YANBU @Spongebobsmartypants And I agree with the poster who said, many women here dish out learned advice but would never do it themselves. They dish out the 'LTB' advice all the time, and come out with the same tale of how they left THEIR husband, at the age of 45-50, and have never been happier, or richer, how they now have a shiny new career, and a whole bunch of new friends.
In reality, leaving your DH at 45-50 years old would leave many women in poverty and penury, scratting for hours at work just to make ends meet, and spending her evenings alone, in front of the TV. And in many cases, she will regret leaving.
Unless the DH was abusive, or constantly unfaithful, or a compulsive gambler, throwing the family into severe financial trouble/bankruptcy, why would you leave? We all have our annoying and irritating habits and traits and most men are no worse than most women... Life is easier financially (for most) when you are sharing it with someone. I know dozens of women come on here to say how amazing it is being alone, but unless you're very solvent/quite rich, it's not an easy life at all.
I also have no cleaner, no gardener, and no maid, and I don't even have a tumble dryer or dishwasher. I work part time (from home) and really enjoy it, and my DH works 34 hours a week. He drives me nuts sometimes, and I know I drive him nuts too sometimes. But we love each other, and have a good time together quite often, and have a lot in common.
We have savings, but only the low 4 figures, our private pensions are quite poor, we rent our property from a housing association, and we have a 10 year old car. Only one, not one each. We buy our clothes at Tesco, The Original Factory Shop, Asda, and Peacocks, our food at Aldi and Morrisons, and have not been to a hairdresser in 10 years, choosing to do it ourselves.
We are only average earners, but as we have a cheap social housing property we are comfortable. However, we have been through some really bad times financially in the past, where we lost everything but I would rather not discuss it in detail. It almost broke us mentally and emotionally though. We came out stronger though.
We lost our parents some years ago, but did get on with each others parents, and we get on OK with extended family, and have 2 perfect 20-something daughters. We enjoy McDonalds too, and takeaway, crisps, chocolate, wine, port, and beer. We rarely exercise, (only go for walks and bike rides 2 or 3 times a week,) we don't go to the gym, and rarely cook from scratch. Maybe one meal in five! We mostly have takeaways, ready meals, sandwiches, salads, Maccies, pizza, toast, frozen pies/ burgers/ fish etc, and oven chips, and sometimes tinned food.... OH I am a size 14 too!
As many people on here say, the way some women portray themselves on here is not how I see ANYone in real life. Some women on here live in a dream world, especially the ones who promote trying for a baby past the age of 45 as something normal and acceptable, and 'everyone they know does it...' .In real life, no-one does that.
Also, NO-ONE I know in real life, has EVER been asked for I.D. to prove they're old enough to buy booze, when they're 43!