Why are some child free women claiming they should be celebrated on Mother’s Day too?

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I keep seeing, mainly Americans, saying just because we choose not have to children, doesn’t mean we shouldn’t be celebrated on Mother’s Day. We deserve gifts and love just as every other mother.

Im not talking about women who have miscarried, had still borns or struggling to conceive, but women who have chosen not to have children.

They aren’t even talking about celebrating their own mothers. Just them.

What is this self entitlement?

Is this just seen as Women’s day to some women?

I wish people would stop trying to celebrate me on mothers’ day. I am not a mother. I don’t need some well intentioned, patronising bullshit to try and make me feel included because I am female. That’s mostly what I see on Mother’s Day rather than childless women demanding to be remembered.

My friend has an aunt who she is very close to. Aunt couldn't have children of her own and my friend always sends her flowers on mother's day, which I think is a nice thing to do

Yes they’re self entitled knobheads OP.

It is important - things like this getting traction erodes the real meaning of Mothers Day. Bit like how the real meaning of ‘women’ is happily being eroded away at the detriment to actual women’s health and safety and well-being.

Not everyone is a mother and not everyone should feel the need to be celebrated as one.

It's madness.

@Cantstandbullshit

So sorry, perhaps my irony was not as obvious as I thought...

I am American and keep noticing absurd things which mumsnetters blame on Americans. On this site, Americans are called out for all sorts of things which I have never experienced in 56 years of being American.

Meh well they can celebrate their own mothers I suppose.

Absolutely spot on, @Branleuse .

Well I'm a mother and nobody ever gets me anything on mothers day.

Yup.

Hmmm that's what we thought about the whole self ID thing.....

Who do these childless women think will celebrate them given mothers are usually celebrated by their children, partners? Wouldn't that be a bit odd 🤔

Well I am in UK. Single and childless. I don't care if it is the UK or USA Happy Mother's Day, I will not have 'hearty feelings' if I am not included. My own Mum is dead as are my Grandmother and Great Grandmother so I will not/have not sent any cards either. Carry on with your celebrations without me!!!

Women without children still have other significant relationships in their lives. I’m not at all saying that they should be part of Mother’s Day but I can see that a sister might want to celebrate an aunt who has been very involved with nieces/nephews.

You mean it erodes the real meaning of Mothering Sunday with lots of people not visiting their mother church?

Traditions change.

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Surely it would be down to the children to celebrate this marvelous aunt should they want to 🤷

Surely it would be down to the children to celebrate this marvelous aunt should they want to

A lot of time, it seems to be adults facilitating Mother’s Day on behalf of young children. Again, I’m not saying that other women who aren’t mothers should be celebrated. I personally wouldn’t want to do that but I can appreciate that others might choose to acknowledge other significant women in their children’s lives. Mother’s Day cards for grandmothers are pretty common now.

A lot of people have taken the idea of inclusivity and used it to ensure that they insert themselves into everything.

Because cats?

We dont do Mother’s Day in my house as I’m not a Hallmark holiday type but a friend of mine goes all out and buys herself cards from her cats and presents and takes herself out to dinner etc.

She hates kids, never wanted any but it keeps her happy. Cant say I care. She can have my Mother’s Day if she wants

I always thought that Mother's Day was about celebrating your mother rather than celebrating yourself as a mother. Plenty of people have mothers but are not mothers. So they are on the giving end but not the receiving end.

I suffered a late loss and gave birth to my sleeping baby just before Mother’s Day, so admittedly was overly sensitive but I kept seeing these two pictures all over Instagram and Facebook. They made me so angry, to have people say thinking of you in relation to my situation and many other really difficult situations but to then also chuck ‘those that have chosen not to be mothers’ and ‘mothers of fur babies’ in there. What has Mother’s Day got to do with people who have decided to not have kids? My sister doesn’t want kids, she doesn’t want your thoughts on Mother’s Day, it’s irrelevant to her because she has never wanted children.

The one that really gets my goat is ' mum to fur babies'.
I'm sorry, i don't care hard owning an animal is, it is not the same as having a child.

Yeah, but wouldn’t you think it was odd that they wished you Happy Tuesday when it was in fact Thursday?

You see where I am going with this…..

EXACTLY!

I'd just remind them that the clue is in the title Mother.
Then carry on with what I was doing.