Should a person cook what their spouse wants or what their child wants?

[Nomunkat]

Hypothetical situation
My husband asked me the same question and was a bit surprised at my response

Say one spouse is in a relationship where they are the main person to cook and makes dinner for their family every night (if one spouse works full time and the other is a stay at home parent for instance).
On nights where they don't know what to cook or don't fancy anything particular, and they ask spouse and child what they want to eat. If they both want to eat something different, what should they cook? What the partner wants or what the child wants?

I end up cooking different things for everyone. Not ideal but there aren't that many meals DH and DC all enjoy. I will typically cook enough for two nights though so I'm not cooking multiple meals every night

I would not ask either of them, I'd do a menu plan and get all the ingredients at the shop and cook the meals I had planned. X

"I'm pregnant and have been craving duck paté but can't, for the life of me, find it anywhere! Had to stick with vegetarian aubergine and bell pepper paté but it's definitely not the same."

@Nomunkat - Has eating any kind of pate whilst pregnant now been recommended? Just looked on the NHS website and they say to avoid all pate including vegetarian ones.

Not an answer to your original q, but to your one about sophisticated meals for children, I swear by baby led weaning (BLW). We gave ours whatever we were having for each meal from 6m (only did one meal at first and worked up to 3 plus snacks) and never puréed anything. She just got what we were having. Nothing with added salt/sugar/honey and we toned down spice. And made her something else when we wanted a take away or honey baked ham lol.
She eats anything now (mostly). I made home made cheese chicken and broccoli nuggets and home made fish fingers using coconut crumb as the coating for easy freezer dinners if we're in a rush.

We went on holiday in the summer when she was 1 and she had sea bass, cod, bream etc each night.

Don't get me wrong, she loves a good cocktail sausage or scotch pancake, but so do i!

If my dh and dc wants different things, normally dh says it's ok to have what dc wants. But sometimes I agree with dh and say I'll cook what dh wants because I want to eat it too, and dc just says ok. Not much conflict at all.

Those are the nights I order takeaway.

I plan all the meals out for the week in advance. If anyone wants to request a particular meal, they do it then (there is never really a night when we don’t know what we’re having). If everyone wanted different things, I would choose if I’m the one cooking. If someone doesn’t prefer that, it’s their job to make themselves something different. I tend to make slight variations for children (something else instead of a spicy curry, for example). Otherwise, what I make is what there is (which is usually what I prefer to eat). But if, say, dh wanted something specific, he is welcome to shop for it and cook it. In practice, he doesn’t because he knows I’m particular about cooking (it’s my thing I really enjoy) and he honestly doesn’t care what he eats because he likes everything.