What can you say to people that constantly drone on about how busy they are

HackneyGirl2022 · 19/04/2022 23:30

Lol I moan about this everyday to my partner 😂😂😂

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LovelyYellowLabrador · 19/04/2022 23:35

That should obv say dick !

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Hawkins001 · 19/04/2022 23:37

Could always respond that it's good your being productive and have you considered time improvement strategies ect ?

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LovelyYellowLabrador · 19/04/2022 23:38

There a funny meme
About this

I'm still tired
from yesterdays
tired.
Today isn't
looking so good,
and I've already
used up
tomorrow's tired.

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LovelyYellowLabrador · 19/04/2022 23:39

Hawkins there’s also a book about it

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LovelyYellowLabrador · 19/04/2022 23:40

Working hard/ hardly working a guide to working smarter !

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SylviasMotherSaid · 19/04/2022 23:44

I’ve got friends who tell me they are too busy to exercise or whatever else but can find all day to message me about how busy they are .

Hawkins001 · 19/04/2022 23:46

@LovelyYellowLabrador

Working hard/ hardly working a guide to working smarter !

But if you offer the book, it's oh I'm way too busy to consider reading it, (even if it would actually help them better.)

Flowersandwine12 · 20/04/2022 06:53

God I hate people who do this. In one group chat I have one person post every morning of aaaalll the things she has to do that day and then at 10/11pm she'll pop back up with "so I haven't been able to reply I've just been so busy with..." and list most of it again.

I've also been told I'm lucky I can find the free time to exercise and X and Y are just too busy to find time, well I go the gym at 6am, don't pretend you couldn't to!

Sorry no pointers on what to say to these people but they annoy me to

Lizziekisss · 20/04/2022 07:49

Eek…😬 that’s me that it. Well not exactly but I have friends and family who don’t work ( not sahm as all kids adult) but don’t get that because I work ft I don’t have the same free time as them.

myusernamewastakenbyme · 20/04/2022 07:54

We have a friend in our group too who is constantly banging on about being busy....its really draining....the rest of us just roll our eyes....someone suggested a recipe for homemade soup the other week...she said she couldn't possibly make it as shes far too busy.
Really pisses me off when she messages me apologising for not being in contact as shes so busy...she fails to see that ive not contacted her either.

AnastasiaRomanov · 20/04/2022 07:57

Some people seem to feel that being busy is
a badge of honour. Someone I know boasted that she’s too busy to wash her car! She doesn’t even work !

onemouseplace · 20/04/2022 08:03

I have one of these friends. Always so busy, but maybe if she didn’t reply to any WhatsApp message on any group within a nanosecond of someone else posting she’d be a bit less distracted and actually get on with the stuff she’s so ‘busy’ with.

BigSandyBalls2015 · 20/04/2022 08:07

I had forgotten how many of these people I work with. Went into the office the other week and one spent most of her day walking around, chatting, catching up with people, walking to the tea point, getting lunch.

5.30 I was off … she said “oh I’ll prob be here until gone 7, so much to do”🤦‍♀️

RampantIvy · 20/04/2022 08:10

And they often make you feel like you are their last priority.

Loads of people post on MN about how busy they are, often due to the life choices they make. For example:
Why have 6 children if you dislike being busy?
Your children don't need to do an after school activity every night of the week.
You don't need to visit your parents/inlaws every weekend.

I think some people like to feel self important with their busyness or like to martyr themselves.

JesusWearsPrada · 20/04/2022 08:21

I have a family member who does this. They take far too much on with family/work/life then at least twice a week will message me listing everything they've done and/or moaning about being too busy, having no time & playing the martyr. I feel as though she has really low self-esteem & this being so "busy" gives her purpose & makes her feel some self-importace. It does come across as bragging sometimes though and even condescending, as though nobody else is capable of such busy. It can be irritating (& not stating everyone who does this is lacking self-esteem) but I think those that do it could perhaps do with a little empathy. I just make the right noises & she's happy.

DinosApple · 20/04/2022 08:26

I'm always amazed at how busy other people are. It's very definitely their choice though so I don't get riled by it if they moan - just feel glad it's not me! I prefer a slower pace, my housekeeping and social life reflect this 😆

Fizbosshoes · 20/04/2022 08:30

Loads of people post on MN about how busy they are, often due to the life choices they make. For example:
Why have 6 children if you dislike being busy?
Your children don't need to do an after school activity every night of the week.

I have a friend who does this on fb. She doesn't have loads of kids but the ones she does have, do about 68 hobbies each. Per day. And then ..."its been a hectic weekend with x's choir performance, followed by a gymnastics display and then drove 100 miles for swimming gala and back for ys band concert and athletics"

BookkeeperBobby · 20/04/2022 08:34

Agree it's usually due to insecurity but it's annoying. Mostly because it's boring but also because the small part of me that never stopped being a teenager comparing myself to others does feel a twinge of self-doubt when I hear it.

Jonny1265 · 20/04/2022 08:41

My FIL used to do this once he had retired. Really annoyed me as we had so much more to fit into the day with young kids and demanding jobs. My choice to be that busy and I never complained about it. I guess time feels different for people.....

RampantIvy · 20/04/2022 09:04

I guess if someone says how

RampantIvy · 20/04/2022 09:05

Something went wrong there.
If someone says how busy they are, just reply with "Well, I won't take up any more of your time then. Goodbye."

HijHij · 20/04/2022 09:08

LovelyYellowLabrador · 19/04/2022 23:29

Honestly it’s like a dock measuring contest to some people
Even listing off what time they got up and all the chores and jobs they need to do

Honestly it so bloody dull !!

Tell them to get moving, no time for droning.

mamabeeboo · 20/04/2022 09:16

A lot of people get overwhelmed quite easily, and coat that with the "so busy" line. When I speak to these "busy" people, I do genuinely ask them what they have done in the day that could have taken so long, and it's usually some housework, cooking, cleaning, errands, which I would be able to get done well before midday.

Same with work, the whole team are swamped with so much to do. I'm sitting on MN, emails done, targest reached before anyone else. I'm not quite sure what everyone else is doing...

FloodTheBathroom · 20/04/2022 09:25

RampantIvy · 20/04/2022 08:10

And they often make you feel like you are their last priority.

Loads of people post on MN about how busy they are, often due to the life choices they make. For example:
Why have 6 children if you dislike being busy?
Your children don't need to do an after school activity every night of the week.
You don't need to visit your parents/inlaws every weekend.

I think some people like to feel self important with their busyness or like to martyr themselves.

We have this with my DC's best friend. It's mainly quite sad as she never gets to see her friend. When we try to organise a playdate it's like "we have an afternoon free on five weeks" and when we duly turn up the kid is so exhausted she can barely acknowledge my very excited child. Not sure it's doing th bkids any favours.