A woman on the antenatal ward has been snoring for 12 hours

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Currently in for reduced movements (again) and drs talking about a section tomorrow. A woman in the opposite bed is the loudest snorer in the world. Each time shes been woken up for monitoring, shes fallen back to sleep very quickly. I have no idea how she does it. Tell me your ward horror stories to make me not lose my mind

And yes i have earplugs but stupidly didnt bring enough so trying to ration them

When pregnant with my first I had pre-eclampsia and blew up like a balloon. I snored terribly and kept the whole bay awake. I was so embarrassed at hearing comments from other bays about "that woman's snoring" that I asked to be moved to a side room each night. they obliged, it was fantastic having my own room each night but apparently the nurses could still hear me snoring at their station. I had c sections with all four and after the first paid to have a side room, nothing fancy just with a wash basin but it was so nice just to be kept awake by only my baby and not everyone else's. I still have the receipt for the room for no 4 and it cost the princely sum of about £100 for the full stay back in 1998.

Was admitted for severe abdominal pains, was crawling, was gastroenteritis. Due to go on holiday next day, got a bed at 1am and the other 2 women in ward were talking loudly non stop all night! Next day still felt awful but persuaded a discharge, caught the plane, as I thought I can either be ill in Spain or in that ward! X

In the bed opposite me was the pregnant partner of a man I’d previously arrested. That went well at visiting times when he came in to visit her, saw me and that there giving me the evil eye all night.

Women in bed across the ward.

On the phone constantly telling everyone she hadn't slept, the doctors were awful, no one was listening or helping, she had cancer, had lost two stone and she was going to die.

She had slept, we heard her snoring. The doctors were very very patient and clear, the whole ward was listening and trying to help. She didn't have cancer. She had lost barely two kilos.

She had thrush.

There was a woman with cancer, another facing amputation, one with a serious blockage and a woman about 80 who was no trouble even though she had no visitors, couldn't do a lot for herself and just wanted to go home.

Annoying woman eventually left. The next night I thought I was hallucinating when I saw what looked like a witch walk past, influenced by the thunder and lightning storm we had had. Turns out she was back.

Eventually I couldn't stand to listen to it anymore so I asked if he had to listen to it again. She complained to the nurse about me.

Oh god I had that on the postnatal ward with my second and it was just awful. It was her third child so she was really chilled and she just fed and slept and snored constantly - I didn't sleep at all.

Sorry OP. Really hope you're out of there soon.

You could ask to be moved but that depends whether there's another bed

I was in with pancreatitis and having my gallbladder removed. Put in a room with two very elderly ladies. One very chatty but very bossy and cantankerous, one very quiet, usually on the receiving end of the cantankerous one’s bossy behaviour. The morning after my op, the bossy one told me that the other lady had said she witnessed a circle of hooded monks around my bed saying mass during the night. Just what I wanted to hear… Quiet lady got quite tearful and was adamant that is what she had seen. Thankfully I was moved onto a slightly younger ward that day. Nowhere near as entertaining though!! Completely bonkers.

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Couple in the bed next to me on the postnatal ward. Teens, whose baby was in special care. The boyfriend stayed and was so unpleasant in the way he spoke to his girlfriend. Played the tv at full blast all night and yelled into his mobile when they weren’t yelling at each other, or snoring like pigs. I felt so sorry for her. At first. Then they were asked if they wanted to go and visit their newborn in NICU, she said “nah, we’re watching tv. Love Island’s on in a minute.” When the midwife said their baby was doing a little better, and would they like her brought down to the ward for them to give her a bottle if they didn’t want to go upstairs, they said “nah, can’t you just do it?”. Poor baby.

That is one of the most depressing things I've ever read. Poor kid, what future???

@RoyKent why did your baby smell v strongly of cabbage??

Bless, that must be horrible.
Mine was after I had my son, by C-section, so I had to stop in for a few days. I was on my own at first, which was great. Then another lady was brought in, the room was big enough for 2, my son was a Cryer, constantly crying, which was stressing me, as I was worried his crying would keep the other lady awake, she had already had her baby, but was in obs, as she had had complications.
She was fine with my son crying, but I just guilty, it didn't help, that it was as hot as hell on the ward, I am a light sleeper, so things like noise and lights keep me awake. Which in a maternity ward, means I didn't get much sleep, between my son, the light and noise.
I was very glad to be at home, my son slept better too and didn't cry as much, probably because I wasn't stressed and relaxed more.

