How many children in until you knew you were "complete"?

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I have 2 happy and beautiful and healthy DC.

But I don't feel "done" or "complete".

Did you have a strong feeling of feeling 100% content when your youngest, or only, child was born?

I wonder if there's something wrong with me?! Will I always yearn for more DC even if I go on to have another one? I've always pictured myself with 3 DC...

I’m currently 39 weeks with DC2 and I can’t imagine going through pregnancy again, so assuming all goes well then I think for now I feel done at 2. However I know that:

• pregnancy is only a small part of the process
• objectively I’m still quite young to be ‘done’ (33)
• we’ll have 2 under 2 when this DC turns up so I’ve spent 18 months of the last 30 months pregnant, which is probably clouding my ‘never again!’ thoughts re pregnancy 😁

I said to DH a while ago that if we had unlimited money then I’d probably be up for a third when the DC are around 5 and 3 (so I’d be about 36) but he said even if we won the lottery he would want to stick at two. So I suspect the lack of limitless cash and DH’s view means we are done - but I know these things can change so I don’t think it’s a ‘never’ right now, we’ll have to wait and see.

That said lots of people have been telling me that I’ll be done with having kids now as we’ll have one of each so don’t ‘need’ to go for a third. Which seems a bit daft given there are no guarantees about sex and no one ‘needs’ a third anyway! But whatever, people are strange

One.
I have two.😆🤯

I had number 3 3 weeks ago. He will be my last but only because he has to be due to my age and our financial situation. I don't in any way feel done and can't imagine that I ever will.

1, never wanted anymore than that.

None, and I'm complete.

People are odd.

When I was pregnant with my third, so many people said “why the you having another? You’ve already got a boy and a girl”.

I used to say “we are hoping this one will be a Labrador” just to shut them up.

One for me 😊

I have had none. I had no urge or drive to have kids at all.

I have 5. We always planned to have 2-3 kids but after my 3rd I knew instantly after he was born that I wasn't done. I tried to suppress it for 18 months but the feelings just weren't going away. My husband wasn't on board and he really didn't want another so it caused a lot of arguments for a while. He did eventually agree and we had our 4th. I felt very happy and complete after our 4th but I developed postnatal depression. I knew that I didn't want anymore kids and that the experience of PPD had really put me off... that was until I unexpectedly got pregnant with #5 during lockdown! My husband was adamant that it wasn't going to happen but I refused to have a termination. Baby number 5 is now a year old and he's perfect. Obviously would never have anymore. I think you definitely know when you're done. I honestly couldn't imagine doing it again, We both feel stretched to our limits with our time and patience. I know some people have huge families and I admire how they manage but I'm definitely done now. My advise would be that if you desire another then you should go for it! Not many people get to their death bed and regret the kids they have, only the ones they wanted but didn't have.

I have 2 but always have wanted 3. Logically it will not work for our family and we will be stopping at 2. My children are perfect and our life is wonderful and I wouldn’t want to ruin that just because of a feeling.

I have 2 and I know that in a couple of years I will probably want another.

I don't feel "done", however I wouldn't have another one. I thought I was going to drop dead every day for the first 18 months of my youngest life. I developed epilepsy, I had seizures from the exhaustion. I just could not go there again.

Although I would go there again if someone else looked after the baby every single night for me.

I always thought I’d have two bit after one both dh and I just felt no desire for another. We put the decision of 2,3 years then admitted we still had no desire for another. I felt we “should” because other people said we should and ds “needed” a sibling but then we realised those were not good enough reasons to bring a new human into the world. So yes, we were complete with one and no regrets (he’s nearly 9).

Absolutely done at two and had separated from their father so I was completely done. Wanted to concentrate on my career from then on.

Then my new partner and I discovered we were expecting and, although a complete shock (DP never wanted children at all) and total freak out, we fell head over heels in love with our growing baby. Then we discovered our baby had died at a scan which completely destroyed me. So, we kept trying.

nearly five years later and three further MMC, we finally had our little DS. He's SUCH hard work I can't even tell you. As much as we adore him and realise how lucky we are given our experience, he's been angry at the world since he took his first cry. After 18 months of not much sleep and constant crying and moaning while we tip toe around him like a ticking time bomb, I know why I was done at two!

TWO IS ENOUGH, trust me! 😂

I've got 4, having more all depends on how the days been with the 4 I've already got 😂 on good days I'd have more on bad days I definitely feel done!
Today's a bad day and DS 2 has had a tantrum for 1hr today while out for a walk

I always wanted 3. After my second, although I was so happy and grateful for what I had, I couldn't shake off the seeking that someone was missing from the family. I had my third and felt the family was complete. All broodiness went away and never came back (I always loved babies and was always extremely broody!)

This is what I'm worried about! Having another and still not feeling done

I have 3 and third was born, I felt that if I don't have any more, I will be fine. I wouldn't mind another one but I don't have that much feeling about it. My husband however would love another two!!

One. After DS was born I never longed for another. He's nearly 9 and my feelings haven't changed.

I always pictured myself with two children and that's what I now have. I have no desire for another even though it can be bittersweet knowing there are things I will never experience again. I knew for sure by my reactions to friends' pregnancy announcements. After my first, whenever I heard someone was pregnant I would have a "can't wait until that's me" feeling. When a friend told me she was having a third I was glad it wasn't me! (Although thrilled for her as it's what she wanted!)

Had PND after my second child and know I could never go through that again so I am done.

Two. But then I remarried and I have the urge to have babies with my new dh!

But I'm too old and I don't want to go back to the baby stage so it's never gonna happen!!

I have 2 and don't feel done, but I know we won't have another, we don't really have space.

Done at 2. It was decided during a conversation had with my dh. We could have happily and irresponsibly gone on to have many more but we couldn't afford to.

One, so far.
People often say I’ll want another when he gets older, but I don’t see it happening at the moment.

Four children. Just knew because of the emergency C section there was no way I was going through that again. Definitely feel done.