Mum making comments about my relationship

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My mum quite occasionally makes comments about mine and DP’s relationship. Not nice ones and usually hinting she doesn’t like him/us

Me and DP constantly joke with eachother and have good banter. We never take life seriously. I also don’t like displaying lots affection in front of people so we don’t often do it we prefer to be affectionate/romantic in private.

We’ve been together 4 nearly 5 years and have a baby together so I thought by now my mum would stop the comments but she hasn’t

Even then, she just said “you two speak to each other like you’ve been together for 30 years not 5!” Which I don’t understand?

I’ve confronted her before and she insists she likes him and doesn’t have a problem but I’m starting to think she’s lying?

I guess I’m just ranting it really bothers me and I don’t want to cut her out she’s a really good Nan to our baby but I just feel uncomfortable around her and when me and DP are together around her

Even then, she just said “you two speak to each other like you’ve been together for 30 years not 5!” Which I don’t understand?

That means you're very relaxed and happy with each other and she can see that. It's a good thing!

Yeah I wouldn't take insult to the 30 year thing.

What else does she say?

Although what way of talking denotes thirty years not 5?
Complacency?
Sarcasm?

If it is bsed on that comment, then this is your insecurity not your mum’s attitude that is the issue

From your post, I would assume you have insecurities about your relationship and that’s the issue.

She’s said stuff like how the honeymoon phase didn’t last long with us (not sure how she’d know this) how we’ve just rushed everything and don’t really know eachother and how her and my dad didn’t argue after having a baby so why were we?

So these comments made me take the one I mentioned in my original post negatively

She thinks a normal relationship is Her Relationship. Sounds likeva defence mechanism to avoid ever questioning that

Sometimes banter (and inside jokes) comes across as bickering and one-upmanship hence the 30 years comment. Sounds like she is feeling uncomfortable with your level of banter in front of her, maybe its time to dial it back a bit.