What one single word describes your mother to you and sums up what she means to you?

[NETSRIK]

I'll start 'distant'

Judgmental

I feel the opposite. How hard it was to be pregnant and taking care of young children and waking up several times a night for young babies? All for your child years later to sum you up with a negative word. Ungrateful for the majority of people with negative words (there will be a small percentage of exceptions).

A small percentage of exceptions? According to who- to you? Do we roll out the details of our relationships to you so you can decide if we get to be an exception?

Genuinely, I’m thrilled if you have a lovely normal relationship with your mum. Jealous actually. I’m having counselling at the moment for something not related to my mum but we had the obligatory ‘tell me about your childhood and relationship with your parents’ session and she said she was glad I kept my mum at a distance, that it was certainly for the best. Do I get to be an exception or do you want the full story to judge?

[quote GlamorousHeifer]@Jvg33 what planet are you on?
If the mothers described had been half decent people wouldn't be describing them negatively [/quote]
Gosh there are a lot of mother haters on here. Very sad. You do realise that life wasn't just about you growing up? There were other people in your family with needs/wants/desires?

Complicated.

Indifferent

@SockFluffInTheBath

I feel the opposite. How hard it was to be pregnant and taking care of young children and waking up several times a night for young babies? All for your child years later to sum you up with a negative word. Ungrateful for the majority of people with negative words (there will be a small percentage of exceptions).

A small percentage of exceptions? According to who- to you? Do we roll out the details of our relationships to you so you can decide if we get to be an exception?

Genuinely, I’m thrilled if you have a lovely normal relationship with your mum. Jealous actually. I’m having counselling at the moment for something not related to my mum but we had the obligatory ‘tell me about your childhood and relationship with your parents’ session and she said she was glad I kept my mum at a distance, that it was certainly for the best. Do I get to be an exception or do you want the full story to judge?

I thought Mumsnet had this powerful force of celebrating women and mothers. Look at some of you, tearing them all down.

Yeah, I realised it wasn't all about me. Not sure how I worked it out, maybe it was my mother telling me several times a day that she wished she had never had me. Of course, I realise now I should have been grateful

Omg how deluded. How can you call anyone ungrateful in this way. You have no idea. And yes I have raised children, not that that has anything to do with you and not that that changes how I feel about my own mother. I know it is hard work and know no one is perfect but there is a big difference between a loving mother and a narcissistic disinterested selfish woman. You really sound quite defensive about the negativity. Is there a reason for this?

@NETSRIK
I wouldn't bother fanning the flames. No comprehension whatsoever.

I thought Mumsnet had this powerful force of celebrating women and mothers. Look at some of you, tearing them all down.

And what is it you’re doing?

Adored.

@NETSRIK

Omg how deluded. How can you call anyone ungrateful in this way. You have no idea. And yes I have raised children, not that that has anything to do with you and not that that changes how I feel about my own mother. I know it is hard work and know no one is perfect but there is a big difference between a loving mother and a narcissistic disinterested selfish woman. You really sound quite defensive about the negativity. Is there a reason for this?

I wonder how your children would describe you in one word?

@Jvg33 I don't think this thread is for you. Surely the best people to describe their mother are those who have them as their mother. Not some random on mumsnet giving them a ticking off for not saying they are the greatest. It sounds like the negativity has hit a raw nerve with you.

Everything 💕💕💕

Underestimated!

Look at some of you, tearing them all down.

I'm not tearing them all down. That is not my place.
I will defend my right to use a word of my choosing to describe my own though, thank you.

If you really have an issue with the thread I suggest you hide it.

Violent

Grounded

Reliable

Irreplaceable

Omnipotent

More than one word....but my absolute everything. I'm gonna put it out here I've got the best Mum ever 💕