Should I ever tell my sons

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That I fucking hate the Marvel movies?

I don't care about them, I don't understand them, I don't want to understand them, I never want to watch another one ever again.

But I keep watching them because I like us spending time together, even if it's watching shit tv. I like that they want to share something they love with me, I like how they get pleasure from feeling that they're teaching me about something.

This afternoon they were arguing about which order I should watch particular movies in so I can understand them better. I pictured myself saying "Actually boys, I don't like any of them. I don't care which order I watch them in. I don't want to watch another one ever again in my entire life".

They would be genuinely shocked.

I wouldn't tell them now because I would lose out on hanging out with them. But should I ever tell them? What would they say if I tell them when they're 45? Will they feel cheated out of fond childhood memories? Will they laugh at all the time I wasted? Will they love me more because I spent hours of my life sitting with them staring into space just because I love them?

Right now I am sitting beside them while they watch Dr Strange, so I am prepared for when we go to the cinema next week to see Dr Strange 2. I can hardly wait. I am sitting here without a clue what's going in in the film, fantasising about confessing my deepest darkest secret. We're going to a cinema in the next town with reclining chairs so I'll probably fall asleep within the first 10 minutes.

They're teenagers btw, I should probably just be grateful they want to be in the same room as me.

Get them to watch Star Trek, that’s much better

DH enjoys watching Marvel films with DS now 17. DS wouldn’t be seen dead with us at the cinema nowadays but was quite put out when we went to watch Venom recently (I’m a Tom Hardy fan so happy to watch him in any film).
DS will often watch films with me, we have a mutual love of Lord of the Rings, Harry Potter and anything similar. Although being a bit of a cool food nowadays I have to keep it a secret.

if you’ve gone this far, just enjoy the fact your teenage boys want to spend time with you.

Personally my DDs 10yo & younger know I can’t stand a lot of crap they like, I even use the word crap. They know I tune out or leave them to it, but that dosnt mean we don’t talk bout it or they can’t chatter away to me. We have a lot of other stuff we do enjoy together and can bond over.

I feel your pain. My boys are 27 and 24 now but i had to endure Harry Potter. Fucking hate HP. Don't understand them. Erghhhh

You are a great Mum. I have watched pretty much every episode of Teen Titans Go at some point but I actually find it fairly funny which is lucky. I just couldn’t watch a Marvel movie if you paid me. I tend to make my DD half watch things with me she doesn’t really like instead of the other way round.

ha ha. Mother love at its finest.
I agree. All my adult kids love them so I am regularly confronted with them . I can never understand them either. Say nothing and try to perfect the art of sleeping with your eyes open.

We used to watch the film together every night. Now I still watch them most of the nights, but if my ds is watching something I don't want to, I don't.

Good thing is, we have similar taste, so most of the time, I enjoy it.

I try and show interest, DD knows I’ll never love them and know every detail like she does, but appreciates that I’m willing to watch them occasionally and ask her about anything I don’t understand. I’ve never pretended I’m watching them other than because she wants to. She humours me by coming along to the occasional period drama on the same basis. Fortunately for her DH loves them as much as she does so they usually go and see them together at the cinema and watch all the TV stuff together.

DD is also a huge Harry Potter fan and has been telling me for years I ought to read them (I read the first one before we went to HP Studios and found it a bit of a yawn). This year I have caved in and now I’m on the 5th one I am loving them, so I’m glad she nagged me into it.

My sons were like this about Star Wars and were most upset when I pointed out I was only 11 or something when the first one came out and I didn't see it and I've never seen any of them or understand the story.
I'm not keen on the marvel or DC films either op , not my thing at all.
I like Harry Potter though , but the books are far more superior to the films.

My son was like this with Star Wars when he was younger.

He’s 20 now and still doesn’t know my utter, lifelong hatred for all things star wars.

He bought me a star wars mug for my last birthday, so good was all my acting like the worlds biggest star wars fan for all those years.

I need an oscar.

I went with Dh to see 'the eternals ' last year because he made me feel guilty that I didn't see films with him that he likes etc and we were fed up with lockdown and the cinemas were opening up again etc ! I was bored for two and a half hours , but we did go to an Italian afterwards , so it was worth it for the food at least. I hadn't a clue what it was about :(
I think that was marvel , but not sure ?

