Oh god.
Three babies, one in 2000,, one in 2007, one in 2008 and very early.
First one, I was 18. Midwives were vile. At one point one of my DSIL had some beautiful flowers delivered, using now DHs surname. Midwife who was old enough to be my gran made a point of shouting at delivery guy, in a room full of other mums, "she's Miss teen, not Mrs x". She acted like I was 14. Told me I should consider adoption as girls like me are useless mothers.
Got the hell out of there way earlier than I should've after a section as I got so sick of her and her lots behaviour. One even threw out a bag of sweets someone had brought me in and a sandwich as the food was shite. She took great delight in doing so telling me I would eat what I was told or starve.
When I had second one in 2007, was meant to have an elective. Went in at 7am. Was told I'd be done by 10am. Not a chance. Due to a series of fuck ups and ignorance, I was still there at 11pm. Had had nothing to eat since 7pm the night before. I got shouted at by one consultant who accused me of messing them around- she mixed me up with another lady, no apology though. About 4 hours later having been put on a monitor belt thingy, so unable to move, hand over happened and they forgot me again. DH asked what was going on to be told I had gone already. They'd wiped me off the board. He said no she's in there. Midwife rolled her eyes at him.
About 30 minutes later, he went to try and find someone else. A mum to be and her DH came through my curtain and both started being abusive about why was I in her bay, I needed to leave. Like it was my fault! I burst into tears at that point, unhooked the belt thing and started getting dressed. Midwife tried to stop me at the desk and I lost it, said it was the first time all day anyone had given two hoots what I did. Her response was she would report me to social services as not caring about my baby, and I would be banned from coming back to give birth. I wanted to swing for her. Luckily another consultant heard her, ushered me into a side room and hearing what I had gone through via DH told me to go home and she rebooked me.
On the way home, there were a load of people coming home from nights out at the all night chippy, DH took me to get some food as I was fit to collapse of hunger, the guy in the chippy joked was I not a bit far gone to be out so late, DH told him and he gave me my chips, a can of coke and a battered sausage for free! Caused much hilarity in the queue of others saying they defo needed free chips too!
The midwives still sent a message to me via my district midwife that anymore behaviour and messing the about and I would be banned, my midwife went crackers at them over the phone.
When I had third one, different hospital but waters went at 27 weeks. Told them on the 6th day I was having contractions. Told no chance, how would I know as had sections before.
Another mum actually went and shouted at them for me as I collapsed in my bay at 6pm, several hours later. Had DS at 8pm at 28 weeks, and was then left for 14 hours on ward, no bell, no blanket, starving and in the dark. Until a mum got up to see to her baby and it was lighter outside, she asked me if I was OK, my compression sock was stuck round my toe which was going purple, she helped me sort it and then went and moaned at the midwife to see to me- midwife hadn't been told I was there. I must have stank! I then waited a few hours longer before I got an update on DS on scbu and didn't see him for 3 days.
Personally, ladies who give birth early should not be in a normal ward with mums and babies, it's soul destroying feeling like the weird one as they have visitors and of course more than one asked why I was there with no baby. Every time I asked to shut my curtain I was told no.
And yes to how hot these wards are. Like an oven!
We also had the lady when I had my second one who moaned about everyone else's "noise" yet had phone sex with her dh at 3am for everyone to hear. She was horrible. She told me to shut my brat up at one point but she knew the midwives so they did nothing and said she was joking.
Thank god I stopped after 3.