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Am i the only one on mumsnet who ......

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Spongebobsmartypants · 06/02/2022 15:47

Is just a bog standard mum living in an bog standard house, working in a bog standard job with no cleaner or nanny, who drinks a wee bit too much wine at the weekend and eats to much chocolate, who lets their kids watch tv so i can get peace and wouldn't LTB for Leaving the toilet seat up or leaving dirty washing on the floor.

I feel like i don't fit in even in real life i dont know people like the ones on mumsnet. This is in no way a criticism, i love the support on the site.

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Bookaholic73 · 06/02/2022 17:34

Oh thank his there are more of you!
I’m the same, normal person, normal DH, 2 adult kids driving me mad.

I don’t HAVE a cleaner, I AM a cleaner, lol. I also work in retail earning minimum wage.

KurtWilde · 06/02/2022 17:37

I actually love cleaning (ADHD donuts my hyper focus) but there are times when the whole place looks like a tornado went through it Grin

icebearforpresident · 06/02/2022 17:39

I’ve found my people.

My house is messy (not dirty) and I’ll never have a cleaner because I honestly find having a pristinely tidy house stressful. I work part time as an estate agent, which according to most on here makes me the actual devil, and the only time my kids have been off their gadgets today was to bake some cupcakes, then it was back to gadgets. Yesterday none of us got dressed but that’s ok because today we did.

Breakfast was a chocolate chip pancake, from the Sainsburys bakery not homemade, which I ate in bed watching the Winter Olympics.

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KurtWilde · 06/02/2022 17:39

Don't know how the word donuts got in there but I eat them too. In fact that was my breakfast yesterday.

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Spongebobsmartypants · 06/02/2022 17:41

I too only get dressed if i have too, somedays not at all and i dont bath or shower my kids twice daily either.

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iklboo · 06/02/2022 17:44

Another normal here, too. But crisps & cheese instead of as well as chocolate.

Itsmeandhim · 06/02/2022 17:45

I've been a kept woman since I married in 1979.
I've only ever since having the children worked part time.
All DH's money is ours. I've never had to ask for money.
We share the housework. But he does the gardening
because he loves it.
I loved my in-laws. He loves my family.
Our Dil is our extra daughter. Sil is another son.
We visit our son/daughters families when
it's convenient for everyone. They come here
when they want. With them all working full time
we don't want them to feel as though they have to.

CatCup · 06/02/2022 17:46

You sound like me. Just replace the wine with coffee though.

And I wish I had a cleaner.

User1234567891011121314 · 06/02/2022 17:53

Thank you for this. I am also of the chicken nugget variety on a fairly constant basis plus a McDonald's at the weekend shock horror. Also drive a ok car , also don't have cleaners or nannies and just try my best and also have feral kids hehe

Minniem2020 · 06/02/2022 18:02

Very much normal in this house. Kids eat far too much crap, have far too much screen time and often these things are used as bribes just for an easy life.
House is clean but usually toys etc everywhere. All the cleaning and household jobs are down to me and the nearest I get to a cleaner is when DM visits and takes pity on me so has a tidy up.
DP is a lazy arse that does very little to help day to day but has many redeeming qualities which mean I won't ltb just yet

Solongtoshort · 06/02/2022 18:08

Big standard here. Still in my pjs, l would love a cleaner but l would have to clean up before the cleaner got here it would cause me too much stress.

BiscuitLover3678 · 06/02/2022 18:10

I think those ones just stand out and they all jump on the same thread at the same time.

shakeitoffshakeacocktail · 06/02/2022 18:15

We sit together for dinner maybe 5 times a year or if we have guests round. Just me and an 8 year old DD here.

It is not special bonding time, I bond with her all day long.

Maybe when she's a reclusive teenager we will but no thank you it's not important to me and we don't fit each other's eating styles

I usually eat standing in the kitchen listening to the radio and don't often eat a full evening meal I eat a big lunch at work

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Spongebobsmartypants · 06/02/2022 18:17

We never sit together for dinner, well except on really rare and special occasions. We often eat with our dinners on our laps in front of telly.

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iklboo · 06/02/2022 18:26

We do eat together most times and at the table - but that's because it's in the kitchen & less far to travel with our curry.

ponkydonkey · 06/02/2022 18:30

I'm there with you... let my kids eat dominos
Absolutely hate my teen some days ( because he's an absolute bellend)

Drink far too much .., and dream 😴 f being child free

I do love them most of the time but my god they push my buttons

Middle income, single parent, have a nice life but we call dream right?

DinosApple · 06/02/2022 18:39

Regular mum here too.
Kids argue, we all eat normally (barring DD1 who's a very fussy veggie), we don't earn anywhere near the figures trotted out on this site (both just above minimum) and certainly don't have nanny and never had a cleaner. Our last foreign holiday was our honeymoon 15 years ago.

... I'd bloody love a cleaner though Grin.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 06/02/2022 18:41

A lot of MNers would think I'm "common" from what I've read. I'm a working class single mum, had my child young, I work in a factory, get tax credits, I'm covered in tattoos, I drink vodka, still like to go out and party when I get the chance. No one has a cleaner in my world! I'm happy though and try to be a good person so that's all that matters to me. I'm not interested in pretending to be something I'm not.

Waxonwaxoff0 · 06/02/2022 18:43

@Spongebobsmartypants

We never sit together for dinner, well except on really rare and special occasions. We often eat with our dinners on our laps in front of telly.
I've got a dining room but I only use it at Christmas, I can't be arsed with laying the table every day, we eat in front of the telly in the living room every day.
AiryFairyLights · 06/02/2022 18:46

Pulling my armchair that’s covered in dog hair into the centre of this lovely thread! I’ve been in my pjs all day and the hubby and grown up sons are all finding their own dinners - You never know they might throw me a morsel 😉

Waxonwaxoff0 · 06/02/2022 18:47

Oh and I don't limit DS's screen time either. He's doing well at school, we do days out most weekends and he does hobbies so if he wants to use screens in his free time at home then I'm not bothered.

TrashyPanda · 06/02/2022 18:48

Don’t drive and am perfectly happy taking buses.
Shop inAldi, Lidl and Primark cos they are good value for money and I like their stuff.
More than happy to sit playing my Switch while mindless stuff is on the TV.

LethargeMarg · 06/02/2022 18:52

Me too.
Semi detached house, two old cars
Three kids who spend far to long on screens, who were sleep trained, who eat far to much crap and I end up making about 4 different meals most evenings to suit their various food fads, dh who does bugger all round the house but works a 70 hour week which brings in a decent salary and I still have more down time than him with a 30 hour a week low paid job, so no plans to LTB .
I don't have a cleaner and 'house admin' takes about half an hour a week
I also vote Labour but am married to a conservative voter but we can still agree on a lot of things

Afonavon · 06/02/2022 18:54

I am bog standard:

Low wage but live within our means, so no cleaner, only one car (contemplating having no car).

Crisps for breakfast today

Ignored grumpy teen

Husband and I have flaws, but they are not a reason to LTB

Don’t post much as there will always be someone who enjoys being the Devil’s Advocate just for the hell of it…can’t be arsed with all that bollocks.

If I fancy a treat, it can easily be a coke and a chicken & mushroom Pot Noodle.

Love my inlaws (they created my favourite person in the world, what’s not to love?)

Hesma · 06/02/2022 18:55

I’m a single mum with a bog standard life. 2DDs (9&11), days involve work, swimming lessons, making dinner, watching tv etc. Kid free weekends involve catching up on housework / sleep. Recent excitement is that we just got a cat