I’ve got 3 girls and they make me watch a load of princessy nonsense that I did my best to steer them away from. DH and I love marvel. You might enjoy them a bit more if you stop staring into space- they are cheesy but some decent storytelling (I thought I would hate them before DH convinced me to watch some). Watching them in order might not be the best idea. They tend to get better as they go on.

however I do think you are lovely for doing this for your sons.

Handhold OP, I have sat through some really bad films that my sons thought were amazing.

Reminds me of the time I was convinced to come along to Detective Pikachu by DH and DD. I had lost the will to live by about halfway through, they thought it was great.

YABU.

I endured years of the fucking Wizards of fucking Waverley fucking Place and in recompense, I only managed to get one of them into Marvel and Ghibli whilst the other wittered on about Doctor bloody Who (gently guided to her father for that as he'd be delighted to have an opportunity to burble on about how they're all awful since Tom Baker stopped being The Doctor).

Your perceived suffering pales in comparison to the ordeal of hours of Selina sodding Gomez being a Disney Child Star every spare moment of the day for years with only Phineas and Ferb as an occasional palate cleanser.

Neither ever got Star Trek or Star Wars. Fortunately, they both left me alone when I stated that Charmander was boring, the only cool pokemon was Mew II and that if they like monsters, I could give them loads of proper Kaiju movies. Although one did nickname a particular group of three permanently shouting staff at school The Ghidorah, so I didn't completely fail in that respect.

Anyhow, smile sweetly and console yourself with the thought that one day, they'll be wishing they could disappear into another incarnation of the multiverse whilst their cherished offspring tell them about exactly why -insert random popular culture character- is soooo important to the story of -another random popular character-. And you'll be sitting there smiling benignly at them thinking PAYBACK.

They will realise eventually. You don't need to tell them. Just like 🎅

There’s no need to tell them now or ever. It’s not important. I doubt my mum enjoyed Playschool but I have such precious memories of sitting on her lap and watching it as a young child.

I have teen boys and we’ve had the Marvel stage. I just enjoyed the time I got to spend with them watching it. They got into James Bond after that. That phase was far more enjoyable for me.

Don’t tell them! My 8 year old sweetheart little boy is watching the marvel movies in order with his dad on Friday nights. Ds neither understands nor particularly enjoys the films- but he loves staying up later with his dad having a lemonade and some popcorn and listen to him explain the films. Dh loves the films and enjoys sharing them with him. They both get something out of it! ( dh will also watch other films with him like minions and the croods that ds picks)

This is why I knit. I can knit and ignore watch endless hours of Minecraft creations or rocket league tournaments or insane tv/movies and have something useful at the end of it. Obviously less possible in the cinema. I just have a pricey nap there.

It seems a shame to destroy what could be a cherished memory of their youth.

I hate soap operas with a passion but they are some of the only times that my entire family sat down together to do something.

I enjoy the Marvel films (don't hate me) but I feel the same way about many of the things the DC are into. E.g. I couldn't care less about football but watch all 12yo DS' games and take him to practice and pay £££ for training and kit and snazzy boots and listen to him going on about the latest players. Zzz. He knows I don't care about football but that I do care about him and am interested in what he enjoys. He's fine with it.

I hate them too OP so my lot know if a film is going on it's anything but marvel.....give me Star Wars any day, we've all loved those together. Currently watching a Hobbit film with my 14 year old and reminiscing about how he was so upset he couldn't see them in the cinema as a very little boy, and only got to see the last one in the cinema after we negotiated with him down to being allowed to go in costume but insisting his weapons stayed at home!

God they're awful aren't they?

My DH wants to watch every new release whenever they come out . T
Why are there are so many new releases?

I do let him know I hate them, that way I get the choice of the next film!

He bought me a star wars mug for my last birthday

That's lovely.

We watched another one tonight, no idea which one but it seemed to have lots of characters in it. Ds2 got annoyed with ds1 for giving away a plot line "you'll spoil it for mum". I wanted to say that nothing will spoil it for me because I haven't a clue who anyone is or what's going on.

😆 bless them.