Does it annoy you when friends don’t wish you a happy birthday?

[goaskmum]

So it was my birthday yesterday and not one of the people I’m close friends with wished me a happy birthday.

We don’t do cards and presents, but they never even sent me a message or a post on my Facebook to say happy birthday. I find it especially annoying because I’m always the first to wish them a happy birthday when it’s theirs!

Is anyone else the same? Or do you just let it go over your head?

Meh

I’ve spent my whole life going out for peoples birthdays, getting them cards/presents. Getting zip in return. When it’s my birthday everyone is suddenly busy.
It became this thing that people assumed I didn’t care because we never did anything, I did.
So I stopped being interested in other peoples birthdays and it does piss people off.

I had a new friend and got a card/gift 2 years running, my birthday is a few days later, nothing either year. So I stopped. She even said once ‘oh it’s your birthday today isn’t it’ and that’s it.

My BIL/SIL are the worst, years of expecting us to travel hundreds of miles for theirs and buy expensive gifts. I got nothing for 20 years. So we stopped going/buying and my BIL is very unhappy. Now they do it to my own child, expect things for their children, nothing for mine. People are so wrapped up in how special they are I think.

no, and it irritates me hugely to be sent cards

such a waste of time and money and resources, and so unnecessary

A good friend ditched me because of this, despite me asking her about her birthday in advance, sending her a card etc, because I didn’t send her a text on the day itself. Honestly I wasn’t sad to lose her, if she wants to be this childish and pathetic (she was 40, not 5) then I’m better off without.

Genuinely no, the fact of it is I just get a year older, it neither upsets me but nor do I get the need of others to celebrate it

I do use it as excuse to do what I want though

Yes! I would much rather a text or a phone call than a card! Cards are a waste of money and bad for the environment! Its simply rude not to wish a good friend or relative a happy birthday, it takes 30 seconds to write a message.