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Should I ever tell my sons

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User280905 · 01/05/2022 21:47

That I fucking hate the Marvel movies?

I don't care about them, I don't understand them, I don't want to understand them, I never want to watch another one ever again.

But I keep watching them because I like us spending time together, even if it's watching shit tv. I like that they want to share something they love with me, I like how they get pleasure from feeling that they're teaching me about something.

This afternoon they were arguing about which order I should watch particular movies in so I can understand them better. I pictured myself saying "Actually boys, I don't like any of them. I don't care which order I watch them in. I don't want to watch another one ever again in my entire life".

They would be genuinely shocked.

I wouldn't tell them now because I would lose out on hanging out with them. But should I ever tell them? What would they say if I tell them when they're 45? Will they feel cheated out of fond childhood memories? Will they laugh at all the time I wasted? Will they love me more because I spent hours of my life sitting with them staring into space just because I love them?

Right now I am sitting beside them while they watch Dr Strange, so I am prepared for when we go to the cinema next week to see Dr Strange 2. I can hardly wait. I am sitting here without a clue what's going in in the film, fantasising about confessing my deepest darkest secret. We're going to a cinema in the next town with reclining chairs so I'll probably fall asleep within the first 10 minutes.

They're teenagers btw, I should probably just be grateful they want to be in the same room as me.

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IstayedForTheFeminism · 01/05/2022 21:51

Mine (17 and 15) know that I don't GAF about a lot of the things we watch together. But part of being a family is doing things you don't really want to because the other members like it. They also watch things that I choose and they don't like because they love me and want to try and enjoy things I like.

MsMonroeSpeaking · 01/05/2022 21:51

I watched all the Marvel films in order as a way to bond with my teenage son over lockdown . I also listen to his long monologues on them and nod enthusiastically.

I can’t stand them. So corny and such cringey acting!

I say nothing, though. It’s showing an interest in something he enjoys and means we get to spend time together as I coax him out of his bedroom and off his phone!

(I feel your pain, though!).

WithANameLikeDaniCalifornia · 01/05/2022 21:57

Don't tell them now. Don't put them off wanting to spend time with you.

You can maybe tell them when they're 40 that the films are fucking shit.

IsDaveThere · 01/05/2022 21:58

My brother (age 50!!!) gave me a lecture about Marvel vs DC films earlier and was trying to tell me that should I want to watch Z, I need to watch X and Y first. Err... no thanks!

Shrimpseyelashes · 01/05/2022 22:03

Ugh, I have fallen asleep during every single Marvel film I have attempted to watch. They are totally cringey and far far too long.
Saying that though, I do agree that you need to keep up the pretence for the family time, painful though it will be!

Sausagerollandrock · 01/05/2022 22:05

God @User280905 are you me 😂

My boys are now very early 20's and it's only come out recently that I didn't EVER understand Minecraft nor care about Power Rangers or have a burning desire to stand at the side of a freezing football pitch. I did it because I loved them and they loved it/them.
They seemed to get in 😉

Savingpeoplehuntingthings · 01/05/2022 22:11

My ds likes to go on walks with me just so he can tell me every star wars fact under the sun. He knows literally every back story to every character and tells them all to me. He's 12, don't know how much longer he'll want to include me in his world. I'll miss it.
I genuinely love marvel though, I'll watch them willingly

BogRollBOGOF · 01/05/2022 22:12

When DS2 started prattling at DM about pokemon, she suddenly realised that she had half an idea of what he was talking about and must have absorbed some of the hours of DB's ramblings on the subject 15 years earlier 😂

My family have a lot of niche interests between them and I spend a lot of my life smiling and nodding to keep them all happy. No bugger returns the favour when I want a scintilating conversation about neoprene. It's like living with barbarians honestly!

persephone19 · 01/05/2022 22:17

In my case never. They're a special interest for my autistic DS 14, and I love watching them with him even though I couldn't care less about the plot and still don't really understand thanos - because he chats to me and lets me share his blanket ❤️

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User280905 · 01/05/2022 22:21

You can maybe tell them when they're 40 that the films are fucking shit

If I leave it too late to admit the truth they might think I'm losing my marbles and its time to put me in a care home.