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Couple in the bed next to me on the postnatal ward. Teens, whose baby was in special care. The boyfriend stayed and was so unpleasant in the way he spoke to his girlfriend. Played the tv at full blast all night and yelled into his mobile when they weren’t yelling at each other, or snoring like pigs. I felt so sorry for her. At first. Then they were asked if they wanted to go and visit their newborn in NICU, she said “nah, we’re watching tv. Love Island’s on in a minute.” When the midwife said their baby was doing a little better, and would they like her brought down to the ward for them to give her a bottle if they didn’t want to go upstairs, they said “nah, can’t you just do it?”. Poor baby.

This breaks my heart. They shouldn't be allowed to take her home at all! 🤬 My DS2 was in neo for 1 night and both DH & I were desperate to see him, hold him, get him home. I wanted him in my arms and on the breast. DH helped me fill 3 syringes with colostrum to ensure he still had the best possible chance. The woman in the next beds DS was in the next crib and had to be called by nurses multiple times every time to come down and feed but she was always too busy smoking. When she did come down she would get done ASAP and be gone again. When he came up to the ward she would still keep disappearing. The final pi** take was her complaining about another mum who kept falling asleep!

When my DS was post surgery I was lucky to get a room in a parent's flat nearby. But he had to stay in an extra night due to complications, so I stayed overnight on the children's ward next to his bed. I used a folding bed. During the night a kid's dad turned up quite the worse for drink. I could hear him through the curtains shouting about his bed not being there. A nurse brought him a reclining chair but the poorly post-op kid ended up in that so that his dad could have the bed.

After having my son by emergency cesaerian I was too scared to sleep because I was on a ward with several other women, all as exhausted as me, and I’m a snorer. In the end I broke down and one of the midwives took pity and arranged a private room for me. Unfortunately the window opened onto a courtyard that must have backed onto the psych ward several floors up - all I could hear all night long, and in fact all day, was a man screaming at the top of his lungs “aaaaagh! Noooooo!” I was too grateful for the private room to say anything to the midwives but I had to stay in for a week due to complications. Listening to that non-stop whilst sleep deprived and hormonal really messed with my head! It was one of the many reasons that I eventually discharged myself against medical advice. Best decision ever!

Oh god I feel for you.
When I had DD I had a really bad tear then surgery with a spinal so I was in the high dependency ward with the c section ladies. I didn't sleep a wink between people pressing their buzzers, babies crying and a couple of the women on the ward snoring, I begged to go home the next day. DD was a dream and barely made a peep all night, the longer I was awake the more annoyed I was getting.

I had a similar experience when I was in hospital with Crohn's disease. The person in the bed opposite kept having lots of very rowdy visitors even though the limit was two at a time. They brought her wine and chocolates which she puked up and the poor nurses had to clean up after her. I was very happy to move to a different ward after a couple of days.

I've never snored so loud before I got pregnant, it's terrible I wake myself up. Move into a better position.

Feb 2002 I had my first child, normal delivery and care was amazing! Literally whole ward to myself for two nights. At 24 I was a first time mum, on the second day I had some visitors, about 20 all turned up within 10/15 mins of each other. After a couple of hours a midwife strolls in eating their lunch with a shock horror look on her face at all the people in the room. Then I realised they had forgotten I was even there as no one had checked on me since the night before and it was 12 hours later!

Fast forward April 2020 I had my second at age 42, planned C-section due to him being breach. The first night I was next to the midwives window. I knew it would be bad as 6 of us on ward and a few quite poorly. So at 10pm I get them to pass me bubs so I can hold him and not bother them with bringing him to me for feeds or changes. I stayed awake all night. Well turns out they were short staffed so spent the whole night listening to 5 women buzzing and 5 babies crying as they were hungry and none of us could get out of bed yet!

Second night I was moved to the recovery ward with 3 of us. Literally saw no midwife except every 4 hours for obs. Spent the second night trying desperately to help a lady feed her prem baby who had just had his tube feed removed as no one had the time to spend with her and show her how to breastfeed. Luckily the amazing midwife who had helped me the night before as mine had tongue tie came back on shift. It was shocking now I look back. We had no help in there, no partners or family to help. None of us were got out of bed after our C-sections for nearly 20 hours.

