Why are some child free women claiming they should be celebrated on Mother’s Day too?

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I keep seeing, mainly Americans, saying just because we choose not have to children, doesn’t mean we shouldn’t be celebrated on Mother’s Day. We deserve gifts and love just as every other mother.

Im not talking about women who have miscarried, had still borns or struggling to conceive, but women who have chosen not to have children.

They aren’t even talking about celebrating their own mothers. Just them.

What is this self entitlement?

Is this just seen as Women’s day to some women?

I think its a much bigger thing in America. Whilst I was there it was common for example for eveyone in shops, restaurants to wish you a happy mother's day etc both on the day and even in the run up (similar to how we might say happy Christmas in the run up). It was confusing to me why as someone without children, a server would say happy mothers day a week before the date

My office gave the mums big bouquets of flowers and gift baskets etc, all delivered to desks. It was expected that people without children would cover shifts etc because its mothers day tomorrow etc. Work did a mothers day brunch where all the mums

There was generally a lot more fuss, it was mentioned in meetings etc, I got a mother day card thing from the building control and my vet sent me a mothers day card!

I can see why that would be be hard to navigate if ttc or you'd been unable to have children for whatever reason.

I was young so it went over my head, but now I'd feel excluded by it. I wouldn't have wanted to sit at my desk working while all the other women were getting time off at a paid brunch, or watch the rest of the office get gift bags simply based off my fertility status

In the uk it feels like a private celebration from children to their mums but over there it felt like the country was thanking the mums.

There are a lot of women who have chosen not to have kids** but who play mother roles to one or more children. Should they not be celebrated just because they've chosen not to give birth?

My office gave the mums big bouquets of flowers and gift baskets etc, all delivered to desks. It was expected that people without children would cover shifts etc because its mothers day tomorrow etc. Work did a mothers day brunch where all the mums

If my work had done this while I was struggling to come to terms with infertility/childlessness it would have utterly done my head in.

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I've never seen this, but I've often seen people acknowledging various kinds of 'mothering' on Mothering Sunday, which I think is perfectly appropriate given that the original celebration relates to Mother Church and the Virgin Mary (both pretty metaphorical mothers!).

I personally like the idea of acknowledging the women who've been mother figures to me, and that includes two wonderful women who are very firmly and happily child-free.

Mother’s Day os nothing to do with actual mothers it’s mothering sunday & is for mother church

Which holiday celebrates childless women?

I’m a mother. I’ve never heard anyone say this but if anyone does feel this way it doesn’t take anything from me.

I lost my mum when I was 10 but I give my dad a gift on Mother's Day instead. I am childfree but I would never expect to receive gifts or suchlike on Mothers Day.

Indeed!

Well they can think what they want but whose going to buy them a card and a present,?
They could buy it themselves I guess and totally miss the point .

I said earlier I used to buy one for my aunt. My mother was a widow bringing up 3 kids, time poor to earn enough to keep us. Aunt used to have me for sleepovers, take me on holiday, teach me how to cook and sew. Buying her a card and a gift when she was an old lady seemed appropriate to me so she was one woman who was never a mother but was remembered on Mother's Day.