Have your parents discussed their funeral wishes with you?

[A580Hojas]

If they are still relatively young, would you expect them to when they get older?

My DM died suddenly in her 60's so we just did what we thought best. Was all a bit of a blur.
PIL don't talk about things like that

My mum wrote her funeral wishes before she died she had terminal cancer so knew she was dying but it was so helpful to have the service planned out. Still had to make decisions about coffins/flowers.

My Dad has pre paid for a cremation and told us what he wants doing with his stuff.

Have had a vague conversation with my husband about what he would like but hopefully won't have to think about it for many years yet.

@Hathertonhariden

My dad's only instructions were to put him out with the bins. He died in the early days of covid and it ended up being a direct cremation which my mother would never had contemplated had it not being for the pandemic. I think it was actually close to what he would have wanted. My mother still doesn't want to discuss what she wants despite everything we went through with dad.

I bought her and me copies of "I'm dead, now what?" so that we could both write our wishes in our respective copies. Doing mine as well seemed to motivate her to do it and she hasn't shared it with me but I know where it's kept. It's particularly useful for listing who you want to be told and who to invite to any kind of wake. When she was going through the address book after dad died I did point out that I wouldn't have a clue whether someone in the address book was a childhood friend or the plumber, so knowing who to tell was really important.

Your point about the address book is so true! My father died nearly a year ago, and the address book was a nightmare - lots of people who had died in it.

[quote A580Hojas]@AuntieMarys - have you dictated what readings people should give?[/quote]
I'm not having a funeral at all so no readings/ music at all