[quote ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHaands]@RoyKent why did your baby smell v strongly of cabbage?? [/quote]
Honestly this is my only takeaway from this thread too…

I had my gallbladder out last week. Day surgery so no snorers, but I was last on the list and one of the earlier ladies was having her toast and tea while I was nil by mouth (getting on for 1pm so a mite peckish).

She went on and on about the milk options and the type of bread and her IBS (she was also in for her gallbladder). I wanted to scream 'eat the bloody toast and drink the bloody tea, or don't, but put a sock in it woman'.

On the plus side, when I did finally get mine it was THE BEST TOAST EVER. I didn't appreciate my post-DD toast because my HG lasted until she was a day old.

No 1 baby-woman snores like a steam train
Nasty midwives and a rude cleaner who thought it was funny to poke me awake
One woman walked up to the cot,picked up pfb and walked off-I had to run after her to find out what the hell she was doing with my baby
Still don’t know as she handed her back and snarled at me before walking off
Private room with no 2-midwife came bursting in to yell at me to ‘clean this bloody room’
I had just given birth and had Quincy’s (abscess in the throat) and was so Ill I couldn’t stand up or swallow
The mess?
A babygro hanging out of my bag
No 3-had him as an unplanned home birth-midwife was rude as she’d swapped a shift and it was bad luck I’d given birth that morning
No 4-midwife screamed at me for making a cup of tea at half midnight
No 5-I walked into the bathroom and it looked like someone had been murdered
Blood all up the walls and over the loo and bath
It was still there when I left-34 hours later-there was one other bathroom-with a bloody long queue
No 6-the lady in the bed opposite me had her husband with her all day-he’d be there 8am and would be booted out about 10pm
Fine-but the midwives wouldn’t allow us to shut the curtains-they’d be snapping them open within seconds if you tried
He did nothing but sit and stare at us trying to breastfeed while licking his lips and ignoring his own baby
She kept snapping at him,he’d ignore her and kept gawking at us
I was a hormonal mess and burst into tears-he watched me the whole time
I was so glad to leave every bloody time
Oh and with all 6 the heating was on full blast-and 3 of mine where summer babies

@Frlrlrubert can I ask- did you have gallbladder issues post partum?
How are you scars healing?
I apparently need this done soon
( after A&E sending me home without a diagnostic the first time -when apparently it was textbook gallstones I was describing and suffering)

• add to that - it took someone 8 hours to come and tell me what the Imager had already told me “you have gallstones “ before I could leave

Not really a horror story but the woman in the bed next to me gave birth same time as me - early hours of the morning.
I felt like death warmed up after delivering my 9lb 8oz baby with no pain relief.
The visiting hours were crazy strict. An hour in the morning and a couple in the evening. Anyways - I was struggling to shift my butt off to the loo and I'll never forget going past her bed and seeing her sat bolt upright, applying her makeup and doing her hair. She did this morning and evening; in time for her DH to visit. She also let the baby cry - all damn night - and when the nurses came round and told her to feed it; she asked why he couldn't just go down to the nursery...?! She was promptly told that's not how it works and she needs to look after baby herself. There was a LOT of huffing and tutting ad she reluctantly picked baby up and tried - half arsed, imo - to settle it.
The woman to the other side of me; her baby went into intensive care and she just cried and cried and cried behind her curtains.
Then the woman opposite had her DH and 5 other children all troop up to see the new baby. They were the sweetest family. All the kids cooed and ahh'd at their new baby and it was just soo lovely 😍
At 21 the whole experience was surreal to me. I was the youngest on the ward.
The other 2 times I gave birth (at a different hospital) I wasn't taken to a ward or room as there wasn't one available. I stayed in the delivery suite until I was able to go home.

I’m a primary school teacher. After my second was born another mum and baby were bought in in the night. Smiled at her in the morning - didn’t recognise her. Then heard her face timing all her mates saying ‘remember mrs excitablemuch from year…? She’s opposite me’

Not expected as a primary school teacher to be honest. Cried to the midwife it must mean I am the oldest mother ever (38!) and she consoled me with telling me the mum was young. She wasn’t even from early in my career. Maybe 6/7 years ago! Kept those curtains shut til she left!!!

@Excitablemuch dying laughing here oh nooooooooo