Didn't get anything for Mother's Day

[littlese]

DH didn't get me anything for Mother's Day, not even a card. When I asked him about it, he said the kids had made me cards from nursery and when he asked what I wanted I didn't say anything.

Just a card and a wish would have been nice. I'm so disappointed and upset I don't even know what to say

[Shehasadiamondinthesky]

I never get anything for mothers day. I told my adult son years ago not to. Csrds are a waste of shelf space and just go in the bin and I don't like flowers dying inside the house. I dont need a reward for being a mum. It's just another Clinton cards day a way of getting people to part from their money.
However if it is important to you your husband should respect that and not be so lazy.

[littlese]

It's not that big a deal but I would have liked a little appreciation. Our relationship has been a bit distant lately and this feels like the final nail in the coffin for me.
He got flowers for his own mum but none for me.

[Wilma55]

You're not his mum and you got cards from your children, I don't see the problem.

[littlese]

My kids are 2 and 5, I would expect DH to help the kids a bit to get me something? Or to prompt them to wish me Mother's Day at least. It's just like any other day today.

[NeedleNoodle3]

You said he asked if you wanted anything, did he actually say this?

[littlese]

He asked last week if I wanted anything and I said I would think about it but then got distracted and didn't say what I wanted. So his excuse is he asked and I didn't tell him what I wanted for Mother's Day so I got nothing.

[christmassausages]

You got cards actually made by your children. No doubt you'll get hugs today as well. What more is needed?

[littlese]

I wanted my husband to appreciate me, the mother of his children

[NeedleNoodle3]

The lesson is if he asks you if you want anything then you reply ‘ yes pleased some chocs and daffodils from you and the DC would be lovely’. I can’t see what there is to think about, he asked if you wanted something, you clearly do so the answer is yes.

[merryhouse]

I've always seen the father's job as making sure the kids get something. Which he has.

[SaxendaSummer]

You sound a bit 'hard work' now op

You didn't get back to him to say what you wanted.

[AHungryCaterpillar]

He asked what you wanted and you ignored?

I’m a single mum I never get anything for Mother’s Day. 🤷‍♀️

[MsWalterMitty]

Does he not appreciate you on the other days off the year?

[frogsbreath]

I understand. At your childrens ages it's lovely to take them to a shop, ask them to choose something nice for mummy (be it £1 daffodils or as I got, a whale soft toy ). It's about teaching children joy of appreciating someone else and the happiness which can be found in giving a gift which is well received.

Sadly, I have found that some people were never taught this lesson and don't consider the feelings of others above their own, sometimes. just tell your DH clearly your expectations. Don't wait for it to click that he should encourage your children to make a special effort, just tell him to avoid that resentment and keep the day fun.

[nordica]

Next time he asks, tell him yes please surprise me/get me X/I'd love Y and a card.

It sounds like he actually was thinking about it with plenty of time to get something but there was just a bit of miscommunication.

[CheshireChat]

I really hate the you're not his mother line, of course he should be facilitating the kids doing something. And him, not the nursery.

Just do the same for Father's Day.

[Gilly12345]

Your Husband is thoughtless, Dad’s I have seen either take young children shopping for flowers etc or shop themselves. He really should of bought 2 lots of flowers when he bought his Mum’s.

Children need help off Dads or other family members to celebrate Mothers Day.

I remember hearing my Mum whispering to my children when they were young asking if they had Mothers Day sorted.

[littlese]

Yes I think that's what I will have to do next year.
Sorry to the single mums but I'm not a single mum so I feel like he should have made more of an effort? I'm not expecting expensive presents but just a token card and a wish would have been nice.
We just got up this morning and carried on as usual literally not even a happy Mother's Day wish

[herecomesthehotsteppa]

But you got cards didn't you? Home made cards are 10x better than a generic shop bought one. Would you really have preferred shop bought to the one your child(ren) made??!
And what do you mean by a wish? Tbf to him he did ask if you wanted anything in plenty of time and you didn't get back to him. It's on you I'm afraid !

[username9871028]

Home made cards are 100x better than the generic cards you can buy at the shop.

[Eslteacher06]

At least you were not called evil. And when i told him I didn’t want anything, just tidy the house for me to help, I got an eye roll.

His excuse is nothing is done for him on fathers day, but then his attitude for mothers to makes me not bother.

My kids are the same age as yours. I think in plenty of time tell him exactly what you want.

Im off to cry into my pillow about my shit relationship....

[DaffodilDandilion]

My children are with their dad today and he won’t let me talk to them as it’s “his time”. I’ve spent the last hour crying my eyes out. I don’t know why Mother’s Day is such a big deal but it is and to feel forgotten today is miserable.

I’m sorry your partner hasn’t tried harder, you not giving him specific instructions for a gift is not an excuse. He should be able to come up with something by himself.

[littlese]

The home made ones I love of course but it wasn't his doing - nursery made them! He played no part in it whatsoever.
A wish as in "happy Mother's Day!" I didn't even get that.

[littlese]

@Eslteacher06 I feel your pain
I'm off to cry into my pillow as well

I didn't get him much for Father's Day last year but he got some cards, and small token gifts that the kids picked out. It's just the lack of thought that really disappointed me.

[NeedleNoodle3]

All you can do is tweak it for next year and to reassess the effort you put in for Father’s Day. Ask him to make lunch or order a takeaway dinner and make the most of the day or sit and stew on it. You have the day with your DC who have made you cards, enjoy what you have.