Page 7 | A woman on the antenatal ward has been snoring for 12 hours

Abra1d1 · 24/01/2022 09:56

The people running wards need to get a grip and chuck out these, mainly, men! They don't need to be watching tv on loud through the night and disturbing mothers and babies. They should call security if necessary.

TheLovelinessOfDemons · 24/01/2022 10:01

The post natal ward. Having no sleep because DS2 cried all night, then being got up for the day at 7.45. For 7 days until we went home.

Sartre · 24/01/2022 10:12

This happened to me on the postnatal ward last time. 2 of us had had our babies but she was in with a high risk twin pregnancy. She was the loudest snorer I’ve ever heard in my life and I didn’t get a wink of sleep at all. I just laid there crying in desperation tbh. My baby was asleep, I’d just had a c-section and I needed some rest. The midwives pulled sympathetic looks but suppose there was little they could do. I was so relieved to escape the next day. You have my sympathy.

TheLovelinessOfDemons · 24/01/2022 11:15

@cecinestpasunepipe

In hospital waiting for elective surgery, so nil by mouth. It kept being put back so I was really pretty hungry. A nurse came and pulled the curtains around my bed, so I thought yet another pre-operative procedure was about to happen - no, she proceeded to take a Mars Bar out of her pocket and eat it in front of me! When she had finished it, she opened the curtains and went on her way. This happened decades ago, but I still feel the outrage!

That's appalling! I would have seriously considered murder.

TheLovelinessOfDemons · 24/01/2022 11:51

@Arsewangry

Post natal ward when I had ds2 was horrific. I've spoken about it on here before.

visitors all day every day
loud mobile phone calls in the night
one husband arrived with 3 young children, promptly left them with post-natal wife and went off to work.

-Young child was rummaging through my bag and took some of my food. I couldn't get up, when I told him to put it back he flicked me the bird

tvs on full blast all day and night
I got "reported" to the midwife because my baby woke up crying one night and I couldn't settle him - he had tongue tie and couldn't feed properly- mw just said "he's hungry dear, feed him, swished the curtain and left"
after c-section I struggled to get on my bed as the wheels weren't locked. The bed moved and pushed a cabinet slightly over in to the next curtained bay and I was told by the midwife that I was being "inconsiderate" (I hadn't noticed)

The bit about your baby not being able to feed properly - DS2 has a very weak suck still at 14, he can't drink out of water bottles with sports caps, when he was born the midwife put on my notes that I didn't know how to settle him, not what I actually told them.

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Winterfellismyhome · 24/01/2022 12:07

Snoring lady only snored for a few hours last night and I was so tired I managed to sleep through it. Thank you for all your stories

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TheLovelinessOfDemons · 24/01/2022 12:20

@RenGreen

A racist next to me - saying ‘none of them speak English and I have a p@ki next to me’ that ‘p@ki’ was me. I had a word with the midwife and the midwife spoke with her and she said she ‘didn’t mean it like that’ stupid cow.

I'm guessing the midwife was white. Some white people have no idea, and I say that as a white person.

Jumpingintomenopause · 24/01/2022 12:29

DSis ran out of earplugs during a long hospital stay last winter and the nurse told her to have some delivered to the ward through Amazon prime but don’t let on to the other patients. Perhaps worth asking on the qt?

TheLovelinessOfDemons · 24/01/2022 12:46

@lolaflores

howareyouflower why was the husbands hand covered in blood and where was his partner and...I have so many images in my head and none of the good..

I assumed he was trying some foreplay....

TheLovelinessOfDemons · 24/01/2022 12:58

@Bacardi101

Gosh I have so many of these as I’m in hospital lots unfortunately! I’ve had several very poorly elderly patients in beds next to me who would shout/cry and bless her one of them strip all night and the nurses couldn’t keep up with them all and one night I woke up and one was sitting starkers on the end of my bed!!! I know she couldn’t help it at all and was just very confused and unwell but it’s scared me half to death!