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OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 01/05/2022 22:27

My sons are huge marvel fans (they are grown ups), I don’t mind them (I was always a huge comic fan) but ds3 has to pick apart every new episode of whatever on Disney; currently, fucking Moonknight, which is soooo incredibly shite. He’s offered to go and see the new Dr Strange with me. I’ve tried to watch the first one three times and fallen asleep every time. I’m not telling them.

tealandteal · 01/05/2022 22:27

My Dh and DS (4) absolutely love Marvel, DS has never seen the films but has seen some cartoons. I like to namedrop a few characters that I know are not Marvel just to annoy them.

TokyoTen · 01/05/2022 22:29

Don't tell them whatever you do! I have watched tons of episodes of Dr Who no idea what it's about. Also Superstore, sorry if someone likes it but I think it's crap! But they like it...... The time when they don't want to do stuff with you will end all too soon so make the most of it! (Mine are early twenties now).

Time2ChangeName · 01/05/2022 22:29

I endured the Star Wars franchise and my children knew I hated them.

sobeyondthehills · 01/05/2022 22:33

I think myself and DS have a unspoken agreement, he watches Dr Who with me and I will let him chat for hours about minecraft.

DP has to do both

MoonKnight · 01/05/2022 22:36

haha it’s the opposite here. My teens hate marvel but I love it! They have to listen to me prattle on about it. It’s payback for having to listen to Pokémon/Thomas the bloody tank/minecraft/five nights at Freddy’s for years 😂

BlackeyedSusan · 01/05/2022 22:42

Wait until they have children and are watching Frozen 43 for the 498th time...then tell them.

Cliftontherocks · 01/05/2022 22:46

Mine are obsessed with various things like Mr Bean or Friends and not ‘normal’ kid stuff and there’s 8 years between them. It’s weird. They like things and I potter off. I don’t love standing and watching them horse ride for hours or play football. But love that they have a parent willing to do it

underneaththeash · 01/05/2022 22:47

I like both Star Wars and Marvel.
I cannot stand the mind-numbing romantic comedy’s DD likes to watch though..

Sux2buthen · 01/05/2022 22:53

OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 01/05/2022 22:27

My sons are huge marvel fans (they are grown ups), I don’t mind them (I was always a huge comic fan) but ds3 has to pick apart every new episode of whatever on Disney; currently, fucking Moonknight, which is soooo incredibly shite. He’s offered to go and see the new Dr Strange with me. I’ve tried to watch the first one three times and fallen asleep every time. I’m not telling them.

Just finished moon knight tonightConfused. Partner wanted to watch it. It definitely takes a turn

Fizzyfish · 01/05/2022 22:56

Thankyou, I thought it was just me. Yanbu, they're shit

LemonDrizzleSlice · 01/05/2022 22:58

I love Marvel films. DC used to as well. But now doesn't want to watch them. Won't watch anything with me, actually.

Enjoy this time. Would you sit them down and say "By the way kids, I never enjoyed wiping your arses when you were little". I mean, what would be the point?

skippy67 · 01/05/2022 23:06

Love Marvel! Seen them all with my dc who are now early 20s. I also watched all the Harry Potter films with them and hated every single one.

AnAfternoonWalk · 01/05/2022 23:37

I enjoy spending time with my son and listening to his interests. They’ve become my interests too, to an extent. I’m glad he wants to have long conversations with me. Childhood and the teen years go so fast. Think of it this way. Your loved ones may have to keep their eyes from glazing over when subjected to your interests and conversation 😂

AnAfternoonWalk · 01/05/2022 23:38

If I were you, I’d never tell them you feel this way. It would change how they think of you.

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