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HIghly sexed and No Sex Available

22 replies

Signoramarella · 20/01/2022 20:11

So I am feeling up for up for it, er most of the time. Single parent, 2 tweens, I work and do childcare. Can't afford sitters, can't go out well hardly ever ( except to work). How do I meet men? OLD is fucking depressing. Tried that.
I just want a steady lover who will pay me attention and satisy my every need ,but, wait, I am a single parent, my kids never go out?!! I can't live a passionless life. I cannot. Spent so much of lockdown not touching any other adult - I feel like I am dying inside.
Any suggestions...? I am 50, fabulous and not at all Over the Hill.

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JerkintheMerkin · 20/01/2022 20:27

Alas I have no advice as it seems we are both wandering around in the same boat. Confused.

TheSpottedZebra · 20/01/2022 20:28

Lunch hour hookup?

Shapiro · 20/01/2022 20:29

Any grandparents on the scene that the children can go for a sleepover, go I g you a night out?

shivabeaver · 20/01/2022 20:29

A hookup site? Obviously vet the person well.

shivabeaver · 20/01/2022 20:33

Or at least with a hook up site you could get your jollies virtually when the kids are well asleep (tbh I'm thinking of fabswingers Grin). Any and I mean any single woman will have 200 replies as soon as she joins. Mostly crazy or deceptive men, but tbh there were a few normalise people.

UnshakenNeedsStirring · 20/01/2022 20:34

Lots of hook us sites are there if you fancy it. Id just like a FWB tbh, safe and less complicated.

shivabeaver · 20/01/2022 20:44

@UnshakenNeedsStirring

Lots of hook us sites are there if you fancy it. Id just like a FWB tbh, safe and less complicated.
Unless you already have friends you would be happy to fuck, not seeing how you would find them tbh. The same people who are on pof and tinder are also mostly on hook up sites, but on there offer less hi beautiful bullshit. Its pretty refreshing really, I did find a fwb for a bit, would never have dated him, dull as a doorknob and didn't like cheese. Was perfectly fine to accept his terrible taste in films for an afternoon a month. Grin
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Signoramarella · 20/01/2022 20:51

Mm some suggestions are appealing.. lunchtimes I guess I could. Not with a stranger though. Urgh.

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Iputthetrampintrampoline · 20/01/2022 21:08

Buy some or invest in a spectacular vibrator. The rest you can do yourself! You know and we all know attentive doesn;t last long in the real world!!!

Comedycook · 20/01/2022 21:10

Any nice ex boyfriends you could reconnect with?

CloseYourEyesAndSee · 20/01/2022 21:10

Fabswingers
Wade through the dross and dick pics and read the verifications, set up a few social meets and you'll find someone for sure

Workinghardeveryday · 20/01/2022 21:12

Feel your pain @Signoramarella sadly for me I am in a long term relationship with zero sex.

BeetyAxe · 20/01/2022 21:12

Do you know anyone who could set you up? Go on millions of dates? Or are you not interested in a relationship?

D0lphine · 20/01/2022 21:14

Do you have a friend who is up for no strings fun? Friend of a friend?

Online dating is literally wall to wall cock.

feelsobadfeltsogood · 20/01/2022 21:15

I have a Fwb we just hook up every soft often
Amazing sex and he's my friend too so we message about normal stuff aswell and go out together and hang out round his place (no kids) and have a pizza, watch films etc etc etc
He's a friend of my brothers we've known each other years but my brother is not aware of this "arrangement" 😂

Mundra · 20/01/2022 21:25

@D0lphine

Do you have a friend who is up for no strings fun? Friend of a friend?

Online dating is literally wall to wall cock.

SNORT @ "wall to wall cock"!
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Signoramarella · 20/01/2022 21:58

Wall to wall cock hahaha yes but my house is always full of my children, they inevitably have children at home, I can't go out, I'm stuck doing childcare, I suppose we could shag in the novotel of a lunchtime ! Effing tragic and this is just life. I like your arrangement..felt so bad... not bad at all !

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D0lphine · 21/01/2022 15:10

Put on your dating profile when you're free. Make it clear you're up for fun.

Watch the thirsty men ping into your inbox

feelsobadfeltsogood · 22/01/2022 08:05

@Signoramarella

Wall to wall cock hahaha yes but my house is always full of my children, they inevitably have children at home, I can't go out, I'm stuck doing childcare, I suppose we could shag in the novotel of a lunchtime ! Effing tragic and this is just life. I like your arrangement..felt so bad... not bad at all !
How old are your kids??? Do they see their Dad at all??

Before my Fwb I had a fwba (friend with batteries 🔋 😂)

Bless you feel your pain

We meet up randome times tho like if I finish work early 2pm until the kids finish at wraparound at 5 - it's just trying to make the time really

We aim for twice a week

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Signoramarella · 22/01/2022 21:31

Dads abroad so there's no break , it's either work. Childcare or chores. I do have a fwb but he can only be free evenings, no Good! Haha fwbatteries, yep, got one of them!

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Musomama1 · 22/01/2022 21:47

I felt like I could drag any man off the street the other day! Whenever I see Pampas grass outside a house I always think about the old story that it was a sign for swinger's or people who were up for it. Mind u that was the 1970s, those people would at least b in their 80s by now.

phlaps · 22/01/2022 22:34

Have your children got friends where they could go for a monthly sleepover and you could reciprocate? Even better if it's a swap with a parent going through a similar drought?

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