Thankfully, adult DS1, who also spends a lot of time in hospital, has to have his own room. It's usually DS3 I'm telling to keep the noise down, so as not to disturb the other patients!

betwixtlives · 24/01/2022 13:48

@waterrat

When my 5 yesr old was severely ill in hospital with pneumonia the highlight was when . Having been barely conscious for three days she suddenly yelled shut up your snoring your keeping me awake !! It was a dad sleeping next to his little one.....

so rude

fancydressinggown · 24/01/2022 17:41

I recently delivered twins in hospital, they were sent to NICU whilst I was kept on the ward for a week. I met lots of characters. Two stand out the most:

I was placed in a side room with another woman (we were both still pregnant at the time waiting to deliver). She said her buzzer wasn't working so every time she needed a nurse she would just shout at me! Anyway it's about 1am and I'm woken to her shouting she needs me to press the buzzer as she needs a wee. Bare in mind I'm connected via IV to a drip machine and massively pregnant so movement was not easy. Anyway I clearly didn't press the buzzer quickly enough as she stood up and said "oh fuck it" and pissed on the floor.

Second woman a few days later I was in a room next to her. She had delivered her baby who was in NICU. She spent the ENTIRE night on the phone to the boyfriend on speaker phone after he was asked to leave as visiting had finished. I'm not kidding you, I heard him have a bath, watch eastenders, walk the dog, shout at the dog for shitting on the kitchen floor, have his dinner, they stayed "connected" through the night whilst they slept and the first thing I heard early hours in the morning was the sound of him down the phone going for his morning piss (and he didn't wash his hands)

I don't know how or why, but hospitals attract the strangest behaviour from people....

TheRemotePart · 24/01/2022 17:50

I was in with DC just born and never slept for 48 hours as the lady across from me baby screamed from the moment she was born.
And the mum just left her in the bassinet screaming.
None of the midwives came to see what was going on no help, no tips …
I was so glad when she left.
It was a shame as the other 5 babies , apart form a few little episodes , were fine.
On the third night, I was so exhausted that I slept through my own baby struggling to breathe- another mum had to come wake me up.
It was awful.

I was also in “normal “ hospital “ once for 4 days next to a “junkie” who’d fell down stairs and broke her arms and legs. She never shut up - any time any staff walking by , she was asking for something. croakyandnasally “nuuurse!nurse!”
I kept pulling my curtain around and the staff kept pulling it back - so she could try and witter on endlessly in my direction all day
They even let her VAPE right there on the ward!?
Imagine that!?

dillydallydollydaydream7 · 24/01/2022 17:55

@fancydressinggown

I recently delivered twins in hospital, they were sent to NICU whilst I was kept on the ward for a week. I met lots of characters. Two stand out the most:

I was placed in a side room with another woman (we were both still pregnant at the time waiting to deliver). She said her buzzer wasn't working so every time she needed a nurse she would just shout at me! Anyway it's about 1am and I'm woken to her shouting she needs me to press the buzzer as she needs a wee. Bare in mind I'm connected via IV to a drip machine and massively pregnant so movement was not easy. Anyway I clearly didn't press the buzzer quickly enough as she stood up and said "oh fuck it" and pissed on the floor.

Second woman a few days later I was in a room next to her. She had delivered her baby who was in NICU. She spent the ENTIRE night on the phone to the boyfriend on speaker phone after he was asked to leave as visiting had finished. I'm not kidding you, I heard him have a bath, watch eastenders, walk the dog, shout at the dog for shitting on the kitchen floor, have his dinner, they stayed "connected" through the night whilst they slept and the first thing I heard early hours in the morning was the sound of him down the phone going for his morning piss (and he didn't wash his hands)

I don't know how or why, but hospitals attract the strangest behaviour from people....

