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Would you date a man who didn't eat any vegetables?

462 replies

Callcat · 03/02/2022 15:37

Just that really!

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Thirtytimesround · 03/02/2022 16:05

Nope.

loveinthe90s · 03/02/2022 16:05

No I wouldn't, hugely off-putting (and makes me think they would have terrible skin and hair too). Can't deal with that level of fussy eating in an adult.

DiddyHeck · 03/02/2022 16:05

@FrugalFrancine why on earth does what they put in their mouths affect how seriously you take them? I just can't understand that.

It's like saying you can't take someone seriously because they favour a low carb diet, or a fasting diet or any one of the millions of diets out there. Or you can't take them seriously because they won't eat meat or fish.

How does any of that affect you and more to the point, why does it affect how seriously you take them in other areas of life?

EatingGreens · 03/02/2022 16:06

@InTheNightWeWillWish

Sorry that should have said that the people I know who don’t eat vegetables are fussy eaters and don’t cook. I’m not saying all people who don’t vegetables won’t cook and only eat chips, just my experience of the handful I know.
That's been my experience too.
missymousey · 03/02/2022 16:07

No!

FrugalFrancine · 03/02/2022 16:07

I find it really infantile; like someone saying they still play with Barbies as I said. It doesn't have to affect all aspects of their lives for me to be Hmm Sorry if that's rubbed you up the wrong way Flowers

NoSquirrels · 03/02/2022 16:07

When everyone says it’s nothing to do with them, though, I wonder - how?

Not every meal can be separated from its vegetable element into distinct things. It cuts out so much!

FrugalFrancine · 03/02/2022 16:08

@FrugalFrancine

I find it really infantile; like someone saying they still play with Barbies as I said. It doesn't have to affect all aspects of their lives for me to be Hmm Sorry if that's rubbed you up the wrong way Flowers
Sorry that was to you @DiddyHeck
DiddyHeck · 03/02/2022 16:08

@StrychnineIntheSandwiches

God no. I don't understand how someone could dislike all vegetables and I'd suspect they had a very rigid and conservative mindset. I like a man with a bit of adventure and an openness to trying new things. Not someone who's scared to eat some peas.
What if they've tried lots of new things and still don't vegetables? And why would you think that means they're 'scared' to eat some peas?

Do you find some foods 'scary', or do you just not like some foods? Because there's a huge difference.

NowEvenBetter · 03/02/2022 16:08

Diddy if you’d read the replies like you said, then you’d know why. Because food and dining is important to people and a shared experience, dating a heavily self-restricted eater is unappealing and means they don’t have a pretty big factor in common? That’s ‘batshit crazy’? 😄

ambushedbywine · 03/02/2022 16:09

No

JackyinaTracky · 03/02/2022 16:10

Depends why really.
Well adjusted adult, who is otherwise balanced, but doesn’t like veg? Annoying but probably not worth choosing not to date/break up over it.
Man child with ongoing trauma from a difficult childhood, where anything remotely like making sensible choices (food, money, education, life chores etc) is now viewed as some sort of punishment… resulting in an almost pathological fear and hatred of anything most people would deem to be normal life, coupled with a neeeed to control what is in every morsel of their brown food… give it a miss.

Easterbunnyiswindowshopping · 03/02/2022 16:10

My dh didn't have much of a varied diet when we met. He cooks mostly now and is great at eating everything!

Somethingsnappy · 03/02/2022 16:10

@DiddyHeck

When I read the thread title I thought firstly 'I can't believe this is an actual question because why on earth would any one not??' Then I read the replies and (not that any confirmation was needed), it confirmed Mumsnet is actually properly batshit crazy 🤣🤣

What in fuck's name would it have to do with me what another adult chooses to eat/not eat? I genuinely do NOT get it? Confused

I have a friend who eats no fruit or vegetables. None at all. He's a lovely man, and attractive, but I just couldn't be with someone like this as I'd worry about their health long term. And I agree with others that it would just make it too awkward trying to enjoy meals or find something mutually acceptable to cook.
DiddyHeck · 03/02/2022 16:11

@FrugalFrancine

I find it really infantile; like someone saying they still play with Barbies as I said. It doesn't have to affect all aspects of their lives for me to be Hmm Sorry if that's rubbed you up the wrong way Flowers
It hasn't rubbed me up the wrong way at all, I just don't understand it and tbh I'm not getting any nearer to it either Blush I don't think I've ever met a single person whose dietary choices have ever really affected me...well no more than wanting to go out to eat with friends who tell me they'd rather not because they're trying to lose weight or something.
tackling · 03/02/2022 16:12

Much like all the "picky eater" threads, people will get hugely insulting either way here.

