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Ex has taken my dog

66 replies

takenmydog · 25/03/2022 16:02

Last night we had a huge row. He screamed at my and physically assaulted me for hours. Again for hours this morning. I’m black and blue. My children thankfully were at their dads. He took my phone so I couldn’t call for help. I only got it back after he was done. He smashed the screen. He took my dog. We bought the dog together for us as a family. For me, him and the 2 dcs who live with me. He won’t bring her back unless I agree to get back with him. Thanks obviously can’t do that. We paid half. I’ve stayed home with her for 3 months every day, looking after her. He has done vet appointments and paid for the dogs food. I pay for all bills in my house (probably not relevant). I just want my dog back. My children will be heartbroken. What can I do?

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PeopleRStrange · 25/03/2022 16:04

Phone the police to report the assault, and get the dog when he's in jail

PutinIsAWarCriminal · 25/03/2022 16:04

Are you safe and okay now op?
Please say you went to the police so they can press charges. When he is arrested you will be able to get your dog. Flowers

Judgedbycats · 25/03/2022 16:05

You ring the police and have him arrested for assault, criminal damage and theft.

Sorry this happened to you.

AnotherDelphinium · 25/03/2022 16:05

What have the police said about the assault? Report the theft of your dog too! Who is the microchip registered to?

GeneLovesJezebel · 25/03/2022 16:06

Trevor Cooper specialises in dog law.

Theunamedcat · 25/03/2022 16:06

Whose name is the dog registered in? If its his you can't do much if its yours he has stolen your property

Call the police on him for assault obviously

NewName9273 · 25/03/2022 16:06

Phone the police regarding the assault. You can ask their advice on the dog. Pets are usually considered property. You say you bought together, but who actually paid? Do you have proof it's yours ?

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takenmydog · 25/03/2022 16:07

The microchip is in his name, I think. He sorted out all the admin related to her. I’m safe now. I haven’t reported him, I’m scared they won’t believe me. He has some scratches on his face where I was trying to get him off me, and also from trying to get my phone back to call for help. He said if I report him he will say it was me.

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takenmydog · 25/03/2022 16:08

I have proof of transferring 50% of what she cost, I did it via bank transfer

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Justcallmebebes · 25/03/2022 16:08

Phone the police. You can't let him get away with that and when he's in custody, go get your dog

BobbyBleu · 25/03/2022 16:09

Would you feel comfortable ringing women's aid for some advice? I'm sure they would offer you some reassurance about ringing the police.
They would absolutely believe you, especially if you have bruises.
I'm so sorry this has happened to you. I hope you can get the dog back.

MaudieandMe · 25/03/2022 16:10

Oh you poor love.
The Police aren’t stupid. Phone them and report the assault then ask for their help in getting your dog back.

Purpleavocado · 25/03/2022 16:10

Please call the police, don't let this piece of shit intimidate you. Your kids need a Mum, and every week some scumbag kills a women in this kind of situation. Getting protection for you and your kids needs to be your number one priority now, rather than worrying about the dog I'm afraid.

FelicityPike · 25/03/2022 16:10

Phone and report this.
If the dog is registered in his name, it’s his dog. Sorry.

Beees · 25/03/2022 16:11

@takenmydog

The microchip is in his name, I think. He sorted out all the admin related to her. I’m safe now. I haven’t reported him, I’m scared they won’t believe me. He has some scratches on his face where I was trying to get him off me, and also from trying to get my phone back to call for help. He said if I report him he will say it was me.
Of course they will believe he assured and beat you. You're black and blue and he has a few scratches, you know deep down he's just saying this as another way to control you. The same reason he took the dog.

I'm glad you're safe, continue to stay safe please. I'm sure your children would rather have their mum alive and happy than the dog if it came down to a choice between being with him or letting the dog go.

WhatATimeToBeAlive · 25/03/2022 16:11

Maybe also try the RSPCA if you think the dog might be in danger. If he's hit you, he might well take it out on the poor dog as well.

tealandteal · 25/03/2022 16:12

Call the police about the assault and do not let him back in the house. If the dog is in his name it may be difficult.

titchy · 25/03/2022 16:15

Your kids would rather have a live mum and no dog, than a dead mum. The police will absolutely believe you over him.

HomeHomeInTheRange · 25/03/2022 16:20

God, what a bastard, and how frightening.

OP, seriously, if you are black and blue, even a bit, it will be obvious what happened. Plus he smashed your phone. He was obviously (and rightly ) afraid of what would happen were you to call the police and has tried to blackmail you out of it.

Will your children be aware of your bruises? It is important for them to see that it was a criminal act to beat you up.

Also tell the police about the dog. They can ask him to return it at a time when he might be trying to prove how ‘butter wouldn’t melt’ he is.

KateTheEighth · 25/03/2022 16:23

Report him to the police for assaulting you

hedgehogger1 · 25/03/2022 16:30

Report him. When he's arrested get the dog. Your safety is the priority.

SoupDragon · 25/03/2022 16:32

Report the assault! I can't believe your priority appears to be the dog. You need to make sure you and your children are safe from your ex.

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takenmydog · 25/03/2022 16:34

I will phone the police now. The dog is at the front of my mind because I want to prevent my children’s heart from breaking. And because he made me feel that I’ve brought it on myself. It’s not the first time of course. But yes, I will report. I am in a daze and couldn’t think straight which is why I posted on here. I didn’t know what to do. Now things are clearer.

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SoupDragon · 25/03/2022 16:49

he made me feel that I’ve brought it on myself.

You absolutely didn't.

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MyBottleOfRibena · 25/03/2022 16:54

@takenmydog

The microchip is in his name, I think. He sorted out all the admin related to her. I’m safe now. I haven’t reported him, I’m scared they won’t believe me. He has some scratches on his face where I was trying to get him off me, and also from trying to get my phone back to call for help. He said if I report him he will say it was me.
If you are black and blue there is no way they won’t believe you, the fact that he has a couple of scratches won’t go against you