What makes someone dull / boring in your opinion?

[Teadrinker11]

What do you think makes someone fairly dull / insipid? What would make someone have no personality in your opinion? What would distinguish someone who is boring from someone who is fairly memorable and would make an impression on you?

@tiredanddangerous

Are you writing an article op?

This

I know a fair few journalists and they say Mumsnet is the go to place to conduct research for an article.

People who don't like/aren't into music
People (usually women) who have no identity outside their children
Groups of friends where it's all in jokes and "banter"
People who can't tolerate any kind of disagreement and are into toxic positivity
People who can't make conversation and don't ask you anything about yourself, just drone on relentlessly about themselves
People who talk in detail about house improvements all the time and stealth boast

People who just drone on and on about shite. Usually making a long and boring story about the most mundane things, like the supermarket not having any bananas or something. Also long monologues about people only known to them.
Taking 30 minutes to tell a story that could be told in 5. Then repeating it ad nauseum.
No awareness that people are glazing over or trying to edge away.

I'm looking at YOU Mum.

Woman who write "And just like that she was 3" "The boy" (referring to their boyfriend/husband) "He's a keeper" (about someone they've been married to for years) and the most boring - hypothetical people "No, Barbara I don't want to see your holiday pictures from Benidorm"- people who do the last one always think they are the height of hilarity as well but it is so clichéd/overdone.

@RoyKent

Woman who write "And just like that she was 3" "The boy" (referring to their boyfriend/husband) "He's a keeper" (about someone they've been married to for years) and the most boring - hypothetical people "No, Barbara I don't want to see your holiday pictures from Benidorm"- people who do the last one always think they are the height of hilarity as well but it is so clichéd/overdone.

Women

People who only gossip and cannot hold a conversation down about more heavy topics like politics, space, etc.

People who interrupt and correct you despite you knowing that's not what you meant and they should of listened properly.

People who only do small talk.

And again, people should gossip. I hate it I really do!

People who talk constantly about themselves, never asking questions or allowing a natural conversation to evolve are incredibly dull to spend time with.

People who spend all their time posing, taking selfies, swinging their hair about and looking to see who's watching.

Also people who rely on alcohol to make them "interesting" and in reality end up talking drivel.

talking too slowly

Although am more patient with friends who talk slowly because I want to ''take it in'' but I have come across a few people lately and I wonder if they realise how slowly they're talking. I found it weird.

@RockAndHardPlace1

People who only gossip and cannot hold a conversation down about more heavy topics like politics, space, etc.

People who interrupt and correct you despite you knowing that's not what you meant and they should of listened properly.

People who only do small talk.

And again, people should gossip. I hate it I really do!

This is funny, that you list space as interesting. You haven't endured a Sunday lunch at my parents house. I have nothing to say about space so I won't try.

My brother on the other hand, he did theoretical physics and he can talk about space for hours if nobody stops him. He can't read the room at all. he is enthused by the subject matter. He can also talk about fibre optic cables for a long time too!

My parents find him v interesting and nod here and there. If my daughter or I tried to tune out and talk about whether or not the fashion in peaky blinders was accurate to the year, we'd be shushhshshshshshhsed, ''I missed what your brother was saying something about the continuum'' .

2 different types of dull to me - introverted dull and extroverted dull

This is true. Some people are just making noise and it's torture. But then, there are some introverts who, even when given a good question, cannot give you more than a two word answer. People listening are interested and they say ''oh yeh it was... fine''.

I can’t stand braggers, I totally shut off if I hear someone boasting about possessions, luxurious places they have visited, travelling first class etc etc. I’m not bothered how much money someone has or how they choose to spend it, I really just don’t find it impressive at all or even care.

FIL‘s partner is like this and the more time FIL spends with her, the more he’s getting like this too. She’s always trying to actively brag about ‘celebrities’ she has met whilst travelling business class but I never know who any of them are so just smile and nod. She loves to tell us how much her bottles of wine cost or how much they spent on their latest car. I just shut off. FIL has always been more humble about things until recently, he’s now started with the ‘we went for a meal at x place last night, cost £200 but it was worth every Penny’. Just induces eye rolls.

I’d find it more impressive if they used their wealth to help people less fortunate. My Grandad and his wife are extremely wealthy and they spend their spare time donating a lot and also volunteering at the local food bank. They also go on missionaries to Africa to help build homes for people.

People listening are interested and they say ''oh yeh it was... fine''

I'm one of those. I mean what else would there be to say other than "fine"? How is "well I did , followed by >something else> with

Loud opinionated bullies.

I'm sure U come across as boring. I am into wildlife/bird spotting, and know a reasonable amount about ecological processes. I like quizzing, archaeology and history. I have interest in celebrities, fashion, make up. I hate gossip and small talk. But that's only one part of my personality.

People who I find boring are people who cannot accept difference who never ask questions about anything, who follow the status quo blithely, who never rock the boat. People who are wilfully ignorant, who turn a blind eye to things that don't affect them, and who assume that we all hold the same viewpoint.

^I'm sure I.
I did change it, but autocorrect changed it back.

^ and no interest in celebrities...

@UserBot9to5 space and space races is a heck a lot more interesting than gossip or celebs or what Sandra is doing now to her house. Sorry to say. Funny how we're all different.

I went to a friends house once for coffee and she insisted on having the television on (daytime telly shite) and when I spoke she shushed me and tell me she liked this program.

Okay, why invite me?

I tend to this people who sit in front of the television for hours are pretty boring. Very The Royle Family.

People who have no interest or hobbies. Even if they’re really weird ones.

Lack of curiosity/interest.

A lack of curiosity.

If people aren't interested themselves in the world and/or in other people around them, then it's unlikely they'll have much to say that will interest anyone.

@Feather12

Mansplaining, talking about money/possessions, always having to be right. My DH has friend who does this and he can be really sweet, but he is a fucking dullard.

This. I have a long term friend like this and dread going to theirs. All she talks about are cars, private school, retirement, stuff.

[quote RockAndHardPlace1]@UserBot9to5 space and space races is a heck a lot more interesting than gossip or celebs or what Sandra is doing now to her house. Sorry to say. Funny how we're all different. [/quote]
Why "sorry to say"? I don't gossip. No need to. Why assume I gossip?!

Someone obsessive about an interest or hobby. They can't seem to see others aren't interested.

And, for me, any talk of sport.

This thread is very helpful. I think I do some of the boring things. At least now I know they are boring