In general, I think if eating matters to you, you can't imagine what it's like not to care - food is such a big deal and a communal experience and a big part of life.

And if it doesn't, you can't imagine caring in the slightest about what anyone else eats or doesn't. (I'm in this category myself.)

I do think you could miss out on an amazing relationship in every other way just by judging diet, which seems mad to me.

DiddyHeck · 03/02/2022 16:12

@NoSquirrels

When everyone says it’s nothing to do with them, though, I wonder - how?

Not every meal can be separated from its vegetable element into distinct things. It cuts out so much!

How? Because the fussy person would cook their own veg-free meals wouldn't they? The reason someone else's food choices wouldn't affect me is because I wouldn't let it.
FrugalFrancine · 03/02/2022 16:13

@DiddyHeck, you don't have to understand it Smile. I don't understand why some people wouldn't date a man under 5'10", but that's life. You don't care. Other people do. There is no need to get so irate (or at least that is how you are coming across - perhaps it isn't translating well in to text though)

PeakyBlender · 03/02/2022 16:13

No. I went on a date with someone once and he picked out all the onions from his fajitas.

I didn't date him again. Put me right off.

StrychnineIntheSandwiches · 03/02/2022 16:14

@DiddyHeck, if someone says 'I hate beetroot and carrots' that's one thing but a person who's decided they dislike all vegetables? Maybe a food phobia that they might want to get help with, or maybe they're just a bit infantile and scared to try new things. Either way, a serious turn off.

DiddyHeck · 03/02/2022 16:14

@NowEvenBetter

Diddy if you’d read the replies like you said, then you’d know why. Because food and dining is important to people and a shared experience, dating a heavily self-restricted eater is unappealing and means they don’t have a pretty big factor in common? That’s ‘batshit crazy’? 😄
It's just a bit of bloody veg 😂😂

Look how many MNetters seem to spend their lives permanently yo-yo dieting. That's going to have way more affect on anyone they might be dating or thinking of living with.

sadpapercourtesan · 03/02/2022 16:16

I have to admit that 10 years ago, I would probably have said "no", and all the usual about finding it off-putting and infantile etc.

Now I know a bit more about neurodiversity (including my own) and my attitude has changed. I feel a bit ashamed now that I used to judge people for being fussy and didn't really think about what lay behind it or how it might relate to other sensory issues. I would not exclude someone from my life because of eating habits now, but I would expect to be able to have an adult conversation about bringing up children together and how to avoid giving them unhealthy messages about food.

Bagelsandbrie · 03/02/2022 16:16

No I’d be really put off.

My ex dh had really odd eating habits. Pretty much the only thing he’d eat out was plain cheese and tomato pizza or chips. And at home he’d eat stuff like a whole plateful of potato waffles microwaved (!) with cheese and chilli powder on top. And then he’d eat it lying on his front on the floor whilst reading the Argos catalogue. Just got pissed off with it all really.

When I met now dh (been together 15 years now) it felt like all my Christmases had come at once when we went out for dinner and he actually ate random, different stuff.

RavenclawDiadem · 03/02/2022 16:17

@NowEvenBetter

Diddy if you’d read the replies like you said, then you’d know why. Because food and dining is important to people and a shared experience, dating a heavily self-restricted eater is unappealing and means they don’t have a pretty big factor in common? That’s ‘batshit crazy’? 😄
Yeah, pretty much this. I love food, love eating out, trying different things and going to new places. I love having friends to the house and cooking.

I wouldn't want to be with someone who wasn't prepared to try new things, or limited themselves to eating only at places where they could have very safe options like chicken and chips or a cheese omelette.

DiddyHeck · 03/02/2022 16:17

[quote FrugalFrancine]@DiddyHeck, you don't have to understand it Smile. I don't understand why some people wouldn't date a man under 5'10", but that's life. You don't care. Other people do. There is no need to get so irate (or at least that is how you are coming across - perhaps it isn't translating well in to text though)[/quote]
'Rubbed you up the wrong way'

'Irate'

Do you always try to shut someone else's opinions down by pretending they're angry? Even with the passive aggressive Smile this really is just two adults calmly having different opinions but I'm sure you know that.