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Don't ever want to celebrate Mother's Day again

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notanotheronef · 27/03/2022 21:28

It's my first Mother's Day and it has been horrible, I don't ever want to acknowledge Mother's Day again. I'm heartbroken I've been dreaming about this day since I was a little girl.

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Wellthisiscrapeh · 27/03/2022 21:32

What happened? I hope you are okay.

PollyPutTheKettleOnKettleOn · 27/03/2022 21:36

What's happened?

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notanotheronef · 27/03/2022 21:38

@Wellthisiscrapeh

What happened? I hope you are okay.
DP said he would spend time with me and DS6weeks and cook dinner for us, he hasn't spent any time with us all day leaving me to do everything. This caused a massive argument and he has gone to bed. Mother's Day is a joke
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Squiff70 · 27/03/2022 21:41

I hear you. My first Mother's Day was spent with my tiny daughter who was in NICU. We'd recently held a funeral for her twin brother, who was only with us for four days.

Just cuddle your baby and screw the rest - it can all be dealt with later.

So sorry you've been so let down like this. I know how you must be feeling (my DP is also shit at Mother's Day etc).

askingaquestion1 · 27/03/2022 21:43

@Squiff70

I hear you. My first Mother's Day was spent with my tiny daughter who was in NICU. We'd recently held a funeral for her twin brother, who was only with us for four days.

Just cuddle your baby and screw the rest - it can all be dealt with later.

So sorry you've been so let down like this. I know how you must be feeling (my DP is also shit at Mother's Day etc).

How utterly terrible for you. Sending lots of love x
Workinghardeveryday · 27/03/2022 21:44

Sorry for both of you xx what an awful day

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notanotheronef · 27/03/2022 21:44

@Squiff70

I hear you. My first Mother's Day was spent with my tiny daughter who was in NICU. We'd recently held a funeral for her twin brother, who was only with us for four days.

Just cuddle your baby and screw the rest - it can all be dealt with later.

So sorry you've been so let down like this. I know how you must be feeling (my DP is also shit at Mother's Day etc).

Sending love, we got this mama Thanks
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Ionlydomassiveones · 27/03/2022 21:46

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AHungryCaterpillar · 27/03/2022 21:50

Is he always like this? I’m guessing this isn’t new behaviour?

SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 27/03/2022 21:51

If he can't even spend a day with you, is he worth having around long term?

HestersSamplerofCarrots · 27/03/2022 21:52

Mother’s Day isn’t a joke.

He is.

Lay the blame where it should be: with him.

askingaquestion1 · 27/03/2022 21:53

Hi, I also struggle with Mother's Day. My beloved mum is dead (11 years ago but doesn't get easier) and my husband is awful at it. Not so much as a Happy Mother's Day. He says I'm not his mother so he doesn't see why he has to do anything (not that he does anything for her). Kids are too young to think. And this year I forgot to send flowers to DH's mum as had a bad week at work and just been feeling guilty all day.
I think the main way to survive is to have very low expectations, stay off social media and maybe organise the treats yourself (e.g. book a pub roast). And love your kids and appreciate them without expecting too much for yourself.

Swayingpalmtrees · 27/03/2022 21:56

What reason did he give op? FlowersCake

TracyMosby · 27/03/2022 22:00

Mother's Day is a joke

Your dickhead dp who went to bed to punish you is the joke.

gerispringer · 27/03/2022 22:02

You aren’t your DPs mother so don’t expect him to do anything and certainly don’t do anything for him for Father’s day.

Mirrorball2022 · 27/03/2022 22:06

Rubbish. Their child is obviously very young so he could of at least bought a card and made her breakfast on behalf of their baby.

He also promised to spend the day with his partner and baby and didn’t. Mother’s Day or not that’s shit.

JustWhyy · 27/03/2022 22:09

Mother's Day is a lovely day, it's your partner whose a dick!

NeedleNoodle3 · 27/03/2022 22:27

Mothers Day is a long game. I had a lovely roast with my three adult DC and they all bought me a little gift today.
Be patient.

Cocomarine · 27/03/2022 23:08

@notanotheronef

It's my first Mother's Day and it has been horrible, I don't ever want to acknowledge Mother's Day again. I'm heartbroken I've been dreaming about this day since I was a little girl.
Well that didn’t half set the day up for failure! I think that’s a bit much, dreaming about it since your own childhood. It sounds like your boyfriend had agreed to spend the day with you and baby and cook for you - so he’s in the wrong, even if you’re more invested in the day than I think is healthy. But I would advise you to think carefully about your expectations at the same time as talking to him about not letting you down again.
BuanoKubiamVej · 27/03/2022 23:16

Don't invest more emotionally into your expectations for Mothers' day than your DC can provide. Partners and husbands are quite often useless and oblivious. I booked my own lunch venue because I knew if I left it to DH & DC we'd get nothing or somewhere crap. Your baby doesn't know it's mothers' day this year but in a few years time DS will make you a card at nursery and a few years later will be capable of bringing you a truly terrible breakfast in bed which you will eat cheerfully. But dreaming since you were a little girl of this particular day is investing way too much faith in the non-crapness of the bloke who fathered your child and that's really not what Mothers' Day is about.

Hawkins001 · 27/03/2022 23:21

@notanotheronef

It's my first Mother's Day and it has been horrible, I don't ever want to acknowledge Mother's Day again. I'm heartbroken I've been dreaming about this day since I was a little girl.
It's not the day itself, it's the fact your other half, let you down.
bigred22 · 27/03/2022 23:22

Your DP sounds a bit shit, but dreaming of it since you were a little girl, come on that's a bit much! I think you need to read some of the comments on this thread and get a bit of perspective.

ladydimitrescu · 27/03/2022 23:33

@bigred22

Your DP sounds a bit shit, but dreaming of it since you were a little girl, come on that's a bit much! I think you need to read some of the comments on this thread and get a bit of perspective.
This.
RicherThanYew · 27/03/2022 23:40

If the op has dreamed about Mothering Sunday since she was a child, so what? Some people on here stick the boot in out of sheer wickedness.

Op, your dp sounds like a waster, it won't get better.

Babadook76 · 27/03/2022 23:43

So you never want to celebrate it again because your newborn baby was oblivious, and your oh was uninterested because you’re not his mum? I’m assuming there’s still baby hormones at play here