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Would you date a man who didn't eat any vegetables?

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Callcat · 03/02/2022 15:37

Just that really!

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GiveMyHeadPeaceffs · 03/02/2022 19:05

No. I wouldn't date someone who cut out a whole food group, I'd find it restrictive when cooking and tbh I think it's really immature.

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Callcat · 03/02/2022 19:07

He's a friend, I have a veg eating foodie DP (thankfully!). I've just been trying to cadjole him into eating better, is convinced his meat veg and milk diet is hampering more than just his health, so I thought as a single man he might be persuaded by seeing how he's disadvanting himself romantically as well as killing himself slowly. There is literally no good reason he can give for not eating veg other than 'vegetables are poisonous'. I cannot explain this and can't be arsed to ask. I find it absurd, since he's VERY health conscious (no beige food, just meat and eggs) that he won't eat vegetables.

For the record he says he would if he went to a dinner party so as not to be rude so that's something. Nevertheless...ugh!

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Lampshading · 03/02/2022 19:07

@RampantIvy

But low fibre diets actually cause IBS.

In my case a high fibre diet would exacerbate my IBS. I’m fine with vegetables. In fact I love vegetables and salad, but I can’t eat wholemeal bread because it contains insoluble fibre.

I agree that anyone who says they don’t like any vegetable at all (SN, trauma and medical needs excepted) is probably someone who hasn’t even tried most vegetables. So, yes, I would judge an NT healthy adult who wasn’t even prepared to try them.

I like food. I like eating out. I like cooking nice meals. I like to share my love of food with my partner. So, for me, being with someone who didn’t like lots of different foods (including vegetables) would not be a deal breaker for a casual date, but it would be for anything long term.

Yeah I am the same with brown bread, they don't recommend if for young children either because of the fibre. That said some veg also send my stomach into orbit, definitely been trial and error over the years! My neighbour used to always say they hated veg, during lockdown they got a seasonal veg box and was really surprised at the variety- was awesome.
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Callcat · 03/02/2022 19:08

*I am convinced

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CandyMan89 · 03/02/2022 19:08

@housecoat1968

I married one.
So did my Mother in law. 40 years they've been together.
Phrenologistsfinger · 03/02/2022 19:12

My DP is autistic and he loves veg, even more than me! He makes great vegetable soup Grin

godmum56 · 03/02/2022 19:13

@Callcat

He's a friend, I have a veg eating foodie DP (thankfully!). I've just been trying to cadjole him into eating better, is convinced his meat veg and milk diet is hampering more than just his health, so I thought as a single man he might be persuaded by seeing how he's disadvanting himself romantically as well as killing himself slowly. There is literally no good reason he can give for not eating veg other than 'vegetables are poisonous'. I cannot explain this and can't be arsed to ask. I find it absurd, since he's VERY health conscious (no beige food, just meat and eggs) that he won't eat vegetables.

For the record he says he would if he went to a dinner party so as not to be rude so that's something. Nevertheless...ugh!

so not really your business at all then?
TatianaBis · 03/02/2022 19:15

so not really your business at all then?

As if anything on MN is anyone's business!

SupremeDreamz · 03/02/2022 19:15

(When you're out dating don't you usually order different meals anyway? Of course there are cuisines where sharing dishes is more of a thing but easily worked around unless you want the same thing for every meal...something people on here are complaining about.)

Yes and did.

He now eats and cooks veg all the time and loves veggie meals. He used to eat huuuuuge amounts of processed meat. Over time he started eating more veg because of my cooking but I bought him a cookbook that just clicked for him and now he's totally changed his stance.

People change, I suppose if ordering fish, chips and mushy peas too often matters that much to you then a deal breaker it is. If someone refused to date me for no other reason that what they thought I might order in a restaurant...I would consider myself to have had a lucky escape.

JanisMoplin · 03/02/2022 19:16

@Callcat

He's a friend, I have a veg eating foodie DP (thankfully!). I've just been trying to cadjole him into eating better, is convinced his meat veg and milk diet is hampering more than just his health, so I thought as a single man he might be persuaded by seeing how he's disadvanting himself romantically as well as killing himself slowly. There is literally no good reason he can give for not eating veg other than 'vegetables are poisonous'. I cannot explain this and can't be arsed to ask. I find it absurd, since he's VERY health conscious (no beige food, just meat and eggs) that he won't eat vegetables.

