Careers for unlikeable people

[Notatio]

I've never really been liked by anybody. I had very few friends as a child and I've had none at all since I was a preteen. I was managed out of my first proper job and they told me to get a job where I never have to speak to anybody. Obviously, jobs where you have no colleagues, manager, customers, clients, etc. to talk to are basically non-existent so as much as I'm not against the suggestion that I stay away from people, it's easier said than done.

I work in retail and have worked in warehouses in the past. I'm fairly intelligent and a hard worker so I do ok in unskilled work. I don't need to be babysat like some people and get to work alone most of the time so nobody's that fussed that people dislike me.

Is there another option? I feel like there are probably individual workplaces that would tolerate me but there's no way of knowing that in advance. It's not like you can call up and ask if they're ok with hiring somebody nobody will like.

Traffic warden?

@Notatio

I'm not ruling out that I would get a diagnosis of autism but I don't think it'd be helpful. There are huge NHS waiting lists, undoubtedly people who need assessment a lot more than I do or spending a lot of money to go private for something that I don't think would benefit me. Maybe I'm wrong but I don't think the average person has anywhere near the knowledge of neurodiversity that a diagnosis would make any difference to how I'm seen.

Would you say your more of a Sheldon Cooper personality or more Leonard Hofstadter ? These are characters from the big bang theory.

@Stompythedinosaur

I don't think you need a job on your own, just a job where your colleagues aren't arseholes.

This, absolutely. Rather than just believe them, what sort of job do you enjoy? Problem solving, hands-on work, computers, people-facing.

Choose your job to suit you, not some nasty arse of an ex-employer.

OP what is your grammar like? Have you considered work like copy writing for websites. A lot of apprenticeships have delivery online so maybe a social media type apprenticeship if your place world be open to that.
What would be your ideal job?

Telephone triage work for emergency services or NHS usually this type of work is answering a script of questions before moving on to appropriate service

Unless you're actively unpleasant In the sense of constantly criticising others, complaining about things, seeking to put others down or berate them for their stupidity etc then the lack may be in those that you have encountered not you - certainty any moral lack. An ability to value people of different abilities and approaches, particularly those on the spectrum, is what decent employers and people should be aiming at.
I have worked successfully with someone like you I think. She wasn't one for chat or everyday interaction and was a bit nonplussed by chit chat about the weather, personal life or other pleasantries. She also seemed to be unable to easily discern other's emotions- so she couldn't adjust her approach or behaviour to other's cues. This meant that she was regarded as a bit eccentric but was valued for her unshakeable integrity, depth of knowledge, logical mind and humour (once you got to know her). If you can think of a systems type job where a focussed logical mind is valuable and where client interactions etc are limited, that might be your thing.

It's worth remembering OP that some so-called "people-person" types can be staggeringly bad at communicating with "systems-person" types. Yet don't see the irony that if they were as good with people as they say they are, they would be good with you too.

For what it's worth, I would have mixed feelings about recommending the IT sector for the opposite reason. Some IT people have been even worse, staggeringly rude because they assume that every IT person is of their same systems mindset and are horrible when you disagree.

I think a career counsellor could help you unpick how to find "your people".

@Notatio

I'm not ruling out that I would get a diagnosis of autism but I don't think it'd be helpful. There are huge NHS waiting lists, undoubtedly people who need assessment a lot more than I do or spending a lot of money to go private for something that I don't think would benefit me. Maybe I'm wrong but I don't think the average person has anywhere near the knowledge of neurodiversity that a diagnosis would make any difference to how I'm seen.

You might be surprised. In my workplace (large public service employer, not NHS) we have staff groups for all sorts of issues and one of them is for neurodivergents and those who are close to neurodivergents. It can make a huge difference to your self-esteem just to meet people who know where you’re coming from. And you don’t have to be diagnosed with anything. I joined because my DCs are both ND (one with ADHD, the other undiagnosed but suspected ASD); I also relate to the social struggles due to my hearing impairment. I get that a ‘label’ isn’t a magic wand and I also get that you may not be ready to go down this route. But if you’re trying to work out where your personality and skills would best fit, it’s important that you assess yourself honestly and keep an open mind.

What do you like to do?
Who was the last person you liked and what happened?
Do you have any hobbies and interests?

Your whole post is about what other people think, people who meet you only briefly, but that's so unimportant to base your life on. What do you like, that's what matters. Once you are doing things you enjoy, you might find you are more happy and engaging.

I don't believe anyone is universally unlikeable, especially if they can reflect on their behaviour and consider it a possibility. I do think it sometimes takes a little bit longer to appreciate the good in some people, but IME it's usually worth the effort.

