I'm so lonely and sad about my birthday

[ARicher22]

It was my birthday today. I'm a single mum and only 3 people have even acknowledged my birthday.
A family member has bought me some thing on behalf of young DD, her dad hasn't rven bothered despite Me always arranging something for her for fathers day and birthdays.
A long standing friend has briefly wished me a happy birthday via Instagram.
A Co worker I'm close to brought me coffee and cake in last week as a lovely gesture.
No one else, including my own parents (although I'm not especially close to one) have even acknowledged it.
I always send a card, arranged breakfast or a meal out when it's a family members birthday, not a single fucking one has bothered to even acknowledge mine and I'm so hurt. DD loves birthdays, we make cake, cards etc and I feel so sad that she can't do the same for me.
I have few friends as it is, loads of acquaintances who I chat to when I see them but it never goes beyond that into making arrangements to see each other outside our mutual place.
I'm just so lonely today, usually I manage fine in my own company but I feel really down about it today.
I know it's pathetic, I am in my 30s so it's not like I'm expecting a big night out or anything. Just needed to vent a little I guess.

Happy birthday OP!!!! Your DD loves you and you love your DD. xxxxxxx

You sound like a lovely person and a great mum
Happy birthday 🥳

Happy birthday! Was nice of your coworker to bring up something. Enjoy the day with your daughter, go out and do something fun this week @ARicher22

I know my co worker is lovely and I'm trying to stay positive.
The weather is looking miserable so we are going to bake and have a movie day.
I just feel such a loser baking my own cake so DD can sing happy birthday

Happy Birthday!!! You sound like a lovely mum sending you happy birthday vibes

Happy Birthday lovely 🎉✨️xx

Happy Birthday 🥳 you can celebrate with your dd. Make cake with her, decorate the house, put the music on loud and dance. Oh and play old fashioned party games with her, musical statues! Maybe next year book an afternoon tea for you and dd.
It’s crap when there’s no one to spoil you on your birthday, but teach your dd to make a fuss of you.
I’m sorry your parents didn’t bother, that’s sad.

Happy birthday don’t rely on others treat yourself. Hugs

Happy birthday - I'm so sorry nobody has made the effort, my own dp's and siblings don't bother with mine or my kids birthdays and it hurts.
Celebrate with your dd - you and her are all that matters

Can believe how shit your parents are. Happy birthday gorgeous xxxxx

Happy Birthday OP Enjoy your cake x

Happy birthday!!

You’re not a loser, you’re an incredible mum! Have a lovely day with your daughter tomorrow doing all the things you want to do, even if that means cake for breakfast

Happy birthday OP you are not a loser, it can be massively hard in your thirties to maintain or make new friendships that go beyond acquaintance level, try to think of the positives of your lovely daughter, and if you can bake a cake you are doing better than me xxx

🥳 happy birthday !!!
You’re not a loser. You are a kind generous person who is an amazing example to your DD.
Are you amicable with your ex??? If so I’d point out the discrepancy to him (not today but later) and remind him that if you both want to raise DD to be the best she can be that setting a good example around birthdays us in her best interests. If he is a dick generally then don’t bother.

Hope the cake tastes great.

Bless you. Definitely not a loser, that's not what your daughter would think of you. Your obviously very thoughtful of your arranging things for your friends and family, just a shame they can't be bothered to do anything in return.

Happy birthday Op!!!
I've noticed the last few years that I've received fewer bday / xmas wishes. And no thoughtful gesturers. It's kind of sad. Not sure if it's because I'm in my 30s now or people are just a bit down and less interested in celebrating anything in general. Your wider circle may not even know, did you put anything on SM that might make them realise it's your bday..
Not sure.
You're not alone in feeling like this. Your DD loves you v much I'm sure.

Happy birthday @ARicher22 Really sorry others have been crap.

Happy birthday!🎂

Happy Birthday

You aren't a loser at all. It's bloody tough being a single mum on birthdays and Christmas.

Keep being that great role model by doing Father's Day and birthdays as it's for your daughters benefit (just make sure it's all home made stuff and you aren't out of pocket).

How old is she? You can give her some money next time and take her to a shop so she can choose something for you. I know it doesn't solve the problems you are posting about but it'll be nice for you both anyhow.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY don't dwell on things and enjoy your evening.

Happy Birthday @ARicher22! Many happy returns.

I think this is not uncommon for single mums although your parents sound a bit shit. That's on them, not you. I'm not sure how old your DD is but as she gets older she will make a fuss in other ways for you, and you will probably find you make more mum friends. We used to group together and buy each other inexpensive but thoughtful gifts at Christmas to have a few things to open while our kids did too. Enjoy your cake!

HappyBirthday!
Best wishes to you and your daughter.

A very Happy Birthday 🎂 🍾 🥂
Your not sad at all. Make the cake and have a cosy evening with your dd. Can you get a takeaway in and some special treats. Maybe popcorn ect make it a movie day?
Or plan something fun for you and your dd to do on another day?
I'm sorry no one's acknowledged it in your family its really shit. But pls done dwell on it and try to have a lovely time despite them.

Rainbowqueen - me and her dad get on fine now which makes it even worse. Even when we didn't get on so well I always sent a small cake and candle, card and token gift from DD for birthdays, card and small gift on fathersday, plus all the handmade stuff she wanted to make for him.
Since we've got on I usually organise to go for breakfast with him and DD (cheap and cheerful, I pay) and then to the park/ do an activity that DD will like. As like you say, I feel it is important that DD learns to celebrate (or at least acknowledge these things).

Hopefullyoneday12 .. no I expect my wider circle of acquaintances wouldn't know, I guess I'm just down I havnt managed to keep close friends who would know if that makes sense.

It's not even like I'm expecting a full on party, but I've not even got anyone to invite me to the pub for example for a drink to celebrate or to do anything with apart from DD.
One parent I expected wouldn't do much and that's ok, like I say we have a strained relationship at best. The other, it hurts they forgot

Your co worker sounds kind and thoughtful. Can you and her get a group of you together to buy joint gifts for each other's birthdays- we do this in my office and it's really nice as no one is left out and it's something to look forward to when you go into work.