I've been here about 17 years on and off, but NC for this.
New neighbours arrived 6 months ago.
I texted ndn today saying " can you give me some idea of how long you'll have the jcb digger in the garden, I've just come out of hospital and will be in my room for a few days... just so I can get organised if I should move".
She replied that they would probably be 3 or 4 days, sorry, and yes probably a good idea if I set up somewhere else if possible.
Tedious, but at least I know. I couldn't move today, so just tried to get some sleep, only a few hours to get through. Except that it was past 6pm, and they were still outside shouting and laughing, almost literally sitting around watching concrete dry?!
Little did I know, my 16 yr old popped round to see if they could turn it down because I was feeling rough. He had never done anything like that before, and I wasn't sure whether to brain him or hug him. Very random act.
He came back really shaken. The woman had immediately ramped up "they're not my workers, talk to their boss" went on and on at him. The boss, and her husband, both really nice and said they'd just finished anyway. So son came back feeling foolish and a bit wobbly having tried something new.
I wrote to her saying I had no idea he was going over, and that it was probably for me, as I was feeling a bit under seige.
This is the weird bit. She completely lied about some pointless things (eg said she didn't know I was unwell, to my son), and said it was awful for me to treat new neighbours like this, and saying "under siege" made it clear I was discriminating about them because if their background?!
I'm not going to pretend I don't know they're Iranian, but I'm not sure what she was saying?!
I explained that I thought I could manage a few hours but that in the end I felt ill and stuck.
In afraid my initial reaction is to feel very pissed off. The work they're doing is right on the fence, involves a huge bit of poured concrete, and the timing is crap. But at no point, and in no way, did I think this was a cultural issue.
I just don't know what to do next. She has been a bit weird in the past, upset me with some comments about my other ND son, but I've no idea whether I'm being defensive, or what. Btw, she didn't know she was being crap about son last time, just thoughtless/ not knowing really.
I feel as if I've given a ton of detail but none of its useful.
Maybe I'll feel better when I can eat, drink, move, and start to heal?!
I'm pissed off that she had a go at my son. I'm pissed off that my son went over there (but happy he was trying to help?!), and I'm pissed off at being labelled (racist? ) when I was just using an analogy.
Is it me?