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To not understand the need for "walks"

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walkingDisaster22 · 14/04/2022 18:06

Anyone else similar to me and not understand the need for walks or enjoyment in walking.
My in laws are obsessed with walking and think i'm odd (or maybe a sloth!) for not wanting to go out daily walking.
Where is the enjoyment in mud and rain? I would rather chill with a good book. Please tell me I'm not on my own?

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fizzandchips · 14/04/2022 21:18

Until 1st lockdown I would have agreed with you. Just didn’t get it. As did many people, during first lockdown I went outside once a day for exercise. The longer I walked the longer I got to stay outside. Gradually the walks became the highlight of my day. Two years on, I’m now one of those people who “goes out for a walk” and I’m much happier and healthier for it. New research came out this week backing up previous research that People who walk briskly for two and a half hours a week have a 25 per cent lower risk of depression. My daily walks make me feel better physically and mentally. I’m so very glad I learned to love walking, but a few of my old friends are still surprised as ,like you, I used to be very much a “non walker”.

Soresoresore · 14/04/2022 21:20

I love walking around a city or town. I also like driving out somewhere and walking around. I love the countryside.

Having said that, I have lived here nearly 20 years and don’t think I have ever just gone for a walk straight out of my front door.

We live rurally and there is nothing to walk to. It’s quite bleak where our house is.
Much nicer ‘walks’ just a short drive away.

Daisychainsandglitter · 14/04/2022 21:21

I really enjoy walking and usually walk between 6-7 miles a day. I enjoy the time to myself listening to music.
Really lifts my mood.

mrziggycoco · 14/04/2022 21:22

Nope. "going for a walk" to me is akin to "going up the stairs for no reason" no thank you.

As for exercise, it's the bane of my life. I so need to do it at 40 and starting to feel creaking in my body. So I try to walk as much as possible by using my feet instead of transport whenever I'm out and about on my own.

I will also jog, but for fun? Just no.

I can understand why people like it though, out in the air, abandoned, free..... I mean I enjoy supermarket shopping a lot and just moseying around the store, but it stems from that feeling of independence I got upon moving out. I still find the supermarket a haven of tranquillity and even though I moved out on my own over 20 years ago I still feel it and enjoy it, while most find it a drudge and chore.

It's the same with walking I imagine. So I get it, but if someone asks me to 'come for a walk' it makes me dislike them a little inside.

ClinkeyMonkey · 14/04/2022 21:22

I can't NOT walk!! It keeps me sane.

mumsn3tt3r · 14/04/2022 21:25

When my DC was little, I couldn't drive and we walked everywhere. Since passing my test 6 years ago, I became very lazy.

Lockdown was the next time I got any decent exercise. Loved walking through my local golf course and cemetery and barely meeting another sole. And even if i didn't initially feel like it, I always felt better for it and slept better.

Helped a lot when I was struggling with my mental health, but I had to really push myself to start it again.

Now I've moved and as soon as the sun comes out, my town is heaving and I can't think of anything worse than having to walk round it, but again, I think for my mental health I need to start.

3WildOnes · 14/04/2022 21:25

I love walking. Going for a walk in beautiful countryside is probably my favourite activity. I wouldn’t go for a walk around the houses. But a walk in a big park or gardens, along a river, in a forest, up a mountain or along a costal path is my idea of a perfect day.

Changeee1546789 · 14/04/2022 21:28

I love walking but I never used to. It makes me feel a million times better mentally and is great for physical health too. As I’ve gotten older (late 30’s) I’ve fallen in love with it. Not full on hiking though !

Ginandcrispsarebliss · 14/04/2022 21:33

I felt the same as you until we bought our dog when he was a puppy 4 years ago. Since then I love walking in the countryside, across fields and woodland. We live in the countryside but not far from the coast.We walk in all weather's and feel so much better. Lost 4 stone since having our dog with combined dog walks/other excerise. If you knew me, you would definitely be surprised as I never walked anywhere before.

Narwhalelife · 14/04/2022 21:35

Can only walk with my dogs…or what’s the point 🤣🤣 IMO

womanchild · 14/04/2022 21:39

I feel like I can only really relax with a book or similar once I've gone for a walk and had some exhilarating fresh air,.plus it's way better than a gym membership and without it I would be the size of a house. It's not all mud and rain!

NeverDropYourMooncup · 14/04/2022 21:41

I grew up surrounded by concrete, broken glass and white dog shit. I wasn't allowed out, but indoors was even worse, locked in and kept prisoner in yet more filth and with added danger from a raging arsehole. I wanted to get away, but I wasn't allowed to. I spent a lot of time staring at the sky out the window until I was caught looking outside and punished for it.

