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Ex has taken my dog

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takenmydog · 25/03/2022 16:02

Last night we had a huge row. He screamed at my and physically assaulted me for hours. Again for hours this morning. I’m black and blue. My children thankfully were at their dads. He took my phone so I couldn’t call for help. I only got it back after he was done. He smashed the screen. He took my dog. We bought the dog together for us as a family. For me, him and the 2 dcs who live with me. He won’t bring her back unless I agree to get back with him. Thanks obviously can’t do that. We paid half. I’ve stayed home with her for 3 months every day, looking after her. He has done vet appointments and paid for the dogs food. I pay for all bills in my house (probably not relevant). I just want my dog back. My children will be heartbroken. What can I do?

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titchy · 25/03/2022 16:55

Your children will be far more upset about you being beaten up truly.

Prescottdanni123 · 25/03/2022 16:56

@SoupDragon

OP has already stated that she is safe and her children are at their dad's. In no way is she prioritising the dog over them.

Glad to hear that you are reporting him for what he did to you, OP. I agree with others. Get the dog back once he has been arrested.

TheNameOfTheRoses · 25/03/2022 16:58

Police.
He has beaten you black and blue. The scratches on his face are nothing. You are allowed to defend yourself and very clearly you needed to.

Please phone the police.

LaraDeSalle · 25/03/2022 16:58

I think if the dog has a microchip that is in his name you are going to have to seek legal advice.

TheNameOfTheRoses · 25/03/2022 16:59

Sorry @takenmydog xpost.

It’s excellent you are contacting the police.
They might well intervene about the dog too.

LaraDeSalle · 25/03/2022 17:00

Dog law - Civil law
Ownership disputes

A dog is regarded as an item of property in law and so in the event of a dispute, a court can be asked to make a declaration on who is the owner of the dog and who should have possession. Deciding who has the best claim to a dog can be difficult and the court will consider evidence of who purchased the dog and who has looked after the dog and paid for its upkeep. If the dog is microchipped to one of the parties this is persuasive but not conclusive evidence of ownership.

If an owner gives their dog away ownership will pass immediately after the dog is handed over.

Hiddenvoice · 25/03/2022 17:03

Are you okay?
I’m glad to see you’re phoning the police. They will see you had to try defend yourself so try not worry about that.
I know you said you’re safe now, are you staying with someone? Do you have family/ friends who can be there with you just now to support you?
I’d be worried about the dog too. Hopefully you’ll get your dog back once he has been arrested.

AdaColeman · 25/03/2022 17:05

I hope you have reported him to the police for assault by now @takenmydog?
If, as you say, you are black and blue, they can't fail to believe you.
His comment about the scratches and saying you attacked him, is an attempt to make sure you don't go to the police.
He obviously knows that what he did was very wrong.

MissMaple82 · 25/03/2022 17:07

Yes report him to police. He will get arrested and hopefully you will get the dog

MissMaple82 · 25/03/2022 17:08

Unfortunately though if he's chipped in hod names, it's his dog. Which is scary, as God knows what he'll subject the dog to

drpet49 · 25/03/2022 17:08

* Report the assault! I can't believe your priority appears to be the dog. You need to make sure you and your children are safe from your ex.*

^This. What are you doing to keep your children safe??

RoundGlass · 25/03/2022 17:09

God, you poor women. I hope you made the call

femfemlicious · 25/03/2022 17:09

Goodness...assaulted you for hours. Please csll the police on this man. They will believe you.

Seraphinesupport · 25/03/2022 17:10

well obviously it isnt you if your black and blue is it

AlisonDonut · 25/03/2022 17:12

Worry about the dog later, worry about yourself now.

I hope you have called the police and reported this.

MadeForThis · 25/03/2022 17:15

Please phone the police. They can keep him away from you.

The kids will be sad about the dog but they will be devastated if he seriously hurts you.

Wowwwww · 25/03/2022 17:22

Let him keep the dog and get a new one. Don’t have any ties to this bastard. Priority is keeping your children and yourself safe not fighting for a dog just so he can keep control over you. It’s really not worth it.

CallMeDaddy58 · 25/03/2022 17:24

I’ve watched enough true crime to know that the scratches on his face will actually go in your favour. It’s a very common defensive wound found on perpetrators. Please don’t let this put you off going to the police.

tkwal · 25/03/2022 17:26

It's not the first time of course.

When I read that my heart broke for you. Why "of course" do you not think that you deserve someone who is kind and doesn't use you as a punch bag ?
Please report this brutish excuse for a man to the police . They see enough people who go through what you have to know when what you say is genuine. You have to resist making excuses for him, because he may well carry his violence over to your children.
Beating you once is one too many times. Get yourself, your children and your dog out of this relationship now. Contact Women's aid if you don't think you are strong enough on your own

L0bstersLass · 25/03/2022 17:32

@takenmydog

I will phone the police now. The dog is at the front of my mind because I want to prevent my children’s heart from breaking. And because he made me feel that I’ve brought it on myself. It’s not the first time of course. But yes, I will report. I am in a daze and couldn’t think straight which is why I posted on here. I didn’t know what to do. Now things are clearer.

You are doing the right thing. Be brave and report his appalling behaviour straight away. You do not have to put up with this. The Police are there to deal with this. Be open with them. They will have seen incidents like this before. Well done for keeping your kids safe.

SoupDragon · 25/03/2022 18:38

@Prescottdanni123 and are they there forever?

It's hopefully irrelevant now as she has said she is reporting him.

Prescottdanni123 · 25/03/2022 18:44

@SoupDragon

Presumably they won't be going back to the same house as him, given how OP has left him and is planning on reporting him. She is safe, her kids are safe, so I don't blame her for now planning on how to get her dog back. I'm not going to argue about this any further with you because that is not what this thread should be about.

MargosKaftan · 25/03/2022 18:50

Oh you poor thing. Of course its hard to think straight after that. I'm very glad you've reported the assault to the police and you know you haven't "brought it on yourself " don't you? This is him. This is his choice. All humans can control their actions and he is no different. He chose to hit you and he chose to steal your dog because he hates you so much he wants to do anything to hurt you.

Echo the other poster if you think he'll be unable to care for the dog, report to RSPCA. But losing the dog is a small price to pay to be safe.

femfemlicious · 27/03/2022 12:09

I bet @takenmydog didnt report him to the police. Im so sorry for her children.

Whatamesssss · 27/03/2022 18:08

@femfemlicious Are the updates not quick enough for you?

Comments and nastiness like yours are the reason that the OP's don't come back.

Why the judgement?

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