What should a 6 year old girl wear to a funeral?

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I feel that I should know this, but I don't. Sadly, we have to go to a funeral and DD will be coming with us. It will be a formal/traditional funeral. What should she wear? She doesn't have any black clothes, or anything particularly dark. School uniform? If not, does anyone know where I could buy some formal children's clothes for an event like this.

Mine just wore smart things. One time they wore school uniform. Another just a plain dress with tights and either school shoes or boots.

Just a nice dress. I wouldn't buy something funeral ish.
Something like this?
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A plain dress and cardigan with tights and school shoes. Places like Tesco will have jersey dresses in sensible colours if you don’t have one.

Something tidy she already has, in reasonably muted colours.

Just something clean and neat, and as smart as you can manage. It doesn't matter what colour it is.

School skirt trousers, or pinafore with a pretty top. Covered with a plain coat.

When my DD, age 11, came to my Mum's funeral last year, she wore her very best and most gorgeous party dress.

So I think it depends on whose funeral it is, and who they were to your daughter.

(Though agree with the others that plain is better than patterned, muted colours better than Day-Glo pink. Long sleeves look more formal than short.)

Navy, purple, dark muted preferably plain

Anything smart to show respect but at that age I'd not be buying a nothing. Ask friends if they have anything you can borrow if need be

Anything smart in a muted colour. A patterned top would be okay if worn with dark trousers/skirt and a dark cardigan for example. I would rather a well behaved child in a bright party dress!

Agree with the poster above to ask around if anyone has anything you can borrow.

Thank you all. It seems like it is totally acceptable for children to wear colours other than black. I'll put her in some formal but not black clothes.

Traditionally kids wore school uniform as outside of sunday clothes this was their best/smartest. I would go smart none logo /sill motif or saying sensible shoes and coat if there is any outside part. Most people are not too worried what the children wear. I did judge my SIL for wearing jeggings though to Dads funeral

I would not take a 6 year old to a funeral. Would child not be better off at school?

@caringcarer

I would not take a 6 year old to a funeral. Would child not be better off at school?

I knew there would be one!!!

The OP didn't ask your opinion on this!

School uniform is absolutely fine.
Sorry for your loss OP

My children wore dresses that they’d picked for the last family photo shoot we did with the deceased.

Both had summer dresses and cardigans. One was navy and white with splashes of pink and the other beige, cream, black and burgundy patch work patterns. Difficult to describe but actually very pretty.

No one expects children in black at funerals. Stick them in a bright petty dress as a symbol that life goes on.

Sorry for your loss

@caringcarer

I would not take a 6 year old to a funeral. Would child not be better off at school?

Easter holidays. Even if it wasn't it's the parent's decision and not what OP asked about.

@caringcarer

I would not take a 6 year old to a funeral. Would child not be better off at school?

It wouldn’t have been my choice to take 6 and 3 year olds either, but my MIL was adamant they needed the closure and to say goodbye too.

She was right.

Are you sure the funeral would be the best place for her? It can be very difficult indeed for a six year old to witness not just the funeral but to process the upset emotions of the mourners.

My 6 year old came to my Dad’s funeral a couple of years back. He just wore a smart shirt and some Chinos, not black. School uniform or any other smart outfit would be absolutely fine, I don’t think black is necessary.

@caringcarer

I would not take a 6 year old to a funeral. Would child not be better off at school?

That's not what the OP asked.

You don't know who the deceased is or how they were connected to the child.

DD, same age, we found her some black jeans. It was my Mum's funeral, and she loved a bit of animal print, so was thrilled when we found a black and grey leopard print top. Cost about £15 all in from H&M and she got lots of wear out of them afterwards.

I took my almost 2 year old and my 10 month old, one wore chinos and a shirt, the other wore a mulberry coloured romper with a cream bodysuit under it. I think smart is more important than black for small children.

In contrast to other posters i still regret not taking my 6 and 8 yo to their great grandmothers funeral. I left them at school, and had to scoot from the wake, all their cousins were there and I actually think it would have been beneficial them to have attended ( this was years ago)
Hope it goes ok op