Do you remember what your guests wore to your wedding.

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I have been married for nearly 43 years.
At the weekend I was sorting out with my DD the photos that I have stored.
I got out my album and realised that 3 guests wore white.
It mustn't have been a problem as I couldn't remember.

I had a very informal registry office do. There weren't even any formal invites, but we definitely said it was informal. For some reason my groom decided he wanted to have two best men. One turned up in the most formal wedding suit you can imagine - complete with grey satin waistcoat, the other wore ripped jeans, scruffy trainers and a Megadeath T shirt. Meanwhile my groom was channeling Ricky Martin with white satin trousers and a sparkly, lightweight, ribbed close-fitting white sweater. The three of them together made for note-worthy photos.

Yes, I know what they all wore because I purchased their outfits.

The only guests we had were our children

I was probably unreasonably cross with the wife of my DH's colleague (quite well off) turning up in a t-shirt and skirt, she may as well have been on a day out to the beach. She stood out like a sore thumb, everyone else had on proper 'wedding' clothes that were probably very traditional/expected/stereotypical. It annoys me that she features prominently in one of the photos.

Hardly at all - I think my mother wore a kind of summery suit outfit in cream and blue, my MIL wore a blue dress and a hat (I know because she was in every photo even the ones that were supposed to be just H and me!) SIl wore something red I think.
Can't remember what my sisters wore.
To be honest now I think of it, I can't really remember who was there apart from immediate family.
All my wedding photos are now in the loft, since I got divorced, I've no inclination to look at them.

I was reading all these to see if I recognised myself I had some dodgy fashion moments in my youth!

I'm not married yet but it will be interesting to see who wears what. But I know both sides of the family will tog out in normal wedding attire so I doubt there will be very many surprises.

I don't think white is all that big a deal in Ireland - unless it's ALL white and distinctly bridal looking. But wearing colours with white mixed in is very common and unremarkable here. Like a MIL wearing cream and beige /brown for example is fairly normal.

@MintyGreenDream

Yes I remember a heavily pregnant partner of dh friend dressed in navy blue and mil dressed as lamb

One of the guests wore cream, I think? She was the girlfriend of one of H's friends from his home church. She stands out in the photos not because she's wearing cream but - well, apart from the fact that she's the only person there I don't really know - because she's wearing a totally different style to all the recent students (it was 1992. Laura Ashley shapes were still a big thing in our circles). Certainly nobody remarked on it, either at the event or when looking at the pictures.

Apart from that, I only remember the two friends who wore jeans and tshirts. I should stress that I had specifically told them that so long as they conformed to minimum generally accepted standards of decency I didn't care what they wore, they just needed to Be There! One of them came to my wedding but nobody else's (apart from his own and that involved serious compromise). The other muttered something about whatever we were calling heteronormativity in those days, but did add a jacket.

Not particularly unless i look at photos. One wore jeans and converse.
And one couldn't get out of work ontime and turned up straight from a building site. But i didnt care because its a very important person to me. He attended the wedding. Quick drink and back to work. All i care is he attended
We had low key. I didn't even wear a traditional dress. Just a nice dress.

I remember the woman who wasn’t invited rocking up in a white dress

Only when looking at photos. I didn’t notice or care less on the day! And I was quite obviously the bride so I wouldn’t have cared.

Mum, stepmum, both nans, and stepdad (tie) coordinated beautifully in matching shades of pale pink.

Totally unplanned, but funny. Have a great pic of them all looking like a catalogue page 😂

Didn’t Grace Kelly wear white to Charles and Diana’s wedding?

I’ve no idea what anyone wore at mine, not even the groom tbh.

I remember my DM's huge and very stylish hat, but other than that the best I can do is confirm that they were all clothed. But it was 20 years ago.

I told my friend with anxiety that she could wear a white jumpsuit if she wanted because she was nervous and I didn't care.

About a day later it occurred to me that she was my husband's ex, and therefore other people might read a bit more about her wearing white to our wedding.

I recall my mother asking me what she should wear and I said anything but white. She wore the palest of pale cream dresses with a cream lace bolero. .

tbh I was not even that surprised because she has throughout the years admitted to trying to upstage me (or put me in my place as she calls it).

@Xpologog

Didn’t Grace Kelly wear white to Charles and Diana’s wedding?

I’ve no idea what anyone wore at mine, not even the groom tbh.

I do recall DH wore the same morning suit he wore to his first wedding. he said he'd only got one use out of it so why not!

I remember at my wedding there were two pregnant women who had both worn the same dress, and two other non-pregnant women who had both worn the same (different) dress. I don’t think anyone minded!

@Miyazaker

Some - but for some reason I also vividly remember a random relative at a friend's wedding who showed up in a hoodie, kilt and dirty trainers

Highland games at 11, Wedding at 1? 😂

I read your thread title, enjoyed and said "exactly". Why can't everyone be beautiful and wear nice things of any colour without it detracting from the bride? Is she so fragile? Doesn't she want to be surrounded by happy folks dressed nicely for her wedding?

I mostly do, but it was only 3 years ago and I really like clothes, so take an interest.
No dress code, but everyone dressed up and we all looked good. My mum wore a white dress. I want l bothered.

My MIL wore a very elegant black suit - she had no idea about the ‘no black at weddings’ rule and would have been really upset had she known. I didn’t give a shot, my mother got all tutty and offended until I told her to kick it off!

My ExH’s younger cousin wore jeans to our wedding. He must have been around 12/13 at the time, which I suppose would have been no big deal for most venues, except we had a huge cathedral wedding, very formal, men in morning suits, the works. In the family photos, done in front of the huge stained glass window - he stands out like a sore thumb next to everyone else in their finery!

I only got married 4 years ago so do remember a lot.

The two that really stand out are my cousin’s yellow jumpsuit that left nothing to the imagination (she’s gorgeous and looked lovely) and my other cousin’s bright coral dress and enormous cleavage (honestly, those things must be an M cup?).

The men mostly wore suits and the women wore either a skirt suit or a nice dress, with suits being favoured by the older generation. I recall that some of the younger women wore Laura Ashley dresses, which were very fashionable at the time.
I don't think any of the guests wore white, but if they had I wouldn't have been at all bothered about it.

Vividly! The good and the bad.

I also remember particularly egregious outfits from other people's weddings.