What's wrong with casual sex?

[gothereagain]

Put this in chat as I'd prefer a range of answers over the sex board.

I enjoy casual sex. I've been (happily for the most part) married and had a couple of long term relationships however I much prefer casual sex. The best sex I've had has been with partners I've not been in relationships with.

But I find people get really shocked when I say things like that. Why?

It’s like eaves dropping on a fundamentalist religious far right convention!

Fucking hell.

Genuine question from a 57 year old guy, separated after a long marriage..
How does one approach the subject with a potential partner?
I'm on OLD, I've had a few likes, met a couple of nice women but "let's be friends"is the usual result.
I naive with all this but yes, I would like a wee bit of action occasionally.

I think you need to be upfront and honest "looking for fun" or "not looking for a LTR". As a man, you'll get far fewer women interested in you, but you are more likely to get what you want out of the date if you're honest.

Also certain OLD apps are more 'hook up' territory than others. I remember in the olden days, plenty of fish was considered a hook site and match or eHarmony were ones you used for relationships. Tinder when it started was definitely hook up status, but even that has started to change- both my brother's found their long term partners on tinder.

I do think I'm reasonably unusual though, I'm very honest about not wanting a relationship. And I only have sex with people I have good chemistry with. Of my friends, most will have sex on the third or 4th date but before they've established whether a relationship is likely to go anywhere and then get disappointed when it doesn't. It's a difficult one, because you may want sex, but also want a relationship. I think far more men are interested in just sex than women. Not all men, obviously.