Mother’s Day: Do you do cards from your DC to your mum/MiL?

[ShadowPuppets]

Quick dilemma! DD is 18 months. Can’t for the life of me remember what we did last year, most of late 2020/early 2021 is a baby blur

DH says it’s not the standard, that we should just do cards for our mums from us. But I’m sure when I was a kid my mum organised cards for the grannies from us. But I’m not 100%…

I know they’re in the shops but is that a recent thing to try and get you to spend more? Or is it part of the ‘tradition’?

^Why, WHY are women still doing this stuff?

If a son can't get his own mother a card on mother's day, what hope is there for him^

Should probably have clarified, I bought it from the supermarket during the weekly shop while I was buying one for my mum. It took all of 20 seconds longer. He organises his own present for her, including posting or ordering it in time as we don’t live close enough to visit. DH is good one for that, he same with birthdays and Christmas.

I am 100% with you on 'wife work'. Some things I see on here are awful!!

No.

We do, and for Father’s Day. But only because my mom would sulk if we didnt, as she always made us for her mom, and I just can’t be arsed with the dramatics. We don’t tend to see them on the day though, just a day around it and we go out somewhere on the day.

No, but once I left home I always brought cards and gifts for mum, MIL and nan.

Of course not 🙄 it is Mothering Sunday , nothing to do with grandparents.

Nope. Me to my mum, DH to MIL and DH will have got a card from DC to me, all a bit unnecessary really but I go along with it. Extending that out to grandmothers wouldn't cross my mind. If I were to get a card from my potential future grandchildren I'd find it a bit silly.

My Ds gives his granny a card on mother's Day.

@Hopeful16

Also had a huge moan at DH (pre kids) as he didn't put my name on his mum's card saying that she wasn't my mother. True BUT I was the one who'd bought the bloody thing!!! He has ever since 😉

Tell your dh to buy the card then.

My dh doesn't put my name in his mum's card. That would be weird and overstepping.

No. Not unless that Grandmother has been in the mothering role specifically.

DH and I each send something to our own mum. My DC (or DH when they were tiny) do something for me. DC don't do anything for their grannies.

Another 'no' here.
the clue is in the name.

When she was alive, I got a card for my Mum. I've never got one for either of my Grandparents. My dc have never got them for their Grandparents.

Hallmark have invented a Grandparents Day, if you want to go down that route.

Another 'no' here.
the clue is in the name.

The name grand mother?

No. For me its taking away my special day as mother. Is mother day not granny day.

*Why, WHY are women still doing this stuff?

If a son can't get his own mother a card on mother's day, what hope is there for him*

I shop on a Saturday while dh is at work, so buy a Mothers Day card for dh Mother while I’m shopping.

Easy enough.

Now, if I bought the card and was expected to write it out for him as well, I’d think there was an issue then.

DD is 3 and now, we've not been doing grandparent cards on Mother's Day and Father's Day. I just thought if I started I'd have to carry it on forever. I didn't as a kid although DH's family did for one Grandma.

To address a previous point we put all names on cards to both sides of the family and have since we got married.

Cards and gifts to DMIL are addressed from all four of us.

DH's family aren't very card and gift minded but mine are so I feel the need.