Why are some child free women claiming they should be celebrated on Mother’s Day too?

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I keep seeing, mainly Americans, saying just because we choose not have to children, doesn’t mean we shouldn’t be celebrated on Mother’s Day. We deserve gifts and love just as every other mother.

Im not talking about women who have miscarried, had still borns or struggling to conceive, but women who have chosen not to have children.

They aren’t even talking about celebrating their own mothers. Just them.

What is this self entitlement?

Is this just seen as Women’s day to some women?

Well, you seem to have been able to read their words, so you already know why they think that. Women in a foreign country to you have different ideas to you. It is shocking, I know.

It's not something I've seen but I can see your point. It's mother's day, a day to be celebrated for all that you do as a mother. There's other holidays to celebrate other things.

Every single themed day is now overtaken by people who cannot bear the thought that anything at all that celebrates something excludes some people who arent doing that thing.

The great comfort, OP, is that Mother's Day in the US is on a different day! So none of these terrible Americans will be encroaching on Mothering Sunday!

Are they? In large enough numbers to make a any difference at all?

Because no one is allowed to be excluded from anything, no matter how good the reason for exclusion is. It's mad TBH.

I think fathers should be celebrated on Mothers Day too. Because you cant be a mother unless there is a father somewhere along the line can you? I know there is Fathers Day too but that isnt the point.
Oh and Grandmothers and Grandfathers too , because you wouldnt be here with out them.
Actually, the doctors had a hand in lots becoming mothers too so move over mothers, they can squeeze on the bench too. And they wouldn't have got to BE a doctor without being taught at uni. So all lecturers and teachers .... (I'll stop there )

I will take my tongue out of my cheek now

YANBU

I'm childfree and have never heard of this. I don't think it's a 'thing' in the UK. I have no interest in celebrating Mother's Day or Mothering Sunday.

Besides, my cats are far too self-absorbed to get me a card!

How ridiculous. They just sound like weirdos to be honest.

Because people are fucking nuts.

Yep. Transwomen had to be included in IWD, despite being biological men.

I honestly don’t get it.
I wondered when I would get to the age when my brain was thinking ‘worlds gone mad’ but 2020-2022 seems to have been it.
Mothers day is about spending time with your children or thinking about your children if they are not with you.
How would you celebrate it if you had never been a mother?
Its akin to ‘I’m going to have a wedding but I don’t have a partner and don’t have any plans to actually marry.
Just call it a f*ing party then.

I saw something similar to this recently, but it wasn't from an American. I thought it was so strange. There was a lot of explanation about all the different types of mothers/women we should be thinking of on Mother's Day. Bog standard mothers wasn't one of them, but women who have chosen not to have children was. Would a woman who has chosen not to have children even want other people to be bringing them in to Mother's Day? One of my close friends has chosen not to have children, but it isn't something which defines her life. She certainly doesn't think of herself in terms of a person who could bear children if she chose to and she'd think I was mad if I sent her a mother's day message.

Is this genuinely a widespread a thing? Or did you see one person write this and extrapolate that "childless American women are wanting to celebrate mothers day"?

I really don[t think its something that is going to become an issue. There a loads of randoms on the internet who have crazy ideas, but it doesn[t mean that everyone else form that "group" thinks the same.

I mean they come up with some odd ideas over there so this wouldn't surprise me. Don't know who would be making/buying the card or gift though 🤔

Pure narcissism, if they want to have themselves feted for something they haven’t done. Gatecrashing a party to which they have no ticket.
Contrast that with my brilliant church minister - a childless lesbian whose own mother had died 3 months prior to Mothering Sunday one particular year.
She preached a wonderful sermon that included women whose own mothers were abusive, women who had lost mothers, and infertile women who had desperately wanted to be mothers. She asked us to write down the names of women who had been role models to us as mothers, or acted towards us in a mothering way - it provoked a great discussion on everyone from mediaeval saints to much loved spinster aunts!

I saw something similar on UK Mother's Day. It was a picture being shared on fb/Instagram saying "happy Mother's Day to..." and then listed various "types" of mother eg step mothers, mothers who've lost children, women who want to be mothers, pregnant women, women dealing with infertility, etc. and then "women who have chosen to remain child free".

I thought it was very odd and wondered if anyone in that category actually wanted it. If I'd chosen to not have children, I'd think it was bizarre.

I thought it was very odd and wondered if anyone in that category actually wanted it. If I'd chosen to not have children, I'd think it was bizarre.

It's not something I would actively want as a childfree woman, but it wouldn't offend me. Not much different from someone posting a 'Happy Tuesday' message or whatever - if the day you're being invited to enjoy has no special meaning to you, it just means someone is wishing you a pleasant day.

This just sounds like a narcissistic minority making a loud noise. Most child-free people I know don't expect anything on Mother's Day a d would be equally baffled by this idea. Parents (usually mothers in particular) dedicate a lot of time and effort to their children. Mother's Day is a token day when the children can express their appreciation to their own parent. It's not a massive celebration including a wide range of people. Child-free people can celebrate Mother's Day by doing something for their own Mother if they are still around.

Most Mothers I know, including myself and my own DM, don't expect anything other than a card and maybe breakfast in bed.

Can’t have anyone feeling left out or having hurty feelings these days.

It’s all for the ‘look at me, give me attention’ types.

Perhaps there should be a childfree by choice day, to celebrate their non contribution to global warming and overpopulation.

There already is;

”International Childfree Day occurs each year on August 1” 😂

I would be up for that, although I'm not sure who would be expected to make a fuss of me . As already said, my cats are typically selfish felines!

”International Childfree Day occurs each year on August 1”

Ooh, I'll pop it in my diary . At work they are huge on these 'days' (and almost every week it's international something-or-other day) so perhaps I can find some people to celebrate with.

And you think that is a huge joke?

nationaldaycalendar.com/international-childfree-day-august-1/

I’d never heard of it - seems a US thing rather than truly international.