That second one... my word!!!! You poor thing listening to his morning wee! 🙈😂

Supergirl1958 · 24/01/2022 17:58

@Winterfellismyhome

Currently in for reduced movements (again) and drs talking about a section tomorrow. A woman in the opposite bed is the loudest snorer in the world. Each time shes been woken up for monitoring, shes fallen back to sleep very quickly. I have no idea how she does it. Tell me your ward horror stories to make me not lose my mind

And yes i have earplugs but stupidly didnt bring enough so trying to ration them

The day I gave birth I was on a ward with five other women. One woman was ringing the alarm every five minutes...'the baby won't stop crying, can you take him, can you help me. (She already had kids) and then the woman next to me was talking extremely loudly on a video call all night, into the early hours, in her home language (which I assume was french) on a ward where we'd all.just had babies, and clearly needed some rest whilst our babies slept! And there was me feeling guilty taking an age to walk 20 meters to the bathroom for a wee and leaving my sleeping baby! I literally begged them to let me home as soon as possible!!

TheRemotePart · 24/01/2022 17:59

Also op hoops you n baby are ok!

Flanelle · 24/01/2022 18:08

Re. really horrifyingly neglectful parents ... they probably had parents exactly the same, if not worse, and you're looking at something inter-generational. If it's a DV looking situation, remember that a huge risk factor for being in a DV situation as an adult is witnessing DV as a child.

Flanelle · 24/01/2022 18:09

So, you can feel a bit sorry for everyone really.

Mary54 · 24/01/2022 18:09

In before Christmas for bowel surgery so nothing to eat for 48 hours previously. Next day told I couldn’t have anything until after an ultrasound. Dinner was delivered and left next to my bed for an hour before they decided the ultrasound would be the next day and I could eat it! Was so hungry and it smelt good really was torture looking at it and not eating it

areyoujokingme · 24/01/2022 18:10

A lovely husband on the post natal ward brought some food in for his wife. Fish stew. Vile. After having HG for all of pregnancy I was hoping to enjoy keeping food down when baby was born. Fish stew gate made sure I kept vomming for a little longer.

littlemisskt · 24/01/2022 18:10

With my 1st the lady opposite kept leaving her newborn on the bed and going out of the building for a smoke, the midwives were constantly having to walk past to check and put the baby back in the bassinet and the lady next to me was on and hourly schedule overnight swapping between complaining loudly that she wasn’t getting any sleep and snoring. With my 2nd the family of the lady opposite had 8 visitors at one time yet complained when my husband was there.

maria57 · 24/01/2022 18:19

@BitcherOfBlakiven

I was in at 26 weeks for bleeding and stayed in until I was induced at 37 weeks as it turned out to be the placenta covering my cervix.

I lasted a week before crying to the midwife that I needed a different room because the woman next to me was talking on her phone all night fucking long, to relatives in a different time zone and she refused to go a few steps down the ward to the lounge to do so, then spent all day snapping at people to be quiet.

I would have murdered that one next to you. In situations like that cant the Nurses intervene...by telling them... no talking during the night on phones cos your waking others up in the ward. I would have told the Nurses to have a word with her to pipe down...the selfish cow!!

TheRemotePart · 24/01/2022 18:23

I’m also shocked at the loud phone chat. I’d have went mental. Snoring whilst annoying can’t be helped!

Patsyanna · 24/01/2022 18:24

Oh gosh, I feel so sorry for the babies of those neglectful parents. I do hope the nurses passed concerns on to the relevant authorities. Heart breaking.

WotsitsMadeIn1927 · 24/01/2022 18:29

@Kendrickspenguin

Can I add a lovely, positive story to the thread? When I was on the post natal ward after having my second DC, there was a very young woman in the bed next to me. I think she was around 16/17. She had just given birth to a 12 pound baby, and I have never seen a prouder mum in all my life. She was telling everyone who would listen about her beautiful boy. I still think of her many years later and hope that she and her son are doing really well.

I have a kind of nice one too… when I had my second son in 2008. He used to cry often due to my milk not being ready for a couple of days after birth. The midwives took him for an hour so I could sleep, although I couldn’t as I could hear him and so went to cuddle my baby. That was where one of the midwives taught me how to breast feed. She used to make fun (in a kind way 😆) about how I was his restaurant as he would constantly eat. I’ll always remember her and am thankful. He’s almost 14 now and still doesn’t stop eating like a typical teen 😊