Valentine's Day gift hell and heaven this year?

[HQPlanning]

Hello Mumsnetters!

We've got a debate going over here at MNHQ... essentially it's... what's your idea of a Valentine's Day gift from hell and a Valentine's Day gift from heaven?

We'll go first...

Valentine's Day HELL = a meal on the day - nothing worse than a set menu in a restaurant filled with other couples mooning over each other.

Valentine's Day HEAVEN = massage, facial, spa day... anything! I want to be shut in a room with pinkly plonky music and no sign of a laptop or phone anywhere near me.

We can't wait to hear yours.....

Heaven = your partner knowing your own personal wishes for Valentine’s Day and acting accordingly

Hell = partner blindly buying some tat from the supermarket because he can’t be bothered to give it any thought or thinks that you saying you don’t want any presents means you want a teddy holding a love heart

@iklboo

I've reported & MNHQ has confirmed this is genuinely them.

How embarrassing.

@RedRec that is exactly the undercurrent in some posts!

@MayEye

God the miseries are out in force on this thread! And I don’t celebrate valentines really but I know some people do and each to their own.

Or… people giving their own preferences and feelings in response to a question!

You could contribute your personal ‘heaven’ instead of moaning about other people’s views?

@CanofCant - why embarrassing? Several people have asked if this is a journo pretending to be MNHQ as the dialogue box is the wrong colour. Let's not pretend this hasn't happened before.

When I say 'report' I used the function to ask them to confirm it's a genuine thread before too many people got suckered in.

@RedRec - yes, I see what you mean, too. When people call it 'tat' or 'rubbish' or 'embarrassing' - goes a bit beyond just saying you don't care for something.

Heaven = a nice meal at home, some rubbish telly and a bubbly bath
Hell = a spa day

Heaven - a few days away from home, somewhere with a kitchen and having a steak dinner (cooked by DH) followed by a relaxed evening together somewhere cosy.

Hell - going out for a meal somewhere crowded and rubbish or any other type of 'forced romance' and / or being given sexy underwear. Or on the opposite side, being given a practical, household gift (a long time ago an ex gave me an apron and new slippers for Valentine's Day 🙄)

Heaven - a damn good shag, you know, one of those where you put some effort in and hoover the bedroom first as you're going to be there a while

Hell - dunno, accidentally time travelling back to March 2020?

Hell for me would be sexy underwear. DH really really wants to buy me something - as a treat for himself, natch - but I am a large size and anything nice that fits will be £££. Something that doesn't fit but is still 'sexy' would probably still be fairly spendy but also uncomfortable and a waste of money. No thank you.

Heaven would be just a hug and a kiss and an I love you. I don't like it as a day. Personally I feel our anniversary is more special.

Hello everyone. The OP is indeed a HQer - not a troll/journo.

Valentine hell: a three-legged pub crawl with the ex
Valentine heaven: the cold embrace of the void.

As you were.
MNHQ

[quote iklboo]@CanofCant - why embarrassing? Several people have asked if this is a journo pretending to be MNHQ as the dialogue box is the wrong colour. Let's not pretend this hasn't happened before.

When I say 'report' I used the function to ask them to confirm it's a genuine thread before too many people got suckered in. [/quote]
I'm not saying your reporting was embarrassing at all. I asked myself why the box wasn't the usual MNHQ blue colour.

I think the original post was embarrassing (to me anyway) worded oddly, seemed over enthusiastic and it was a really strange question that's not usually posed by HQ on here. The 'embarassing' was directed at that, not you reporting or anybody's replies or valentine's day preferences.

Heaven - nice takeaway + chocolates and champagne, sex on the hearthrug.

Hell - he forgets it is valentines day. Roses - they are flown in and poor quality, I'd rather have something to eat.

Over the years I've had some nice Valentines meals out, but I prefer to stay in.

Heaven - home cooked meal and maybe a card at a push if it's a really fancy year
Hell - chocolate, lingerie, meal out, actually acknowledging the days existence...

The cliche Mumsnet spa day

Honestly?

Its depressing that people set their ambition so low.

Hell - 'Romantic' meal in a restaurant full of other fawning couples and wasted money on unwanted gifts.

Heaven - Absolutely no attention to the enforced frifolity fuelled by capitalism and completely ignore the whole thing.

Hell - going for any forced fun cheesy romantic meal.

Heaven - some lovely flowers delivered. BIG bouquet Then being left alone for the the rest of the day.

[quote iklboo]@CanofCant - why embarrassing? Several people have asked if this is a journo pretending to be MNHQ as the dialogue box is the wrong colour. Let's not pretend this hasn't happened before.

When I say 'report' I used the function to ask them to confirm it's a genuine thread before too many people got suckered in. [/quote]
I'm pretty annoyed you have incorrectly read my words then used it in response to another poster to take the piss out of me really. Quite hypocritical when you are talking about other people being mocking and intolerant. If you look back a page you will see I'm not the only person who was surprised and disappointed in the wording of the original post and didn't initially believe it to be legit.

@Chishnfips

Hell - 'Romantic' meal in a restaurant full of other fawning couples and wasted money on unwanted gifts.

Heaven - Absolutely no attention to the enforced frifolity fuelled by capitalism and completely ignore the whole thing.

I agree with your heaven but I really like flowers so will jump on the bandwagon for some oversized roses. 🤣

My husband and I always go out for a nice meal to an upscale restaurant on Valentine's Day. I don't understand why that would be anyone's idea of hell, unless you don't enjoy spending time with your spouse. I rarely see a "set menu" on Valentine's Day. Sometimes they might have specials. And I don't spend that much time worrying about the other customers in the restaurant. "Other couples mooning over each other" - what does that even mean and why would it be a problem?

Bagsy valentines with BeckyMN.

Heaven: my partner tasers me and I forget the last few years we’ve had together. We can then have a conversation about something mundane without a fight and he gives me a hug and I don’t feel like screaming GET AWAY FROM ME.

Hell: the above doesn’t happen and I give my partner a box of chocolates, he gives me some flowers and we go about our day carefully avoiding each other.

@Chishnfips

Hell - 'Romantic' meal in a restaurant full of other fawning couples and wasted money on unwanted gifts.

Heaven - Absolutely no attention to the enforced frifolity fuelled by capitalism and completely ignore the whole thing.

For anyone who said they weren’t seeing any sneering, I give you Exhibit A.

Heaven: breakfast in bed with fresh fruit and a glass of fizz, a lazy day spent together, seafood platter for dinner.

Hell: anything with red plastic hearts or novelty stuff like chocolate knickers or the like.

@HomeHomeInTheRange
Heaven - spending it with my boyfriend in any way
Hell - spending it with my exH in any way

Heaven - deep cleaned house, a foot rub for my disgusting pregnancy hooves and any of his homemade meals as he is an amazing cook. O and a rude card!

Hell - anything "sexy" as I look like a beach ball on legs, chocolate as I'm desperately trying to avoid it, flowers as I can never keep them alive or anything to do with going out because everywhere is overpriced on Valentine's.