For the record he says he would if he went to a dinner party so as not to be rude so that's something. Nevertheless...ugh!

Every pot has a lid, as they say. You should stop trying to change him since you are not dating him. Am sure he will find someone.
idril · 03/02/2022 19:16

Someone who cares about their health but makes different choices in the circumstance you describe would be fine.

crazydineraddict · 03/02/2022 19:17

I married one. He is incredibly cheap to feed and healthier than I am - but he has excellent genes.

godmum56 · 03/02/2022 19:18

@RampantIvy

But low fibre diets actually cause IBS.

In my case a high fibre diet would exacerbate my IBS. I’m fine with vegetables. In fact I love vegetables and salad, but I can’t eat wholemeal bread because it contains insoluble fibre.

I agree that anyone who says they don’t like any vegetable at all (SN, trauma and medical needs excepted) is probably someone who hasn’t even tried most vegetables. So, yes, I would judge an NT healthy adult who wasn’t even prepared to try them.

I like food. I like eating out. I like cooking nice meals. I like to share my love of food with my partner. So, for me, being with someone who didn’t like lots of different foods (including vegetables) would not be a deal breaker for a casual date, but it would be for anything long term.

yes that "low fibre diets cause IBS" thing is one of those statements that is so sweeping that the whole of MN is cleaner when it has passed :) I do think though that as someone who has their own problems with fruit/veg/brown bread and so on that it has given me a more understanding attitude to people who don't want to eat certain foods for any reason...because we are all different and that shouldn't be a bad thing.
ravenmum · 03/02/2022 19:18

No, I don't date minors.

Shikamiri · 03/02/2022 19:18

No. I also wouldn’t be in a hurry to date a man who ate McDonald’s as a meal, I’d hope if he was out and starving he would make a better food choice

ArtyChoc · 03/02/2022 19:20

No, wtf would you cook?

optimistic40 · 03/02/2022 19:21

I have this theory that people who are really fussy with food aren't fun in the sack (and no, I'm not talking about allergies etc here - just people who don't like much). So no!

crazydineraddict · 03/02/2022 19:24

@optimistic40 my DH only eats chicken and chips, he’s pretty decent in the sack - although he has ARFID so maybe different

FruHagen · 03/02/2022 19:24

No

KatyRebecca84 · 03/02/2022 19:24

No! It’s just not appealing. I love food and so does my husband. I find it weird when adults don’t eat fruit and veg.

SpinsForGin · 03/02/2022 19:25

@optimistic40

I have this theory that people who are really fussy with food aren't fun in the sack (and no, I'm not talking about allergies etc here - just people who don't like much). So no!
I have no allergies but I have a very restricted diet and was diagnosed as having ARFID as an adult.

Your 'theory' is ridiculous

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Callcat · 03/02/2022 19:27

No not my business, you're quite right Janismoplin. But it's just the relationship we have...more or less arguing constantly about each other's business 😁 when I said I was going to run a marathon the other day he mounted a defence of reasons why I shouldn't in literal seconds so vegetable arguments are fair game! He won't be harmed by my interfering (but may well be by absence of dietary fibre!)

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optimistic40 · 03/02/2022 19:29

[quote crazydineraddict]@optimistic40 my DH only eats chicken and chips, he’s pretty decent in the sack - although he has ARFID so maybe different[/quote]
My theory worked with all of my partners, but obviously isn't statistically significant until proven so...

Hotfootit · 03/02/2022 19:29

No. We went on a self catering holiday in a remote-ish spot with a couple and one of them would not eat vegetables. After 5 days we cracked and went to a restaurant and gorged on spinach!!!
Trying to slide onions into a risotto by cutting them invisibly small was just a pain. I couldn’t live with someone like that permanently so would bother dating them either.

AuntieMarys · 03/02/2022 19:30

Definitely not. Food is a passion of mine and to see an adult turning up their nose at vegetables would be soul destroying.

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