I'm so lonely and sad about my birthday

[ARicher22]

It was my birthday today. I'm a single mum and only 3 people have even acknowledged my birthday.
A family member has bought me some thing on behalf of young DD, her dad hasn't rven bothered despite Me always arranging something for her for fathers day and birthdays.
A long standing friend has briefly wished me a happy birthday via Instagram.
A Co worker I'm close to brought me coffee and cake in last week as a lovely gesture.
No one else, including my own parents (although I'm not especially close to one) have even acknowledged it.
I always send a card, arranged breakfast or a meal out when it's a family members birthday, not a single fucking one has bothered to even acknowledge mine and I'm so hurt. DD loves birthdays, we make cake, cards etc and I feel so sad that she can't do the same for me.
I have few friends as it is, loads of acquaintances who I chat to when I see them but it never goes beyond that into making arrangements to see each other outside our mutual place.
I'm just so lonely today, usually I manage fine in my own company but I feel really down about it today.
I know it's pathetic, I am in my 30s so it's not like I'm expecting a big night out or anything. Just needed to vent a little I guess.

Happy birthday!

I will say as a parent my birthday tends to get bloody overlooked too. Please don't take it too personally. I think people just assume I'm no longer interested.

You sound awesome! Give yourself a treat. A hot bath. Some cake. And a cuddle with the Dc x

Happy birthday! Sorry it’s been a sad one, single mum life is hard. Here’s an emoji party from me 🥳🎂🍾🎁🎈🎉x

Next year be prepared, do something nice for you, order a takeaway, get your hair done, have a day out with your daughter, don' t leave it up to others you' ll be disapointed, plan something nice because you deserve it.

@Rainbowqueeen

🥳 happy birthday !!! You’re not a loser. You are a kind generous person who is an amazing example to your DD. Are you amicable with your ex??? If so I’d point out the discrepancy to him (not today but later) and remind him that if you both want to raise DD to be the best she can be that setting a good example around birthdays us in her best interests. If he is a dick generally then don’t bother.

Hope the cake tastes great.

Good point. Tell him that doing something nice with her for fathers/mothers days and birthdays isn’t really about the two of you, it’s for her. And let him know that you expect him to help her celebrate Mother’s Day next month the same way her little friends will be able to do with their mums and dads facilitating.

Have a lovely birthday

I hope you made the cake with DD. It's not sad to do your own- it's about spending time together and I bet it could be a new and really lovely annual tradition and childhood memory for her.

Happy Birthday op.

Thankyou everyone, it really does mean a lot
DD was at her dads today (I work from home Saturdays so I finish earlier weekdays so it's cool) so me and DD will celebrate tomorrow, DD is 6 for those asking, so beyond a card still has to rely on other people helping her out for these things.

Embrace the peace and cosiness of being inside! If this is not how you want to spend next birthday then make plans towards a different birthday next year and focus on building some better relationships who value you. You are so lucky to have a loving daughter! I made my own cake last year as couldn't see one i liked. It was the best ever!! Just how i liked it! 🎂🍰🧁xxx

Happy Birthday!
ExDP and I have birthdays early in the year so I instigated a non confrontational chat about this issue when the schools went back. We agreed a £10 budget and agreed Christmas, birthdays and Mother's/Father's day have to be acknowledged. We can suggest - but not EXPECT - a certain gift. This was after he asked for a £25 gift, which he received, and then bought me a £5 balloon. Much easier now!

Happy birthday @ARicher22! Dd is only 6 now so so reliant on others, but not long till she'll be able to be independent with getting you things.

Happy birthday @ARicher22

I personally think it's lovely to spend time with your DD baking a cake and will be doing the same with my DS next week when it's my birthday purely because we both enjoy doing it together and it gets him off his screen

Happy birthday OP. You sound so nice and like a thoughtful person. I’m sorry you haven’t had the celebration of you that is deserving

Happy birthday 🥳 It’s is mine today too! Plans got changed for me too as DD (18) has Covid so been running around sorting food etc for her as she is isolating at uni! Hopefully you and your DD can have a nice celebration together tomorrow and there will be plenty of lovely birthday celebrations in the future when she is older xx

Happy Birthday, hope you and your daughter have a lovely day tomorrow .Enjoy your

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Happy Birthday! Enjoy your day with your DD!

Next year, get yourself organised, order a cake to be delivered, and get in stuff to make an afternoon tea for you & DD, make some fruity mocktails, don’t be down in the dumps! 🍹 🍹 🍹

Don’t rely on your ex and others, I’m a single parent my ex has never got me stuff for my birthday “from the kids” and I think it’s unnecessary anyway, at 6 she is old enough my 7 year old does it! We go in the shop together and he will “buy” me stuff say Poundland etc and I will pretend I can’t see whilst he picks things I will turn my back, he even scans it himself at the self check out and I just pay whilst he bags it, just a few things like chocs, card, bath set, candle That kind of thing, it wasn’t my plan to do this he asked to and expressed that he wanted to get me things on my birthday.

Happy Birthday OP.

I'd arrange with your ex to have birthdays with your child from now on. Then you can arrange a special day for the two of you, and any contributions from anyone else is a bonus.

Happy birthday 🥳
Enjoy the celebrations with your dd tomorrow and when she’s older I bet she makes birthdays special for you xx

If she’s at at her dads today then maybe he has organised a present etc and it’s coming. Or is she already back?

If so I would message her dad and say something like ‘I wanted to confirm about birthdays, fathers/mothers day, etc: I always make sure Dd has something to give you on those days (she’s obviously too young to do it herself without help but she enjoys it and it’s good values for her to give as well as receive). But it’s my birthday today and you haven’t helped Dd do the same for me. So we can be on the same page going forwards is it that you forgot or is it that you don’t want to it?’

Or if that’s too confrontational or passive aggressive then just stop doing things for him completely (maybe remind Dd to make him a card so you can be the bigger person). On your days take her to the shops and give her a few pounds to spend on you.

Don’t confront your ex about buying presents it’s really cringe, if you do it for him and he hasn’t done it for you take the hint and just stop doing it, if he wanted to do it he would have.

Happy birthday! You and your dd sound lovely xx

Happy Birthday!

Now,for the next year you put every penny you would have spent on birthday treats for others into a pot or account for YOUR birthday fund for next year.
Book the day off and do lots of lovely things that you enjoy.
Even if it's as simple as buying in lovely breakfast goodies and treating you and DD to a lunch or dinner out.

Happy birthday. You're fucking amazing

Happy birthday! I always make my own birthday cake. My daughter and husband did attempt to make me one this year but it didn’t rise and then they both got ill so I made my favourite cake. It’s tough having to do all the prep/organisation for one’s own birthday when you do it for your children/ family but at least then you get the celebration you want and your favourite cake. And definitely stop doing birthday/Father’s Day stuff for your ex if he doesn’t reciprocate. You’ll just get more resentful. Hugs. Hope you have a lovely day with your daughter tomorrow. Xx

I'm so sorry to hear this OP, I know its upsetting but people do care for you and as she gets older you'll have wonderful birthdays with your DD where she can properly wish you Happy Birthday and celebrate in her own way. Its just me and DS (4 next week) here and we both love birthdays whoever it is so a genuine really big Happy Birthday from both of us ❤ He gets so excited at anyone's birthday and if I told him right now it was your (a random stranger on the Internet) Birthday he'd be singing you the loudest Happy Birthday song right now with the biggest smile on his face. Xx