What do your secondary school age kids do on weekends?

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Looking for ideas. No hobbies really at the moment.

Secondary age is quite broad - 11yos will be different to 18yos!

Mine is 16. She has a PT job, socialises, goes to the gym, does school work, does extracurricular stuff (dance, drama etc). She's pretty busy.

Primary age is all play dates and parties. School football. Then there is a big shift when you are at secondary

In Year 7, mine mostly did dance and drama, met up with friends etc. She also still hung out with me a lot at that age. We do still spend time together but she's way busier now than she was!

Not much, their hobbies and clubs are weekday evenings.
Usually homework, socialising with friends, the occasional family day out. Lots of watching tv, playing xbox.

Fuck all mostly!

Not really but I feel I'm constantly telling them to find something to do!

15 year old does her hobby on sat morning. She will frequently draw or paint at the weekend and she reads a lot if manga.

13 year old will lie in bed all day watching Netflix unless I make her do something. Today I made her help me with the food shop. She sometimes goes on the turbo trainer or a ride with her dad but only with a lot of persuasion!

Neither of them see friends that often, they won't arrange anything even though I tell them to!

My dd was all dance. She rarely did anything else other than the occasional trip with her friends on the bus into town to Claire's Accessories, Primark, and McDonald's. The occasional party too.

DD (almost 15) is doing DoE so weekends are guitar and ice skating lessons followed by a bit of walking practise.

Yr 9 grandson meets friends in town fir couple of hrs on Saturday - cinema or bowling if their flush - then homework, PlayStation. Sunday plays rugby and stays at club to ball boy for the older sides. Weekends are quite chilled tbh.

We do music, tennis, friends, relaxation

Older dc does gym and sometimes goes to work at infrequent job

Mine are very similar to @wearewizardsofoz

13 year old draws and does a lot of art stuff. 15 year old would stay in bed all day if we let her. They both have friends but prefer to see them at school and relax on their own at weekends.

They're quite introverted and I think they need that time, although it's difficult not to compare to others who are busy with hobbies, sports, friends, etc. We do try to make them do something outdoors/physical at least one of the days, and they do homework/GCSE work too.

Ok this all sounds fairly similar. I thought maybe others were very busy. He is quite adve guy and always asking to do stuff and telling me he is bored. But I feel like I can’t offer anything other than a dog walk !

*adventurous not adve guy

@WeeMadArthur1 my eldest is hugely introverted and anxious and definitely needs the downtime from school.

The 13 year old is having a few friend issues (hate year 8 girls!) and isn't usually keen on initiating a meet up so will wait to be asked but mainly I think she's just lazy!

@wearewizardsofoz yours sound so similar to mine! Agree year 8 girls can be mean to each other.

My year ten is out with friends usually or in his room... I currently have 5 of them upstairs! I'm happy to have them in then at least I know they are ok! Especially school nights as he's more likely to be out after dinner...

Both of mine have hobbies but training and matches are mainly during the week so weekends remain pretty free.

They do homework, play on the xbox, occasionally go out with friends or kick/bounce balls in the garden. We go on a long walk or hike every couple of weeks.

I still very much 'force' them to do things on the weekend or half term though or they'd spend a week mainly in their bedrooms.

This week (half term here) I booked them onto an all day teen sports camp on Tuesday which got much eye rolling from the eldest (14). However they went and came out 8 hours later exhausted but saying it was brilliant and they'd like to do it again in the Easter Hols so that was a win.

I also book them swimming on a Saturday sometimes and just tell them they're going.

What I'm finding with younger teen boys (or mine anyway) is they're often far too lazy to proactively arrange stuff and even too lazy to say yes if you give them a choice - but if you just book an activity without asking them, they'll still enjoy it and be grateful they went.

My 16yo does some school work, meets her friends in town and comes with me on dog walks!

I'd like her to get a Sat job but think we'll probably wait till she's finished school now.

Year 8 here (12year old) watching netflix or playing playstation. Won't meet with friends even though we encourage him to do so. Doesn't ever meet friends outside of school or youth club(2-3 times a week)

14 yr old DS. Gaming or out with mates playing football. No team for him to play in😒

If adventurous and wanting to go out have you looked at local youth clubs? Scouts ? Teaming up with friends to fo walks or bike rides ?

Year 7 DD not much she seems to be quite happy pottering at home and I think she's finding school exhausting as she's not very sociable and is struggling a bit after Covid times.
Year 10 DD has a part time job and has 2 shifts at weekends. She often comes out with me or chills reading. Some friendship changes means she's happy just being in her own company at present or with us.
Sometimes we visit friends for the weekend or grandparents.

It’s a shame once the leave primary school that most sports become elitist and only a few can continue

Yes he is in scouts but it is more of a youth club here unfortunately

DS is now 17 but has always done some sport (football/ rugby now gym) , some studying and some chilling (gaming mostly). The odd party but football is Sunday mornings so tends to keep it quite low key.

Dd (15) is much more social and is out more than she is in. She also rides her horse.