I have no real desire to walk through shuttered up shops, overfilled litter bins and avoiding street beggars and pissheads sitting on the benches in the town centre. However, it's quicker to walk through that than wait in it for a bus or sit on a bus doing the equivalent of a 940 degree turn to get around the completely unused road system that has been closed to sit empty in the hope that somebody on a bicycle might someday choose to use it.

But if there's fresh air, a clear breeze, maybe rain, maybe sunshine, greenery, wildlife that isn't a rat or one legged pigeon and sky instead of yet more grey concrete, mostly deserted office blocks, I feel great. I want to run and walk and sit to catch my breath in a glowing pool of sunlight before continuing onto the second half.

Any exercise is good. The feeling in well worked muscles, of a heart working hard, overrides chronic pain. It's pain that has a purpose, you feel it leave. But add that into a feeling of peace, the lack of mental tension, the way your eyes can relax looking upon an expanse of green rather than the noise and sights of city life, the sight of the sky - it's great and if I can't run, I will walk. And feel alive.

womanchild · 14/04/2022 21:41

Also watching the seasons change and seeing the spring blossom, the summer flowers and the golden autumn blaze

MammaMacgill87 · 14/04/2022 21:43

Even with good music I struggle to just meander about the place, I get it, it's healthy and good for the brain and soul etc etc but it's literally moving your legs across random landscapes usually cold or wet or boooooored. Factor in kids and it's bored and wet and cold and herding children demanding water and snack and look at this 17,00000 stick I found. Park yeah ok, activity yes, but just wandering around? No I don't like it, I've never liked it, I'll never like it unless Tom Hardy is Infront of me in full Taboo get up, I'm not going to like it 🤣🤣🤣

nopenotplaying · 14/04/2022 21:43

I'm ok with walking, I get that. But parachuting why jump out of a perfectly good plane?

ChateauxNeufDePoop · 14/04/2022 21:51

@walkingDisaster22

Anyone else similar to me and not understand the need for walks or enjoyment in walking. My in laws are obsessed with walking and think i'm odd (or maybe a sloth!) for not wanting to go out daily walking. Where is the enjoyment in mud and rain? I would rather chill with a good book. Please tell me I'm not on my own?
I do both. Would imagine a lot of people do. Both are great for mental health and walking is good for physical health too. It doesn't rain every day.

Although your phrasing "to not understand the need for walks or enjoyment in walking" makes you sound a bit closed minded. Surely it's obvious different people like different things so it's not a mental stretch to understand why some might like walking?

Oldowl · 14/04/2022 21:54

I love a walk and so do my children. Both are now at university and I miss our evening walks and chats.

DS (19) loves an hour's walk about 9pm. All I want is my bed, but he drags me out, we have a lovely chat and feel so much better for it when we get home. I do feel very lucky and grateful that they want to spend time like this and must admit I don't walk as much when they are away.

PaperMonster · 14/04/2022 21:55

I don’t like walking in bad weather but I do when it’s dry. I like being out in the fresh air, I like seeing beautiful scenery and it keeps me mobile and pain-free.

diamondpony80 · 14/04/2022 22:05

I don’t understand how people get enjoyment in walking either. I’d much prefer to stay at home. Or drive to the places I need to get to. Now that the weather is getting better though I do choose to walk DD home from school sometimes as I see the value in walking for exercise. I do it more for her than for myself though. Audible helps with the boredom when I’m walking alone.

Benjispruce4 · 14/04/2022 22:06

DD1 hated walking as a child. She would moan. Now at 21 and at uni, she walks a lot and even when she is at home, she’ll go out for a 45 min walk with or without the dog. She’s become so used to walking everywhere at university and getting her steps there so she likes to keep it up. It does make me laugh when I remembered how she used to moan!

CalmH2O · 14/04/2022 22:14

I love walking with someone and being able to talk with no distractions

MissMaple82 · 14/04/2022 22:31

Maybe you should try it. Exercise, nature, peace, tranquility, sight seeing, talking to other walkers, yes you are a weirdo

MissMaple82 · 14/04/2022 22:32

I dint think they are referring to walking as in walking down the street. Walking on the countryside - very different

workwoes123 · 14/04/2022 22:33

I used to agree. I grew up in a farm, middle of nowhere. The only people that ‘walked’ were visitors / tourists and incomers. My sister and I would play out in the field and woods and walk for miles, but not that pointless marching along road verges.

But older now, I like a walk. With a friend of course, and a chat, and ideally a cup of tea / beer at the end. Nice, gentle exercise.

MrsSkylerWhite · 14/04/2022 22:37

eddiemairswife

A pointless activity.“

Nope. A year of regular walking gave me a drum tight flat stomach for the first time in my life (of nearly 59 years).