT Tapping

Shopping at aldi so I have spare money left for more exciting things other than groceries lol

Left (being a doctor in) General Practice a 4 years ago. Went early at 50. A horrible, miserable job. Appears to have got even worse talking to friends/GPs

working through anxiety/trauma from the past with a clinical psychologist. Part of that is also finding a good psychologist, who you can connect with; learning not to feel guilty and be clear as to what my boundaries are.

hahaha that's a good one!
mine are yoga along with about 70% of people on here!
realising my feelings will paaasss...
Reading russian classics.

trying to be mindful/present.
Remembering to have fun and be silly with my lovely kids.

just to undermine all this to paraphrase Michael Caine "I've been rich and miserable and skint and miserable and I know which I prefer" so having enough money does help me.

@Saurus72 Which CBD sleep drops do you find work for you please?

Gardening
Faith
Another child, he’s delightful
Not worrying so much about my SEN children, they will find a path and they are lovely kind humans.
Being ok with being disliked and disagreed with, lost a lot of friends because I didn’t have the covid jab. Don’t miss any of them, now they are getting in touch again but I can’t forget the viciousness.
Supporting my mother through hard times, despite her not supporting me in the past, has been quite healing.
Accepting no one is going to be impressed with my job and it’s really quite thankless but it suits me. I always wished I was a doctor or a lawyer or an artist so other people would think I was impressive. Daft to care so much.
More sex with DH, it’s making life really fun flirting with him.
Heated airer and retractable washing line. Saved so much not using the drier 6 hours every day.

The reoccurring memories of something unpleasant I have learned to deal with. With lots and lots of help. Name them and then tell them to get lost. So, one is of the time some guy said loudly at a concert a very rude remark about my favorite singer. I "named" him bubba and told him to get lost in a very strong mental voice. It took about three times and he hasn't visited since. He had been bothering me for years.

Wish I started dating my husband earlier and married him years ago he says same thing now. 13 years together and still besotted 5 yrs married l with a 3.5 Yr old, 18 month old and 5 week old. Cut my mother out of my life years ago even though I still haven't .. her drink problem has started to affect my sibling relationship and also my marriage as she causes so much stress in all out lives she can't understand then how we won't let her look after our children

Therapy and quitting retail to gain a career in IT. 😅

Well done, that's a fantastic achievement. I hope things continue well for you. 💐

Drilling a hole in the bottom of my bin. Means that the bin bags don't get stuck. It has genuinely changed my life.

Having a dishwasher
Ruthlessly decluttering on a regular basis (my old team used to laugh at me because I spent so much time as the tip) 😆
A zip and link Super King sized bed
Caring less about having a super dooper career and just doing a job. I used to have a professional registration but would spend a lot of time worrying about my patients outside of work. I left due to ill-health and now, when I close my laptop, that’s it. I don’t think about work.
Also, working from home. I love being on Teams calls in my pyjamas 😆 Only when the camera is ‘broken’ 😆

Getting a dog. Lots of exercise regardless of the weather, and have made many new friends whilst out and about. On our second pup now and enjoying even more new friends, both human and four legged!

Great thread.

For me (no particular order)

• Selective about the types of people I have in my life


• Leaving parties before they stop being fun


• Regular Pilates (no more Chiropractor)


• Adult braces and implants (smile!)


• Cleaner


• Daring to travel on my own


• Prioritising a great work culture over high salary


• The Hoffman Process

Wow!!

Curious about the Hoffman Process. Something I’ve been interested in for years.

@superstar63 I’m afraid to say it’s These - I do the Liberty beauty subscription and they were a free gift last month. I need to find a much less expensive alternative tho as these aren’t sustainable on a long term basis! I find they make me feel kind of ‘heavy’ and help my mind to stop racing.

-Hot yoga helped me immensely physically and mentally, and I met some wonderful people.
-Divorce is very liberating.
-There is no shame in traveling solo - you grow in confidence and wisdom.
-Under eye fillers are fucking amazing.
-Never too late to buy a vibrator - I’ve always been prudish about sex due to cultural and religious conditioning. Once I shed that post-divorce, I really discovered for the first time how wonderful it is to masturbate and discover how much pleasure my body can give me.
-We are all ultimately alone - love yourself in whatever way you can otherwise life is a lonely place to be.

Getting divorced!! Really should have done it years ago best decision EVER

HRT
Aerial hoop and burlesque classes
Changing jobs and cutting my commute massively
Getting a half decent car after years of bangers
Subscribing to Skin + Me
Accepting that I needed stronger medication for my ulcerative colitis after becoming seriously ill and nearly losing my colon
Getting my ironing done by someone else
Finding peace with having an only child

Realised teaching wasn’t everything in life and there are better people than my headteacher.

@LilythePunk - I hesitated for years but it has been the single thing that has made the biggest difference in terms of finding contentment and joy. Not cheap but I did it one year instead of going on any holidays (pre-Covid).

Ida thi k if anything but am
avidly reading for suggestions. I feel utterly bogged down Nd
like I’m not coping so desperate to find something that will improve my life as I feel it now.
don’t get me wrong; I have a nice life. Im
jist not very good at living it IYSWIM

I have tried to PM you but it won’t work. Would you mind PM ing me about this? I would really like to know more about your experience of it and how it helped you if you don’t mind.