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What is going on in your life?

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Notdoingthis · 19/01/2022 23:02

Would you like to offload? I am pretty busy but happy to check in and see how people are. I know sometimes we all just need a sounding board. Hope everyone is ok.

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Intothelight123 · 21/01/2022 18:32

@vallmo47 thank you for sharing. Its helpful to know that someone else has been there and come out the otherwise. The plan is to try and keep me at home, I've got an appointment to go over meds on Monday as mine need changing.

I had slept/rested a lot today, my appointment with the crisis team went really well. Struggling so much with dissociation, it's been bad for the last few months. But right now I'm just not real. It's awful.

Nc123 · 21/01/2022 19:04

I am sad. Really sad.

My husband and I are usually very, very happy and get on brilliantly. We’re currently trying to decide what to do about moving house, and are - for the first time - very divided on the issue. It’s made me realise how much of the mental load I carry and how much easier my life could be if I was to move nearer my mum, which DH doesn’t want to do. I’m sad that for someone who loves me, he doesn’t care enough to make my life so much easier, and I’m sad because I know so many couples and families who have made a big move together in a spirit of adventure and I don’t have that.

It’s really made me question how happy we really are and I’m gutted about that.

MrJollyLivesNextDoor · 21/01/2022 19:50

I just found out this evening that my lovely sister in law has been diagnosed with MND

I'm devastated

Vallmo47 · 21/01/2022 20:08

@Intothelight123 and everyone else struggling right now …. Take it one hour at a time. We can get through.

Wrongkindofovercoat · 21/01/2022 20:22

Mine is an absolute shit show, I am not going to talk about it because it won't make the slightest bit of difference and pretending none of it is happening is the one thing currently keeping me borderline sane.

I actually feel better for saying that, so thank you @Notdoingthis Smile

Wrongkindofovercoat · 21/01/2022 20:35

Also I see a lot of people dealing with what bloodywhitecat is dealing with and it has a grounding effect, yes I have struggles but at least I have the option to change things that aren't working, when I eventually summon up the courage/time/energy to do so.

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Notdoingthis · 21/01/2022 21:41

Thank you for checking in and looking out for each other. Here's to an uneventful weekend x

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Intothelight123 · 22/01/2022 15:25

Today hasn't been great, I've slept quite a lot as I've just been feeling so unwell.

Got a crisis team appointment at 4 and I really dont have energy for it today.

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Notdoingthis · 22/01/2022 16:03

I hope it is helpful.

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PotatoGoblins · 22/01/2022 16:13

Mine is a mixture of very happy and very sad right now.
My marriage ended last year, and it was definitely the right thing. I’ve been happier generally since.
I’m navigating life in a new area, co-parenting with my exh and working, and I feel like I’m doing well so far.
I’ve met a wonderful man, who treats me like an absolute goddess - it’s very early days, but for now he makes me happy so I’m just going with it and see where it goes.
And now onto the bad stuff….I shit on a friend a couple of months ago when I was in a very bad place mentally. I did such a horrible thing when I was at my lowest, I can’t quite believe I let it happen. But I did. That friendship has been destroyed and it’s going to take a while for me to get past it and forgive myself for it.
I was sexually assaulted at work a couple of weeks ago. A minor assault, but an assault all the same. It shook me up, and has really put a downer on a job that I used to enjoy. Now I just feel uncomfortable and on edge while I’m there, but leaving and finding a new job isn’t really an option right now because the hours work perfectly around the time the DCs split with me and their dad Sad

Cottagepieandpeas · 22/01/2022 18:22

@Intothelight123

Today hasn't been great, I've slept quite a lot as I've just been feeling so unwell.

Got a crisis team appointment at 4 and I really dont have energy for it today.

How did you get on @Intothelight123 ?
Cottagepieandpeas · 22/01/2022 18:23

@teacherintraining I hope your op went ok Flowers

MackenCheese · 22/01/2022 18:39

Thanks for the lovely thread! I'm OK, 50ish. Really loving my wfh job. Son 14 is hard work but he's just had his teeth braces removed, so I'm happy this week. DD had excellent feedback from teachers this week at parents evening.
Dh and I live separately, as we just couldn't get along. I just find him irrationally irritating and borderline abusive to me and dc, but OK to see him twice a week or so to help with the kids.
It works for us. Just all watching The Greatest Showman on TV and thinking about dinner..

