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Daughter paying for laundry

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Starbonnet123 · 25/03/2022 10:35

My daughter is 19 and still lives with us at home and will do for quite a while I think . She doesn't pay rent as we don't need the money and we'd rather she saved as she does want to buy a house . She works and gets well paid for her age .
The question is what should I charge her to do her laundry? She wants me to do it as she "hasn't got time" and doesn't want the hassle and i won't do it for her as it's taking up my time , I work full time , and me doing it brings me no benefit whatsoever so my husband thinks I should charge her to do it if I want to .
What do mumsnet think is the going rate for laundry ?

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DameHelena · 25/03/2022 11:11

@GodspeedJune

I think it would be better to leave her to do her own. She says she hasn’t got time but you work and are busy too. She’ll need to fit basic household chores into her routine like we all do.

I agree with this. What's she planning to do when she moves out? (maybe a service wash, but that's quite expensive). We all have to figure out how to fit chores into life. And really, laundry doesn't take that long.

Templeblossom · 25/03/2022 11:14

@Starbonnet123

Thank you for all your replies , I think I worded it "I haven't got time " wrongly , I meant as one PP said why is my time less important than hers . I get fed up of being good old mum that can manage all these grown up things magically 😁

So dont do it. Time for her to growup. "Doesnt want the hassle"😂😂😂

Viviennemary · 25/03/2022 11:15

Don't do it at all. Your time is as precious as hers. Would gettinga cleaner in who does laundry be an option. And she can pay for that or perhaps go half with you if they did a bit of cleaning as well.

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mumonthehill · 25/03/2022 11:18

Ds 21 when he is home from uni I do not do his washing, totally his responsibility. He has a laundry basket in his room and when full it is up to him to do it.

Topseyt · 25/03/2022 11:19

I would just put it in with the family washing anyway. Wouldn't bother me and I prefer it that way.

hellsbells99 · 25/03/2022 11:19

My DD is living at home at the moment. She does her own laundry. She also does most of her own cooking and cooks for me sometimes. It does help that she lived away for 3 years at university. Your DD needs to realise she needs to be self sufficient now and your time is important to you.

NoCureForLove · 25/03/2022 11:23

Well my hourly charging rate for work is £250. So if she was paying me for my time it would cost her!
Do it out of kindness or say no. Your choice!

SpiderinaWingMirror · 25/03/2022 11:24

Just don't do it.
Don't offer it as an option.
Simples.

Justkeeppedaling · 25/03/2022 11:27

@Bunty55

I would not dream of charging my daughter for laundry services but that is just me. I would wash and dry her clothes but as I no longer iron I would leave that job for her to do. If she chooses to iron her stuff then she should make a small contribution to the electric bill is all

Same, but I would insist on her paying rent. Below market rate, but she should pay her way nevertheless.

If you don't need it, put in a separate savings account (without telling her) and use it towards her wedding/buy her a car/childcare costs/university degree/house deposit/whatever she might need a useful lump sum for in the future.

A580Hojas · 25/03/2022 11:27

She needs to grow up! Bloody hell.

Don't indulge her by doing her laundry, paid or unpaid, she sounds like an utter princess.

SeasonFinale · 25/03/2022 11:28

Seriously don't do it.

Also charge rent. If you don't need it pit it away secretly and give it back when she does move out. If someone is as lazy as your DD to not do her own laundry because she doesn't have the time I would hazard a guess she isn't saving but spending on going out all the time!

Tidlo · 25/03/2022 11:28

Wtf! Why are you even considering this? What is wrong with you??

Motnight · 25/03/2022 11:30

Your dd has to learn that her time is no more important than anyone else's.

I am a very soft parent and have a dd. There is no way that I would agree to this.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 25/03/2022 11:36

I don’t understand this ‘doing their own laundry’. When dds were still at home, before uni and after, it all went in together, sorted into darks, paler things and whites.

I didn’t iron for them, though!

Seems wasteful for just one person to do their own - unless of course they have a full load each time, and not just a few things they’re going to need tomorrow.

I was 😱 but sadly not surprised, to hear a niece from abroad at boarding school for 6th form, telling me of both girls and boys who’d often put the machine - and then the tumble dryer - on for just one item they wanted in a hurry.
So much for young people caring about the environment…

Quitso · 25/03/2022 11:36

Tell her to organise a laundry service herself at a local launderette. But frankly it would be less hassle for her to do it herself!

Don't even contemplate doing her laundry, you'll be doing her a total disservice in the long run. Our job as parents is to help them grow up.

CraftyGin · 25/03/2022 11:38

I have never done laundry for anyone over the age of 9 (apart from DH).

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Starbonnet123 · 25/03/2022 11:39

Again thank you for your replies . I'll just leave her to it .

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starfishmummy · 25/03/2022 11:40

Well if you don't have time to do it, how will her paying you help?

Or say your charge is £100 a load and she will soon change her mind. If she doesn't want to do ot she could send it out.

snakewillow · 25/03/2022 11:44

If she hasn't got the time now how will she find the time when she has bought her house? If she's too busy to spend a few minutes putting a machine on and folding clothes how will she cope with running a whole house on her own? She needs to start figuring that out.

Crackercrazy · 25/03/2022 11:46

@Blossom64265

She needs to do her own laundry. Making time for boring chores is part of being an adult.

Completely agree with this. I have no plans on doing my DCs when they’re old enough to manage it themselves.

Classicblunder · 25/03/2022 11:47

@CraftyGin

I have never done laundry for anyone over the age of 9 (apart from DH).

Is your DH less capable than a 9 year old?

Floralnomad · 25/03/2022 11:48

I’ve always done all the laundry irrespective of who lives here because it frankly doesn’t take long to stick the washing machine and tumble dryer on and it wouldn’t in my mind be cost effective for all the adults to use the machines separately . I like doing the washing it’s probably the easiest household task .

Schoolchoicesucks · 25/03/2022 11:49

I'd give her 2 options. If she's too busy to do it and willing to pay, she organises a laundry collection service (eg laundryheap, taskrabbit). If she doesn't want to do that, she does her own laundry. You don't need her money and you don't need the extra task.

NeedleNoodle3 · 25/03/2022 11:51

I don’t know about the laundry but I’d charge some rent. My DH and I don’t need the money but charge our young adult DC £140 each per month. This doesn’t stop them saving if they want to and it’s a good life lesson.

Eeksteek · 25/03/2022 11:52

@TeenPlusCat

I think either it gets done as part of the 'family wash', or she does it herself as part of being an independent adult. Her paying you for laundry is just weird.

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