Does it annoy you when friends don’t wish you a happy birthday?

[goaskmum]

So it was my birthday yesterday and not one of the people I’m close friends with wished me a happy birthday.

We don’t do cards and presents, but they never even sent me a message or a post on my Facebook to say happy birthday. I find it especially annoying because I’m always the first to wish them a happy birthday when it’s theirs!

Is anyone else the same? Or do you just let it go over your head?

Yes, it was my birthday last week and one of my supposedly very good friends didn't get me a card. I always buy her and her kids cards/presents and although I know money is tight I know she can afford a card and she lives round the corner.

I'm irrationally pissed off about it and don't know of she's noticed I'm not talking to her yet

No. But I don't care about birthdays.

If I had a friend that I knew cared, then I absolutely would. Not because I give a shit myself but because I care about what matters to my friends and family.

Happy belated birthday

Doesn't bother me at all. Birthdays don't matter it's the rest of the year that's important.

No, not really. I'm so absent-minded these days, I'm quite likely to overlook someone else's birthday. I'd be surprised and maybe slightly hurt if my brother forgot.

I always wish friends happy birthday and get them a card.

No. No one is obliged, or feel obliged, to wish me happy birthday.

No. But DH and I once only realised it was our wedding anniversary when we got a card from DMum . Some people take great pride in remembering the birthdays and anniversaries of everyone they know, some people don't. It doesn't mean anything about how they value you as a friend or family member.

I think you are either a birthday person or you are not. I’m definitely not and thankfully most of my friends aren’t either. I do have one friend who is very into birthdays though, so I do try and send her a card. I don’t really get the point if I’m honest, but I know she appreciates it.

No. I don't expect other people to be thinking about me all the time.

@CaptainMyCaptain

No. I don't expect other people to be thinking about me all the time.

@CaptainMyCaptain it’s not all the time though is it? It’s one day.

I’d be peeved if my closest friends didn’t wish me a happy birthday. It literally takes two secs to send a msg!

Yes, I care. Not random acquaintances but if we’ve been friends for a 5 years or more and normally swap cards or go out for birthday drinks then if someone forgets I wonder why.

Sometimes it’s obvious (they’ve got a lot on/have a massive stressful thing happening at the time) but everyone my age has an online calendar so if someone can’t be bothered even with a quick text then I think that’s bad.

It comes down to thinking relationships should be nurtured and not just high points and low points or when it’s convenient to check in so I make a bit of an effort to remember my friends birthdays, send a text or card for close friends kids and even will ask how their partners birthday was in conversation if I know when it was. It’s one day to make people feel you remember and value their company 🤷🏻‍♀️

No. I would rather it that way. I don't even have my date of birth available to friends on Facebook.

But I'm sure any moment someone will be along making some comment about 'typucal mumsnet' and 'people aren't really like that'.

Buy it's just not important to me. I get that is a big deal to others though.

No, most of my friends wouldn't know when my birthday is.

I’d be peeved if my closest friends didn’t wish me a happy birthday. It literally takes two secs to send a msg!
People have other things to think about.

I'm happy if people do message me but I'm not upset if they don't.

No. I find birthdays a lot of fuss over nothing. Ok for kids but not anyone over 18.

Not at all. I only expect a little bit of effort from family when it comes to birthdays

No. It was my birthday last week and it wouldn't have bothered me at all. I forget everyone's birthdays. Just not top of my priority list.
Why do uoh always have to be the first to wish your friends happy birthday? I find people like that more annoying tbh.

It used to annoy me,
when I was a teen my best friends birthday was the day before mine everyone in our group did stuff for her birthday and theirs but mine always got forgotten, that carried on into adulthood

My parents even forgot it a few times in the last 10 years

Now I actively hide when it is, no record of it on social media I won't admit when it is ect started a new job years ago and said I didn't want it common knowledge

I know it's stupid but I feel like if nobody could know when it is then I don't feel bad that I got forgoten again

I celebrate the kids birthdays properly and always make an effort to get a card if I know it's someone else's birthday

Wouldn't bother me unless it was a special birthday. I'm not hugely into birthdays and we don't really bother with cards. In-laws are obsessed with them though and are constantly moaning that we have forgotten to send cards. I find it all a faff.

No. I wouldn’t expect people to know when my birthday was, let alone remember it.

Yes I would feel disappointed if I didn't hear anything from close friends.

I've decided to take a step back when it comes to other people's Birthdays as nobody seems to care about mine.
In the past I've bought thoughtful cards and gifts but so called friends and 'close' family members rarely acknowledge the day on my Birthday.
Bugger them!

No. I'm not on Facebook. I don't tell people my birth date. I do send cards to old friends, because I know it matters to them & I like to do it, but I hate my own birthday & I ignore it.