What is going on in your life?

[Notdoingthis]

Would you like to offload? I am pretty busy but happy to check in and see how people are. I know sometimes we all just need a sounding board. Hope everyone is ok.

@cottagepieandpeas you commented on my thread when I was suicidal and you were so kind. The police came round as a direct result of me posting on MN and were just in time as I was getting ready to drop my daughter off first. I'm getting help now. Everyone on that thread was so amazing and I felt so much less alone.

Thats great news about the job! I'm so pleased for you. I really hope you get it and are much happier.

@pasdelacasa thank you, everyone on here is so kind. I'm hoping for a peaceful night. Oh no! I'm so sorry you had COVID how awful! Glad you're on the mend

I got smacked on the head by my garage door. I am by turns tearful and outraged.

I have a dilemma with the family. My Dad has a new partner as in met her first week in Jan. I think he needs to get to know her better but anyway she is a relation of my (not so dear) BIL. I don’t want to meet her have no interest but I’m being made out to be a bitch about it as in I don’t want him to be happy. I couldn’t give a rats arse who he dated if he’s happy - then great, means I don’t need to entertain him so much Basically my sister Slags everyone off - even this lady in question previously. I know she does it about me my dad tells me, so if she has run me down to my dad she defo has run me down to this woman. My dilemma is do I carry on insisting I don’t want to meet her don’t want a “stranger” round my kids. Or do I go in and be myself so my sister looks the twat - I also don’t want her reporting back what I have. I’ve worked hard and have a lovely home a beautiful family and in general my life is pretty good and I count my blessing. It will be said my dad bought all what I have or I’m robbing him to live in the house we do. I just don’t want to be involved in drama that’s the crux of it somehow it attracts to me like flies round shit. I can’t see why my dad can’t have his time with the lady and part a of the family and then come here for time with us part B separately for the time being at least they hardly know each other I just don’t think family parties should be being organised this early!?. Thanks for getting to end. And please be honest as I don’t know what to do.

@Myhairbobblesnapped - why don't you want to meet her? You might actually like her!

@Intothelight123 thanks! I’m so pleased things are a bit better for you now. It can really help to know there are people around thinking of you, even when it’s an Internet forum! I hope you get your peaceful night.

@Cottagepieandpeas - I can help with your anxiety if you want (see above!)

Just had my appendix out and told I have pelvic inflammatory disease which they found whilst down there!
In lots of pain. Pissed off.
Worried about the implications as they said there was a lot of scarring and fluid around the tubes! I’m currently laying in bed with a head full of thoughts.
Feel better already for writing this down 😊

Thanks for asking!

Xxx

My dearest friend got buried today, she was a very very special lady, and the only person i had to talk to.. so feeling very lost atm.

I also had 9 jobs last year, and vowed not to work my arse off this year, but it seems to be ramping up again.. all i do is work, and my life is slipping away..

Rant over!

Oh @Jellykat how dreadful. How was the funeral? Were you with others who loved your friend?

What a nice thread .

Am feeling a bit unsettled at the moment. My job has a fairly finite end date - 30 years and you leave - and on my work team , my peers with the same level of service are starting to go . I’ve noticed people from my own intake in retirement notices and worse , death in service notices and it’s … I don’t know really , almost a reminder of my own mortality , as it were .Much as I complain about it , and make no mistake, I do , it’s all I’ve ever really known .

Oh I am so sorry to hear of all the terribly hard things you are dealing with. So awful to lose a close friend. Please all be kind to yourselves. It can be so hard but is so short and precious. I taught literature to a very small A Level class today and felt so privileged. If you are interested look up the poem 'Instantes' by Borges. He sounds lucky to have got to 85, but he did suffer much hardship too.

I'm in bed with Covid which I caught from my son (he's better now). Really struggling to deal with him, as he's autistic he doesn't believe I'm unwell because he no longer feels unwell. Feeling sorry for myself that he finds it hard to understand others feelings or sympathise when I feel so rotten.