I have a lot of people in my life with ASD and traits that other people might take the wrong way: my dad, my DH,my DC, my workmates (I work in an academic specialty that attracts very geeky men). I can't imagine a life more dull than surrounding myself with people who see the world the way I do and who take any blip in social skills personally. Honestly, you just need to find your tribe!

Do you like animals. Could you be self employed and walk dogs? A woman I know has been to college for 2 year and learned how to groom dogs. Now she is self employed and charges £50 per dog. She can groom 5 or 6 dogs a day and works from home. Could you do that. She just has to take bookings on phone but if good at ICT you could make website and customers could book in on that. People drop dog off then collect an hour or so later.

@Notatio

I'm not ruling out that I would get a diagnosis of autism but I don't think it'd be helpful. There are huge NHS waiting lists, undoubtedly people who need assessment a lot more than I do or spending a lot of money to go private for something that I don't think would benefit me. Maybe I'm wrong but I don't think the average person has anywhere near the knowledge of neurodiversity that a diagnosis would make any difference to how I'm seen.

I've known a couple of adult people who have typically Asperger's syndrome characteristics, on the autistic spectrum. They were glad to discover this because they had spent so many years thinking there was something abnormal about them;. After realising they were 'Aspies' (their word), they knew that quite a few people were like them, in varying degrees, and there was nothing wrong with them, they were just a bit different' to most folk. It gave them confidence. Neither had any psychiatric evaluation, there was no need.

I found this test online which might interest you, Notatio. I did it just now and was surprised at my result :-) :

www.clinical-partners.co.uk/for-adults/autism-and-aspergers/adult-autism-test/adult-autism-test-results/results

@2022ORRCC

Hi

There's a phenomena that's unspoken in the UK, it's called community harassment. It's readily done in the US butt here it's underground and deeply disturbing.

To illustrate, it involves surveillance where the police get involved, council workers, certain TFL staff in my case along with the police at TFL. It branches out to the LFB (ask seniors and they can tell you it's a longstanding trend and used method to terrorise people by LFB staff). There's the Ambulance. My ordeal began frombmalicious residents seeeking my home, the usual stuff of racism. This non stop harassment the branched out to others getting involved sonit wentvfar and wide. I get helicopters flying over my building too so resources are really used up, ££££££££'s, on harassment and it goes far. As most aren't aware it's good to know, especially as mums bringing up kids in this world. There's really extreme stuff done. This includes attacks, beatings andcPAID HARASSMENT or drive into's, whatever measures are used to terrorise, discredit someone, turn their world upsidecdown, isolate them, intimidate them is used. Right now Inam letting others know. It makes sensevto. I can give a latge definition of this but the best waybto describe it is as is similar to cointel pro or something similar. Hi

There's a phenomena that's unspoken in the UK, it's called community harassment. It's readily done in the US butt here it's underground and deeply disturbing.

To illustrate, it involves surveillance where the police get involved, council workers, certain TFL staff in my case along with the police at TFL. It branches out to the LFB (ask seniors and they can tell you it's a longstanding trend and used method to terrorise people by LFB staff). There's the Ambulance. My ordeal began frombmalicious residents seeeking my home, the usual stuff of racism. This non stop harassment the branched out to others getting involved sonit wentvfar and wide. I get helicopters flying over my building too so resources are really used up, ££££££££'s, on harassment and it goes far. As most aren't aware it's good to know, especially as mums bringing up kids in this world. There's really extreme stuff done. This includes attacks, beatings andcPAID HARASSMENT or drive into's, whatever measures are used to terrorise, discredit someone, turn their world upsidecdown, isolate them, intimidate them is used. Right now Inam letting others know. It makes sensevto. I can give a latge definition of this but the best waybto describe it is as is similar to cointel pro or something similar. There's non forced entry into people's homes. So they use men,, when women are on their period, to enter their homes in the very early hours of the morning or night. They access homes and take things. In my case it's evidence linked to community harassment and mobbing and policecaction, paid harassment and more.

I currently need to raisexawareness and a little more. There's methods to tamper with phones, emails, calls, you name it. There's surveillance too . It's excessive. There's trolling so this can be onbsocial media platforms emails, whatever. There's measures to destroy your home too, etc.
Below a photos of flooding or blockages of drains, bit contents throwing and more.
There's non forced entry into people's homes. So they use men,, when women are on their period, to enter their homes in the very early hours of the morning or night. They access homes and take things. In my case it's evidence linked to community harassment and mobbing and policecaction, paid harassment and more.

I currently need to raisexawareness and a little more. There's methods to tamper with phones, emails, calls, you name it. There's surveillance too . It's excessive. There's trolling so this can be onbsocial media platforms emails, whatever. There's measures to destroy your home too, etc.
Below a photos of flooding or blockages of drains, bit contents throwing and more.
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I’d suggest you seek some help, @2022ORRCC. Start with your GP.