CloseEncountersOfTheTurdKind · 22/01/2022 18:51

I'm starting counselling next week after a really long wait on the NHS waiting list. I'm hoping it will help me work through some experiences and abuse from my childhood that still affect me today. I want to be the best mum I can for my kids. I'm also waiting for a date for surgery one of my kids need, so that's quite nerve-wracking!

Mummyof279 · 22/01/2022 19:07

I'm a bit down today. Have 2 amazing daughters. Partner gets angry occasionally when riled by his family. So fed up of it but not working currently so don't know what to do. He's normally a great husband but occasionally has outbursts. Shouted at my eldest yesterday and made her cry. I think she my ight have ASD and thinking of getting her assessed but he doesnt, he thinks she is just naughty. So stressed with it all.

Hb12 · 22/01/2022 19:20

Hi all, hope you're all doing ok 👍

All ok here, busy as ever. Can't decide between a couple of jobs. Currently work in a school, 30 hrs per week. Part of the job hugely stressful, not sure I'm cut out for it. Have asked about dropping that part, but am nervous that technically my contract runs out in summer due to ehcp funding. I would hope they'd find more for me but not sure.

Have been offered 37 hrs a week, office based, in another school. Would love the job, but money not all that and would be a juggle with kids, especially the youngest who starts reception in September, and would need wraparound care after. 🤔

teacherintraining · 22/01/2022 21:21

Thanks @Cottagepieandpeas - I think it went well. Time will tell but for today I'm feeling good.

DH took the kids out for the day so I could rest and I made a beautiful loaf of bread from scratch. Not done that before and it was so therapeutic!

@Intothelight123 I hope you got on ok at your appointment?

@PotatoGoblins so lovely that you have a wonderful new person in your life! But sorry that you have had to go through abuse at work. Have you been able to talk to someone IRL about it?

@CloseEncountersOfTheTurdKind fingers crossed the counselling gives you what you need to begin to process your experiences.

@Mummyof279 might it be worth talking to your dds school about potential ASD? The SENCO there might be able to help initially and maybe if it comes from someone else, your DH might be more open to an assessment?

Off for an early night, full of fresh bread....

CloseEncountersOfTheTurdKind · 22/01/2022 22:12

@teacherintraining thankyou.
So lovely that your DH took the kids out to give you a rest. And the bread sounds yummy!

ErinAoife · 22/01/2022 22:21

I am down.wonder what I am doing with my life. Separated with kids that I don't control, ex husband is no help. I have spent 25 years with him and he wrote me off without any issue, he left me and two months later he was already with someone else. Work is very stressful, most days I cried. I struggle more when the kids is with their dad, I can't help thinking that they will be better off without me, I am bitter and resentful that ex husband is having the time of his life, I always thought we were having a rough patch and we will be back together.

PinkJacketBlueGlasses · 22/01/2022 22:28

My beloved dog died two days ago. I feel scooped out and hollow but also still in shock (it was very quick).

Nothing seems good in life without him, he was my ray of sunshine.

Wisteriahills · 22/01/2022 22:39

My DH got a letter yesterday giving him the all-clear after a biopsy in December. I am so thrilled - he started investigations in June, the month after my Dad died suddenly and I felt so worried. He is downstairs watching tv and playing chess with my son, am so grateful for something normal.

I have also just started a really stressful job and am secretly worried that I am not up to it. I have a team of 20 people looking to me to sort out a whole load of messes and a PA for the first time. Didn''t realise that my job was as high profile in the organisation as it seems to be, and am panicking a bit.

WiserMe · 22/01/2022 22:45

@Intothelight123

Im having psychotic episodes, I've had a GP appointment, social worker visit and a crisis team visit today. I'm very unwell.

Thank you for the thread, it's really helpful to just tell someone what's happening!

I hope the support visits helped ,even if only a tiny bit. Wish you well.

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Notdoingthis · 23/01/2022 00:58

Thank you all for sharing your ups and downs. Busy weekend here but I will read and respond more tomorrow.

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Intothelight123 · 23/01/2022 09:41

For those asking, the appointment went OK. Today I need to get myself washed and dressed, house tidied, and out to the park for an hour. Feeling pretty anxious about it all tbh

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