Jellykat,

I’m so sorry about your friend. I lost my best friend to covid last year . We’d been partners in crime for nearly 40 years , and even now , I still go to my phone to call her most days because I just have never had life without her .

Illness is hard. I have a lot of respect for carers since my husband's injury! X

You are all very much in my thoughts. I am sorry to hear of Covid suffering. I have been very much protected from this as I am not very close to anyone vulnerable.

Yes YummyPumpkin she was adored by everyone who met her from all around the world, so i was very very lucky to have spent so much time with her, but in a way its harder because she was a big part of my weekly life.

Oh plominoagain, i'm so sorry about your friend too, its so so hard.
i cant watch certain tv programmes because we'd always natter about them, so i totally understand.

The worse thing is my friend had no family, so i have to go into her house to check all is well and water the plants etc for the foreseeable.. but shes not there anymore.

I know I’m missing people out but these resonated with me…
@Jellykat I’ve been there. It’s hard. It gets easier, but at the same time it never really does. Focus on how privileged you were to have that relationship.
@Intothelight123 it’s a real achievement that you realise you’re unwell. Hold onto that x

[quote cheapskatemum]@Marmelace "guilty feet have got no rhythm" or do you really mean there's a physical reason why you won't be dancing?[/quote]
I'll have that stuck in my head now lol

I'm better this morning, posting all that was rather cathartic, enabled me to have my first proper cry in a long time. Today I'm channeling my inner phoenix.

Thanks for asking. I'm doing ok. Was diagnosed with breast cancer last Sept, had it removed, half way through short course of chemo, mercifully so few side effects that I haven't had to tell dc (lone mum) and am working full time. Feeling pretty good.
Have pulled myself together & stopped thinking the worst. Making plans for when chemo & covid are over and we can start having fun again

@Jellykat I’m so sorry for your loss Sounds like you had a lovely friendship. In the words of the lovely Winnie The Pooh - “How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.”

@Notdoingthis Lovely thread OP! Life is a bit hectic for us right now. I’ve gone back to work part time after having out first DC. I love my job but 3 months after going back I’m still feeling very unsettled about leaving our little one! DH works away from home so is away 5 weeks then home 5 weeks. Lovely to have so much time together when he’s home (he’s off work during his time home) and he gets so much more quality time with our child but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t finding things difficult. On the plus side - we think it might be time for a new family house Ive been wanting to get out of here for a while but DH wasnt sure. We discussed it again a few weeks ago and he agreed that we’d get some valuations then make a decision from there. We have done no work to the property other than basic decor changes (paint/flooring etc)and normal maintenance so we were expecting and hoping that it would go back on the market for around what we paid for it - and the estate agents have recommended a listing value at 1.5x what we paid due to the limited availability in our village 😳🥳
I thought DH was going to pack a bag and hand her the keys there and then 🤣🤣
Have warned him not to get too excited and have booked another couple of valuations just incase she’s way overshooting but they’re a very reputable and well used estate agent in our area so fingers crossed 🤞🏼😬

I have my periods

Well done Marmalace and MintJulia, such positivity! You sound strong.
Many of us seem to be overwhelmed with daily life. Time for me to raise the troops. Thank goodness it is Friday. Hope everyone has a good day.

I am not OK, we have had a rough coupe of years and every time I think "It can't get worse" it does. First off DH was diagnosed with cancer, a cancer that has just a 3% chance of 5 year survival without spread and by the time he was finally diagnosed it had spread (thanks covid) so he was given 6-12 months with chemo. He did OK on chemo, no real clinical results but he felt good, was still living a decent life. Then he had a massive stroke late last year, the tumours are growing rapidly again and he has new areas affected. He spent almost a month in hospital while I fought to get him home. He came home just before Christmas. Then this week he fell from the bed and has broken his leg. In two places. I am fighting again to get the right care package in place so he can die at home. Every day he has less appetite and he looks a little more yellow. He can't speak so trying to figure out what he is trying to communicate is hard. Watching him die slowly is just awful.